Vanessa Van Edwards says the word "hey" works best for flirting when delivered with an "invitation" vocal tone that signals warmth and openness. People trust how you sound over what you say, so a genuine, inviting tone matters more than the words themselves.
There's one single most important thing that a woman can say when she's flirting. What is it? Hey. The way that I said it is important. Now listen to the difference, okay? Hey, I'm impatient, bored, what do you got for me? Versus hey, right? That's an invitation signaling availability, signaling openness in one single word. And the way you say it, I want you to think about using invitation vocal tone. This is with hey, hello, nice to meet you, it's such a pleasure, I've been so looking forward to this. The way you say your words is just as important as what you say. And a classic example I give at work is people will show up on a call or in front of a meeting or presentation and they go, "Hi everyone, I'm so happy to be here." No, you're not. And we all can hear it. So your words matter, but not as much as your tone. And we are always more likely to believe tone. So as you are speaking, as you're sharing who you are and what you love, use a tone of openness and warmth and invitation.
