Vanessa Van Edwards identifies two body language signals that make people read you as confident and successful: an expanded posture and distance between your ear and shoulder. A closed, shrunken posture signals fear or insecurity. Adopting these physical cues deliberately can shift how others perceive your competence and friendliness.
Second, winner body language. This is really hard, and people get mad at me when I say this. But people are deciding if you're a winner or a loser. Like, instantly? I know, it's hard. Instantly. Wow. Because winners across cultures and genders and races, we make the same body language when we feel good. We spread our body. We have a lot of distance between our ear and our shoulder. So watch this. If I were to do my entire interview like this, you would not trust me. You'd be like, well, she looks so scared and cold. I'm shrinky. Get her a jacket. Yeah. Or a blanket. Right, so we want to make sure two distances— it's weird. These are weird, OK? OK. I want to see a lot of distance between your ear and your shoulder. It immediately signals I'm confident, I'm nice and relaxed.
