Vanessa Van Edwards says the difference between manipulation and charisma is intention. Changing how you come across to deceive people is manipulation. Changing it to honestly show your warmth and competence is charisma.
Is it manipulative to change our cues? There is a very fine line between manipulation and being charismatic, and the line is intention. If your intention is to trick people with fake warmth and fake competence, that is absolutely manipulative. If your intention is to showcase your actual warmth and your actual competence and do good by being better, that is being authentically charismatic. So your intention is the difference.
