Step Into Your Life Purpose | Lisa Nichols

Wow. I'm really excited about the conversation we get to have today. I'm excited about the conversation I'm having in the world right about now. I'm excited about the things that I'm asked to do. I'm on this whole journey of abundant life. What does it take to create an abundant life? First off? And Christy really talked about what are the things that block you from abundance? So she talked about all the things in your past. Now may I talk about some things to do and create for you? Because I'm a coach, so I'm an action step. I'm an action step person because the antidote to despair is action. The prescription for radical success is action. The difference between you and the person living their dreams that you're watching is simply the amount of action. It's not the hookup. It's not the family they were born into. It's not the gender. It's not the culture. Those are all great stories that we're given, but it really is the things they did and how much they were willing to do it. So I want to talk about that because when you look at my life, my life is someone who did not ask for permission. My life is someone who gave notice. So I just came to find those few of you who are willing to give notice and. And stop asking permission. Are you here? Yes. Yes. So I know my tribe. They're all like, yes. Yes. Tell them about the yes. Yes, Lisa. Okay. We forget that there are people who are just meeting me. How many guys are just meeting me for the first time? Yeah. Oh, yummy. Put on your seatbelts. Right. So just so those of you who just meeting me. Last year there was two of me. This year, there's less of me to love. So you're like, that's not the lady that was on YouTube, right? Yes, I am. It's the sexier version. So when we talk about feeling it in your soul, I want to start with your yes. And I won't do the yes because it's a cliche thing. I don't do it because I need you to do something. Rah, rah. I'm not a motivational speaker. I'm a transformational coach. Let's be very clear. When I show up, I show up for your breakthrough. I show up with the willingness to disrupt everything you know so that you're willing to go find something new. I'm willing no matter how big you're playing in the world, there's something where you can serve bigger, love bigger, receive bigger, wherever that is for you. And I come. And when I'm in your space, promise you the divine God, Mother, Father, whatever you choose to call it, have placed me in your space for some kind of new level of something. That's just my assignment. I know what my breath is for, and so that's what I'm here for. So when I say when, we talk about yes. Yes. It's not just a rah rah, it literally is to move something in you to say yes. Bigger, bolder, and with knees knocking sometime and teeth chattering sometime, still say yes, and then figure out the how. So when I'm with my girls and I say something they like, they say, you go, girl. But we're not with all girls. When I'm at church and I say something that they love, they say, amen. And sometimes some of y' all just go ahead and do that, but we're not in church. When I say something that resonates with you, I want you to say, yes. And then I want the second yes to be louder than the first yes. I want that second yes to make you have to sit up a little bit. I want that second yes to cost you something for yourself. I want it to be just a bit disruptive. Let's try it on the count of three. One, two, three. Yes. Yes. Only at Awesomeness Festival, they ever hit it on the first time. Man. You should see when I'm over at Wells Fargo, I'm at Rockwell, I'm at atn. I'm like, yes, yes. I'm like, oh, no, no. That won't do it. That won't do it. Right. They say, yes, yes. I say, no, no. Then we're gonna get it right. I'm like, why don't y' all loosen the tie a little bit so you can feel your throat? So when I say something that you like, that resonates with your soul, I want you to say, when you hear your truth, I want you to say. When it feels good to you, I want you to say, and even when it stings, but it's still your truth, I want you to say yes. Yes. Even if your neighbor's not saying it, I want you to say, when you leave here and you're at lunch and something feels good to your soul, I want you to say, yes. Yes. When you leave Costa Rica or you leave the conference and something feels good to your soul, I want you to say yes. Yes. Without anyone at home agreeing with you, I still want you to say, when your friend asks you out to lunch, I want you to say now they will think you're weird because when you left home, you only said one yes and you came home. Now you're saying two yeses. So I want them to immediately know something changed. Yes, yes, yes. Without me, without asking my permission, without waiting for me to pause, without waiting for a politically correct interruption. I still want you to say yes. Yes. Without anyone else in the room having to say it with you. Be the long ranger. Be that right? Right. Now, the first yes is to you. The reason why the second yes has to be louder is because the second yes is not to you. The second yes is to the God's assignment on your life, which is why it has to be louder, because it's going to to cost