Vanessa Van Edwards gives a script for setting boundaries after toxic relationships: "I'm having so much fun. Is it okay if we take it slow?" She explains how to keep it playful and explicit, letting someone know your pace without shutting them down.
If you've been in a toxic relationship, if you've been abused and you're not there, like, you're into the person. But like, don't touch me. The script you can use is I'm having so much fun. Is it okay if we take it slow? So saying to a physical flirter, I want to take it slow. They hear, cool. They're into me. Nice. I don't need to keep pursuing physically. Right. And you can even be specific. Like kind of an old fashioned girly. I like it slow. Might have to work up to hand holding. We'll see if we get there. Like, make it playful. You just say, I need to take it slow. Like, we have to be able to say that. And that's a great thing for a physical person to hear because they're like, got it. I get any direction.
