Vanessa Van Edwards shares three ways to lead conversations: use someone's name repeatedly to show respect, announce how many points you'll make to stay organized, and remember personal details like their favorite sports team or coffee preference to seem genuinely interested.
The more you use people's names, the more it shows you remember them and you want to address them. So here are a couple of tips to sound smart in conversation. Verbally organize. So they'll say, "I want to talk about 3 different things today," and hold up their fingers, say 3. It also is smart because it helps people not interrupt you. Use people's names. And this is important because the more you use people's names, the more it shows you remember them and you want to address them. Remember as much as you can about the person. Specific details are better. So really smart people and caring people think about the person they're with and remember a lot of details about them. So if someone's married or has kids, has a favorite sports team, likes a certain way they take their coffee, try to make a mental note or a physical note. The more you can remember and ask, it shows you care, you're smart enough to remember, and that makes you super captivating.
