Vishen Lakhiani and Linda demonstrate how to flirt with eye contact and body language. Men should scan the room, return a gaze, smile, nod, then look away. Hold eye contact for no more than 4 seconds to avoid making someone uncomfortable.
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Yeah, when Sonia's doing that, it's making me melt.
Are you ready? Yeah, do like I do, honey. Look at Vishen. It makes it easy. Okay, I'm looking at Vishen.
I have to turn off. I have to turn off. Okay. All right, ladies, this stuff works.
Okay? So then, Vishen, you tell me if it works on you. Okay? Don't forget, you gotta tilt through because we're not in business. We're not in business now, because that says when the head tilt, I want them to see the longness of the neck and just stroke right like you just did. Oh, that's beautiful. Click, click, click, honey. Okay, go ahead.
Okay, I gotta. I gotta eat some chocolate to just get my mind off Sonia's neck. Yeah, that stuff works. Sonia.
Go ahead, Sonia. I want all the neck.
I can't look at the camera anymore.
Okay, go ahead, Sonya, go ahead.
If I see a woman that I'm intrigued by and I want to approach her and do that magic that one of the female volunteers did on me, that make me melt. What is the male version of that?
So there's a technique we're going to call recognize and acknowledge. And so when you see that woman, that catches your eye and you're attracted to, you know, you don't want to do this, fellows. You don't want to do this. Like this. Look. Too soon. Okay, that's too soon. That's too soon. It's like the past the courting stage, baby. Let's just go to the room. No, that's too soon. So you don't want to do that, but what you want to do, you want to. So you want to recognize her. Okay? And I want. This is very important for the men and ladies. This is a secret that really all men want. And they'll never verbalize it because that's not how they operate. And that's what we're going to teach them. But I want you to look at the woman and watch this fella. So you're in a situation. You captured a woman of your eye, and there are other women in the room. Okay, watch this. So a man scanned the room. Scan the room. Scan the room. You looked at her, and then you're looking at her. You're leaning in, and then you do the slow smile, and then you nod and you look away. Don't hold them. Don't. Don't hold the glass. Then you look away. Now, watch what I'm saying. When the man. When, fellows, when you look away, you look away and you come back to her. You smile Again. And then you nod. What did I just do? There's a room full of women. I caught her eye. I made her feel special. I looked around the room, and there's a singer by the name of Patti LaBelle. And there's a line in her song that says, I've been looking around all around. And you were here all along. So the man just looked around the room, and he's back to you. And he smiles and then looks away. Now, the ladies, when he smiles, now, he recognized you. That's called recognition. You must acknowledge it back quickly. That's the key. Acknowledge it back quickly. So when he looks around, because you're checking him out, too. Cause he's looking good, too. You're going, hey, he's looking good, too. And then when he comes back, then, ladies, this is how you do. Watch this. When you acknowledge, it's like saying, it's okay. It's okay. You're going like this. Notice I said yes. Don't go like this. That's dismissal. You're going like this. And then you look away. Okay, but that's the thing, fellas. I want you because. Don't do the. Don't do the stare. You know, some men, they. You know, I've been out to the club. Some men go like this. That makes people. Makes a woman feel uncomfortable. Because now we're getting not into a gaze, we're getting into a stare. Anything over 4 seconds is too uncomfortable. That's why you look away.
All right, so, Linda, what. What about, you know, after the first look away? What if you. You lose her eye contact? What if she's glancing somewhere else?
Okay, so if she loses her eye contact, then you do the stroll. And the stroll is you're walking in her sight of you. You don't walk over there to her. So now let's say I'm across the room, catch your eye, and then you look, right? And then I'm going, hey, Sandy. Hey, Estea. Girl, we're going out, come here to seat for you. And then I missed it. And then next thing you know, you come back around, say, the bar is right there, whatever. And you're right in my vision level. Now. That sends a message. He's coming after me.
Got it?
Men don't do that. They're just waiting for her to look around to catch the attention. Honey, go out and get it. Go out and get that thing. But do it in a way that it's so. It's a dance. It's so seductive.
