Vanessa Van Edwards shows how believing you're lucky or unlucky shapes your life. Unlucky people blame broken coffee machines and red lights on bad fortune. Lucky people, even when stuck, point to their own productivity or procrastination as the real barrier.
Are you lucky? The answer to this question will dictate the kind of luck you have. If you feel that you're unlucky, life is going to be stickier, it's going to run less smoothly, and you're going to be looking for missed opportunities. I ask people in my research, are you lucky or unlucky? Unlucky people, they sound like this: Ugh, today, first, coffee machine broken. Second, just hit every red light all the way to work. It's that narrative, but with everything. That narrative is woven. It's like the grittiness of their life. That unluckiness is causing all this stuckness. And when I ask them, do you feel where you are where you want to be in your life? They always say no. And then I ask them, what is stopping you? And it's never them. Now, lucky people, I ask, oh, like, do you feel stuck? Some of them do. But then when I ask them, what's stopping you? A lot of the times they say, myself, my productivity, I gotta get over this thing that I'm having, you know, I've been really procrastinating. And so to begin to think about, how do you answer that question? Do you feel stuck? And who's in the way? Is it you, or is it someone else, or is it something else?
