Vanessa Van Edwards breaks down three nonverbal cues that shape first impressions in ten seconds: visible hand gestures, open body language with space between ear and shoulder, and strong eye contact. These signals make you appear confident and competent, and feeling like a winner changes how others see you.
This is in the first 10 seconds that someone sees you or starts talking to you, you need to show 3 things. First, hand gesture, we got it, visible hands. Second, winner body language. People are deciding if you're a winner or a loser. Like instantly? Instantly. Wow. Because winners across cultures and genders and races, we make the same body language when we feel good. We spread our body, we have a lot of distance between our ear and our shoulder. If I were to do my entire interview like this, you would not trust me. We wanna make sure 2 distances, it's weird. I wanna see a lot of distance between your ear and your shoulder. It immediately signals I'm confident, I'm nice and relaxed. And second, I wanna see distance between your arm and your torso. Do not shrink for anyone. Claim your space 'cause it shows them, "I'm a winner," and you know what? It makes you feel like a winner. Third part of the triple threat is eye contact. You have to make sure you are making eye contact in those first few seconds. So when I'm meeting you, I'm shaking your hand, we're saying hi, and then I'm delivering because we are now producing the chemical of connection. Doesn't that feel good? Mm-hmm.
