Vanessa Van EdwardsScience of People, Science Of People · Behavioral Researcher, Founder, Author, Harvard Instructor

The ONLY Marriage Tip You Need 😂

10 Apr 2026 · 0 min

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In this short YouTube segment, behavior‑hacker Vanessa Van Edwards shares her favorite marriage hack, honed over 20 years of partnership and 14 years of marriage. She explains that she occasionally asks her husband, Scott, questions whose answers she already knows, because he enjoys demonstrating knowledge and feeling smart. By prompting him with low‑stakes trivia—such as the meaning of “STR” (short‑term rental), his opinion on self‑driving cars, and a playful query about the Holy Roman Empire—she gives him a chance to showcase expertise, which reinforces his sense of appreciation and strengthens their connection. The clip blends humor with a practical relational strategy, illustrating how small, intentional interactions can boost partner satisfaction.

Here's my favorite marriage hack after 20 years together and 14 years of marriage. I'm Vanessa Van Edwards and I'm a behavior hacker. Sometimes I ask my hubby a question that I already know the answer to because he loves to be smart and share facts like this. So Scott, what's an STR?
Well, STR stands for short-term rental. Nice.
Like this. Scott, what do you think of self-driving cars?
Oh, well, they're clearly the future. Way to go.
Or this one. So what do you think of the Holy Roman Empire?
I think you're probably referring to the Roman Empire. Follow for more tips!