Vanessa Van Edwards says most people never hear specific compliments, so notice details like someone's glasses or virtual background and comment on them. You'll boost their confidence and stand out as socially intelligent.
If you think something weirdly nice about someone, say it out loud. The more specific, the better. I love working with you on these types of projects. Or your energy made me feel so welcome. Or I always know you'll explain something in a way that I resonate with. Or I always feel so calm around you. Most people walk around wondering what others think of them. Very few people actually hear the good stuff, and very, very few people hear non-obvious compliments. So be the person who notices the weird stuff and then says something. I especially love to compliment people on something I know they probably spent their time or energy on. Someone has a custom virtual background, I'm gonna compliment and ask how they got inspired for it. Someone has unique glasses, I'm gonna ask where they got the frames and why they picked that fabulous shade of purple. The best part? Compliments don't just boost other people's confidence, they strengthen connection instantly. People remember how you made them feel. Notice the stuff no one else notices and say something. I'm Vanessa Van Edwards. Follow for more people skills and consider joining my advanced course, People School, if you want to level up your social intelligence. Comment school for more details.
