Vishen LakhianiFounder of Mindvalley | NYT Bestselling Author | Transforming Lives Globally

Next time you get triggered, do this

4 Sept 2022 · 1 min

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A short excerpt from a YouTube video ("Next time you get triggered, do this" by Vishen Lakhiani) offering coaching on self-compassion and a therapeutic technique called affect labeling. The speaker models addressing oneself tenderly (e.g., 'Sweetheart, what are you feeling?') and explains that naming emotions reduces their intensity, enabling action from deeper truth rather than trauma.

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The ability to hold yourself tenderly like that. It is that relationship with ourselves where at any time we can turn towards ourselves. Sweetheart, what are you feeling? I can see that you're feeling. It's worded very specifically. It's not saying, how am I, how am I feeling? But if you say, sweetheart, how are you? Or what are you feeling? You're not only labeling your feelings, which in the world of psychotherapy is called affect labeling. Studies show that the moment we put language to a feeling, it starts to de escalate in its intensity. This is this internal development that for many of us have been missing in being able to really create our lives from the deeper truth and not from the part of us that's traumatized.