Vishen Lakhiani explains Wayne Dyer's approach: change your thoughts first, and your life follows. He uses a water metaphor to show how softness and fluidity work better than force, sharing stories about parenting and habits to show the idea in action.
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Change your thoughts, change your life by Wayne Dyer. What can you do in two hours? Watch a good movie, have a full spa body massage, Play around at nine holes of golf? How about changing your life? Did I hear you guys groan and go, oh, no? Changing my behavior, retraining myself, getting new habits. It all seems like so much hard work. It seems like such a rocky road to get to the place that's supposed to be happy and joyous. Well, fret not, because this two hours, it's got nothing to do with changing your life. It's got everything to do with changing your thoughts. Because when you change your thoughts, your life automatically changes for you. How about that kind of shift? I really adore Wayne Dyer because the man is so funny. And as someone who can actually make you laugh at the silliness of your own humanness, is someone who's actually gonna get through those walls that we put up and help us actually fix things and get on with life the way we want to live it. One of the things that struck me about this particular program was all about learning to be fluid and soft, being rigid, not set concrete rules. And one of the things that came to mind was actually when I was pregnant, I had my son, and my mother gave me Nigella Lawson's how to Be a Domestic Goddess, thinking I would be my son's domestic goddess. And one part of her book talked about basically not setting rigid rules to create unhealthy behaviors with kids and eating, but to actually add things like chocolate into the whole food group. So it was part of it. It had its place in food and meals in general. And so therefore, it was never a treat, never a bribe. So special. And so therefore, unlike other kids who come to the house or came to my house, who used to have the strict rule of never being able to have sugar or never being able to have treats unless they do something good, would gorge on the chocolate in the house and actually feel positively ill. I actually was able to raise my son with thinking about chocolate the same way he thinks about apples. So I really hit home with that one. One of Wayne Dyer's actual examples, though, and this is so crystal clear, was his example of water. Have you ever tried to grab water, go in with force and hard? The harder you squeez quicker, the water all spurts out and you don't get water. But using your same implement or tool and going in gently and soft and fluid, you can actually cup the water up and bring it to your mouth and actually drink from it. And that visual sort of metaphor was so powerful, it radically changed and shifted something inside of me. Not to be a stickler for the rules, because if you create rigid rules, you create rule breakers, which is not the way to go when you want harmony in your life. So this program. Two hours. And it's gonna change your life because it's gonna change your Sam.
