Transcript excerpt from a YouTube conversation where Vanessa Van Edwards explains that mismatched conscientiousness (high vs low) is a primary source of relationship friction. High-conscientious partners prefer detailed planning and routines; low-conscientious partners prefer big-picture, spontaneous approaches. The speakers discuss examples (vacation planning) and suggest optimizing by leveraging complementary strengths.
You have a difference in your partner's conscientiousness, you have the most relationship problems. High conscientious people, we love to do details, alphabetizing steps, routine. Like we love, like lots of things. Low conscientiousness, big ideas. Strategy doesn't want to get bogged down in the details. And so what happens is, is you have people who are like, hey, let's plan a vacation. I have a color coded spreadsheet with all the different possible locations and approximate weather in those locations. And then you have low conscientious person who's like, let's just focus, fly to a place and figure it out when we get there. But.
Here'S the thing, because I love big ideas and I love strategizing about them, but I know as an athlete you've got to execute on a daily basis if you want to make them happen.
That is so free trade theory, I optimize. I know that details are important. That is a great example of how you could take what you naturally are and then free trade theory, optimize it so that you leverage it up.