you more. It's going to test your level of conviction. That second yes has to be the yes that moves you when you don't want to move, that will have you say the things you don't want to say and do the things you don't want to do so you can be the man, the woman you've always known yourself to be. So the second yes got to kind of shake the lights. It gotta kind of shake. Shake the lights. You know what I mean? That second yes has to make anyone in earshot say they gonna do that. Cause, you know, the way you convert people who don't believe in you is you just have enough confidence in you. I had a gentleman, I was in an investor meeting, and I'm telling my dream, and this was like 15 years ago. And I'm like, I'm gonna transform lives. I'm gonna start with teens. And he's just sitting there, and I said, I need to raise capital. I need $50,000 so I can work. Amen. And he said, and I told him the supplies I was gonna buy. And he said, listen. He said, my wife and I don't have children, and we decided not to have children. We don't even know if we like children. Right? You're doing good. That was your first test. You passed. He said, but when I look at you and I listen to you, you're so convicted. You're so on fire. He said, I believe. I don't know how you gonna do all that, but I believe you're gonna do it because of your passion. He said, so I'm gonna invest $25,000 in your company. He said, but I don't even know if I should call it investment, because you so on fire, I don't even need to see it back. I was like, can I Get that in writing. Yes, yes, yes, yes. Right. So it's about you being so on fire for you. So I want to continue the conversation of what abundant and creating an abundant life looks like, because to Vishen's point, and thank him so much for acknowledging my company. Fifteen years ago, 17 years ago, I sat on my couch looking for a way to move past being both broke and broken. And it was easier to be broke. Come on, you guys, I want to hear your yes. Yes. I heard some of that. Yes, yes. Kind of. You can't whisper it. Be okay with your truth. We're going to make the truth very, very sexy and acceptable for the next hour that I'm on stage. We're going to make the truth something that we all want to wear. And when I wear my truth and you wear your truth, we get to choose if we love each other inside that truth. But my job is to wear my truth. Your job is to choose. Yes. Yes. So here I was, sitting on the couch in Inglewood, California, and I was broke. You can tell only from the hood when they go Inglewood in the house. Always up to no good, right? Amen. It'll never be out of me, no matter where I go. I'm sitting on my couch and I'm broke, but more than anything, I'm broken. And I'm at a place, and some of you have been there. Are you there? I'm not sure, but I was at a place where I said, wait, I'm too brilliant for this. I ain't quite seen. That's how I said it. Yes, all my brilliance yet. But I know I'm too brilliant for this. This reality doesn't fit my DNA. So the first thing to know is when you're out of congruency with who you're designed to be, that's the first thing. And there's nothing wrong with that. Don't hide it. Don't shy from it. Just step into that truth. That truth is sexy because it'll make you do something you never thought you would do. It'll make you get radical. And I sat there with my son, not having food, eating beanies and weenies six days a week, right? And like, the beanies were cut so small. The weenies were cut so small. He was like, mommy, I can't see the meat. I said, baby, it's there. Let me just put some extra sugar in it. I was so broke and broken. His father had just gone to prison, and all of a sudden, my worst nightmare had come true. I made a commitment being Born and raised in South Central LA. Raised between the Harlem Crip 30s and the Rolling 60s. Those are not cheerleading squads, y', all, that I wouldn't engage on any level. I wasn't available on any level for any gang activity, for anything criminal, because I would never be connected with jail. It's just not my thing. I knew early on that's not my destiny. So when my girlfriends and my best friends started dating the neighborhood thugs, I passed. I'm going to the library. I'm not participating. I don't know where I'll end up, but I know I won't stay here. And so I planned all this. I got out. I was an athlete. I was an all American athlete. I held the record for the 330 lower hurdles for 18 years. I graduated, my head was down. I was MVP all three years in high school. I was focused. I got out. I got out. Then all of a sudden, the man that I meet at 27, beautiful soul, brilliant soul, just still had that hustle in him. And I'm not mad about a little hustle, but it can't manage your integrity. And for him, it just got the best of him. And I got the call. I said, hello. He said, lisa. I said, yes. He said, I'm in jail. And my heart dropped. I'm 28. I'd just given birth to his child, and now I'm linked to the very thing I tried to avoid for so long. I'm sharing with you my story so you can validate and level set your story. Because I look up and I say, wow. I'm working on my seventh best seller. I've had great conversations with Oprah and Larry King and the Today show, and