Vanessa Van Edwards breaks seduction into push and pull. Push is oxytocin from physical touch, creating safety and connection. Pull is dopamine, the craving chemical that drives excitement and pursuit. Master both and you become more seductive.
Seduction is a system, and if you know how to hack the system, you can be seductive if you wish to. Push-pull. We're trying to assess: are you going to excite me? Am I going to remember you? Am I going to feel safe with you? Am I going to feel connected with you? This push-pull idea is the idea of this play between dopamine and oxytocin. All the oxytocin things that happens if we cheek kiss or hug or handshake or we kiss, we're going to have lots of oxytocin, and that's going to push us into that beautiful feeling of how I really like this person. I feel so connected to this person. The pull is dopamine. It's the chemical of excitement, of motivation. If you're pulled towards someone, they're triggering that chemical that makes you feel like, I want more. It's very central to the craving part of our brain. Seduction is about craving. That is actually dopamine. It's the chemical of wanting, of needing more. And that's that pull.
