Vishen LakhianiFounder of Mindvalley | NYT Bestselling Author | Transforming Lives Globally

Marisa Peer on the words we choose | Mindvalley

15 Mar 2022 · 1 min

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Short excerpt from a Mindvalley YouTube interview (Marisa Peer) about how ownership language (e.g., the word "my") creates psychological attachment. Peer argues the mind resists giving up anything prefixed with "my" ("my fat legs," "my hunger") and recommends replacing "my" with "the" for things you want to be free of (e.g., say "the temper" instead of "my temper").

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When you call something mine, that's an ownership word. And the mind does not want to give up anything you prefix with mine. My fat legs, my hunger. I need my McDonald's. I gotta have my latte. When we call something mine, it's like, this is my child, and here's my lovely husband. And this is my gift to you. We're very proud of it. We own it. When you call it the people say, here's the wife. Nobody likes that. So just a little heads up, if you have anything you want to fix, physical, mental, emotional, my temper. Never prefix something you want to be free with my. Call it the. And the mind understands. Oh, you're not invested in this. Therefore it can go away.