Vanessa Van Edwards breaks down the "triple threat" framework for nailing first impressions in ten seconds: use purposeful hand gestures to keep people engaged, take up space with an open posture to signal confidence, and lock in direct eye contact or look at the camera to create an immediate connection.
The first impression matters most. So how you show up for a phone conversation, a video conversation, in person conversation, your body language actually changes how you sound and how you speak and definitely how you're perceived. The triple threat. The triple threat is what we need to do in the first few seconds of a conversation to show we have confidence, to show that we are worth being listened to. And it's in three different steps. First step, hands. Our gestures are incredibly important for comprehension. Second part of the triple threat, your posture. We very quickly decide how confident someone is based on how much space they're taking up. Last part of the triple threat is super easy. It's your. Your gaze. Very clearly, research has found is that when we first meet someone or first see someone, we really want to make eye contact. But for our purposes, it creates connection. So make eye contact with the person the first few seconds or the video camera to make sure you're creating that chemical connection.
