Vishen LakhianiFounder of Mindvalley | NYT Bestselling Author | Transforming Lives Globally

Rapid-fire With Keith Ferrazzi 🔥🔥

8 Jul 2020 · 1 min

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Keith Ferrazzi on moving past small talk: share what matters and ask what excites people. He keeps relationships alive by calling on birthdays and checking in quarterly with simple messages.

Questions this video answers

July 8, 2020

Call the person once a year on their birthday.

Stay in touch on a quarterly basis with simple texts (e.g., "I'm thinking of you").

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What's getting you excited these days? What are you most passionate about these days? I'm going to get a bunch of questions. My name is Keith Ferrazi and this is my rapid fire with Mindvalley. The first thing I would share with a stranger is my heart. The way to create a deep and intimate connection with an individual is to forget about small talk and go to deep talk. What matters to you. Share it with the people you meet. The first question I would ask a stranger is anything that I'm curious about. My intention with a stranger is to reach out to them and have them show up in an authentic way to connect more deeply. I might ask the question, what's getting you excited these days? What are you most passionate about these days? And then begin to share your own to make it comfortable for them to follow. One simple technique to maintain a connection is something that I call pinging. You just gotta show up, identify the individuals in your life that you would like to sustain the longest and most deeply connection with and then as a result, put them on a list and give them a call once a year on their birthday. Stay in touch on a quarterly basis and just send a simple text saying, hey, I'm thinking of you. When you set an ongoing strategy of connection with somebody, you will sustain that connection.