Vanessa Van Edwards breaks social skills into trainable micro-skills like openers and vocal power, each tied to specific brain regions. Practice one skill at a time with AI tools until it becomes automatic, so you stop overthinking in real conversations.
So what I want you to do instead is, just like we do at the gym, we have to isolate first. You have to sort of think of social skills as muscles, like openers— that's like a bicep— responding with vocal power, a tricep, being able to prime well, quads, in the sense of all of those are micro social skills that have to be exercised. We use different parts of our brain for each of them. They've identified that we use the fusiform face area to identify and read facial expressions. That's a very specific part of our brain, but if it's not exercised, it is hard, right? Like, talk about overload, talk about overthinking, because it's literally like lifting for that muscle for the first time. What are the muscles that you want to use? And those are the ones I I want you to practice so when you get into the room you're doing less overthinking, it's more like automatic muscle memory. I don't really think about hand gestures anymore because it's muscle memory. I used to think a lot about vocal power, but now I'm very used to speaking in my lower register, so I don't think about it anymore. Same thing I want to do for you. Pick one skill at a time. That is why we have all the AI practice skills, by the way. I want you to practice it with these AI tools because there's no risk, and then you're able to sort of flex that muscle with no pressure first.
