How To Design Your Dream Life By Jon & Missy Butcher

The instant you choose to start living your life on your own terms, that's when everything changes. It's been more than 30 years since we made the decision to live a life that's uniquely ours. Designed and directed by us, no one else. And we've never looked back since.

We're living in Hawaii now, in the process of creating our new life vision together, building our new home here, while also running our business remotely from this beautiful place. We are happier than we have ever been in our lives. And that's saying a lot.

But it wasn't always like this. And this didn't happen by luck or by accident. This was a choice. We made a conscious decision to design our life this way. And this is it. This is the story of how we made it happen. In my early 30s, I was focused mostly on building my career in our financial life. We'd gone from rags to riches to really big business almost overnight. I was running multiple companies, pouring my energy into my career. And I was in that work hard, play hard mentality, not taking care of myself, physically partying like a rock star, burning the candle at both ends, ignoring the danger signals. And then one day, just before heading into an important board meeting, I experienced a severe anxiety attack that ended up generalizing into an anxiety disord that had me housebound for two months, completely shut down.

That was the most difficult thing we'd ever been through, Truly a turning point in our lives. It was the proverbial wake up call for us. And we knew things would never be the same as they were before. We knew something needed to change.

I was about as low as a person could go, literally not able to function from day to day. Couldn't go to work, couldn't go to a restaurant, couldn't drive a car. It was horrible. Well, my dad was watching late night info commercials on TV one night and he bought me my first personal development program because he thought it might help me. That was my very first experience with personal development of any kind. And it felt like exactly what I needed. So I started diving deep and it was really helping. Well, I kept all my notes from those programs that I was doing in a little black notebook. All my goals, my strategies, the most important things that I was learning. And I took that little notebook everywhere with me. Everywhere I went. One page became 10, then 50, then 100. And I called that little book my lifebook. Well, that's where Lifebook as we know it was first born.

What started out as a simple tool to lessen John's severe anxiety became one of the biggest gifts we had ever been given. The catalyst for creating our extraordinary life. We felt like we were starting from ground zero. So we looked at this as an opportunity to build a conscious foundation to our life. From the ground up, it felt like we were standing in front of a huge white canvas that we could paint any way we wanted. So it was time to decide exactly.

What we did want. So we really thought about that. And when we looked around us at our community and at the culture we were living in, we realized pretty quickly that most people aren't happy. They're overwhelmed and exhausted and frustrated and stuck. We resolved that we weren't going to run that program in our lives. For most couples, the romance spark goes out after just a few years of being in a relationship together. And that's not going to happen to us. Most parents really don't know their kids that well. Most people put on a few pounds every year over the course of their entire adult lives and end up overweight. Most people are stuck in a job they don't like. Well, we decided early on none of that is going to happen to us. That's not the way we're going to live our life.

We realized that it was up to us to take full responsibility to create our life exactly the way we wanted it. And that would mean we need to look deep inside and ask ourselves some very important questions.

We deeply thought through the vision for our own extraordinary life. Our vision, no one else's. We wanted to create an epic love affair that would last a lifetime. A love relationship that could serve as the foundation for our entire lives. We wanted to be extraordinary parents. We wanted to be in excellent physical shape. We wanted a successful career that would create financial abundance for us. In other words, we wanted it all. And we clearly defined what that meant to us.

And now here we are, living that life we imagined so many years ago. Our epic love, Our growing family, Meaningful work, health, wealth, success and fulfillment. And all the categories. We are living proof that it is possible to achieve your dream life if you are willing to do what it takes to make it happen.

So if you're interested in creating an extraordinary life for yourself, here are some of the biggest nuggets of wisdom that we've learned over the years. First of all, you've got to create a life vision for yourself. One that's true to you, your very own North Star. Because believe me, if you don't have your own life vision, someone else is going to step in and create one for you and take you down their road. Your Path in life is either going to be one that you consciously design and create for yourself, or it's going to be a path that you unconsciously handed over to someone else to create for you.

Take responsibility for yourself and question everything that doesn't serve you or align with your life vision. You are in the driver's seat of your own life. You are the decision maker at the center of your own existence. No one else is. No one else can do this for you. Stand up and take control so you can move from the passenger seat to the driver's seat of your own life.

Another thing we realize is that it makes absolutely no sense to sacrifice one part of your life for another. Your life is made up of way more than just your financial life and your career. And those are the two categories most people spend most of their time on. But There are only two of the 12 most important areas of your life. In order to create a truly extraordinary life for yourself, you've got to take your entire life into consideration, not just one or two parts of it. Nothing can be left out or left behind or left to chance.

Your life is yours. It's unique to you. And the answers you need to create an extraordinary life for yourself are inside of you, just waiting for you to uncover them. No one is going to hand them to you because no one knows the secret combination to your safe.

And that's because we're all different. We all have different talents, different wants, needs, and desires. And the road to the fulfillment of those desires is going to be unique to every single one of us. The secret to your extraordinary life will never come from a guru. It's not going to come from a teacher or a book. If you ever discover it, it will come from inside of you. You could actually begin doing that today by writing your very own life book. Because the Lifebook system empowers you to envision, plan, and then achieve the life that you truly want to live, just like we did. You can look at it kind of like a business plan for your entire life.

Lifebook is a deeply personal journey that helps you discover who you are now, the kind of person you want to become, and the kind of life you want to live. It helps you get clear on your own personal values, which is a really rare thing these days. You'll examine your beliefs, your desires, your dreams in 12 different areas of your life, and you'll capture and organize everything that matters to you in the pages of your very own Lifebook.

And the thinking that you do during the course of this program will change your life forever, just like it changed ours. So ask yourself, are you ready to become the author of your very best life?

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