Trying to change someone's personality is futile since 35 to 55 percent is genetic and the rest forms in early childhood. Instead, optimize your own traits and negotiate specific differences with shared language, like agreeing to try new foods while keeping other routines the same.
35–55%
The biggest mistake is we hope that we can make someone better. The problem is we are wired a certain way. 35 to 55% of our personality is genetic. The rest is shaped in early childhood. You can optimize parts of your personality to achieve your goal. It is much better to figure out how can I work with my partner, colleague, friends, resource language, need or personality in a better way? People in a relationship it would be better to be like for the high open person to be like hey, really important to me to be adventurous with food. Chinese restaurants is a thing. Is that okay with you? I'm totally okay with having the morning routine be the same, having our grocery shopping be the same but on this area that makes me feel we're going somewhere different. Exactly. We don't always negotiate in that way and as soon as you have the language it makes it a non hot button issue.