I've built a multi million dollar business. And my company's going public, and it doesn't change my story. And yet I realized that I use my story as my fuel, not my fortress. Like, my story wasn't my. I get to be successful in spite of my story was my. Because of. It's because of. And so I remember sitting on my couch going, oh, my God. My very thing I tried to avoid. My nightmare is my truth. And for years, eight years, I never mentioned where my son's father was. I denied that he even existed. I wouldn't talk about him. You couldn't talk about him, Margaret. When I said his name, she thought my son's father was an exchange student from Africa. When I first said his name, she's like, is that somebody we gonna donate to? And I said, no, that's my son's. Father. I just don't talk about him because I haven't accepted it yet. And so I walked around with this baggage on me, this story that if I spoke too loudly and let my light shine too brightly, then the light's gonna shine on him too and everybody's gonna know my connection. Come on, you guys, I just want you to. Yours is gonna be different. But we got this chatter and picking up where Christy left off, this was just my chatter. I would be remiss if I didn't share my chatter with you before I share with you how to get to an abundant life. You got to know the depth that I come from. And so for years I dodged that conversation of my son's father because I was embarrassed of my choices, when in fact I chose an amazing, beautiful, brilliant man who simply made a poor decision. And as I told my son, he's on a long term timeout. 21 years later, he's still there. That's his journey. That's his journey. He's also an author of seven books published before me, so he chose to make the best of his story as well. He's a better writer, stronger writer than I am. He's just amazing. He's still brilliant. And so I look at that journey and I go, how did I get from there? Broken and broke to this story? That's breathtaking. I traveled 315 days out the year I prayed to God 17 years ago. Lord, I want to travel the world, run my mouth and autograph anything. I am not going to tell you where I have put a marker. No, we're on the backs. And so I wanted to just stop by and I say stop by because I'm in four different countries and 12 different cities in 33 days. So I'm just stopping by. But I stop and I stay here as long as I can because I love this space. But I stop by to stir your soul, to do nothing other than stir your soul. And for some of you, you're going to choose to continue to play with me. We're going to find ways to learn together. We're going to find ways to serve together. We're going to find ways to help you grow together, to help you create an abundant life together. And we'll keep going. For others, this is a moment in time. And this was the very message you were supposed to hear. And your job is to pull out of it what you're supposed to pull out of it and then take action. So I stopped by, I stopped by to push some things in your space so you can choose to adopt it. I stopped by to give you several points and you may want to write things down. I stopped by to also get to get you to do some things before I leave the stage. I'm gonna play with you a lot and move around a lot. I'm gonna teach you just a few points from the book that comes out in January. This is the. Yes, this is the. It's called abundance now. And in abundance now, I redefine abundance. Cause we know abundance to be about wealth, right? And it's time for us to disrupt the definition of abundance, right? Are you guys down with me? Are you down with me? We need to disrupt so that our children, by the time they're able to really think about abundance, they only know it to be a holistic experience. That abundance includes relationships. Abundance includes your spirituality. Abundance includes your health. Abundance is not just about the bottom line at the bank account. Can y' all help me with that? Can we agree if there's anybody on the planet that can change the definition of abundance, it would be us? Yes. Y. I want you to be a part of it. But you're going to see me going mad crazy everywhere. Going, wait, before I talk about abundance, let's redefine it for what it really is. Because I have a lot of very wealthy friends, millionaires and billionaires who hang very close to me. And they're not hanging close to me to learn how to make money. They can teach me that. They're hanging close to me because they love how I have fun. They love how my son still hangs out with me. If any of you saw me last night back in the corner on the phone, y' all thought I was booed up, talking to my honey. I was Talking to my 21 year old son who said, hey, mom, I just want to hang out with you for a bit. Can you just hang out with me? I was like, absolutely. That food can get cold, right? Abundance is about having that holistic realm of success. Yes. Yes. So I'm going to teach you today from some really great points here that I'm super excited and on fire about. And then for some of you, just a handful, I'm going to invite into a whole, whole eight week live course. The first time I've taught an eight week live course in five years, just around abundance and understanding an abundant life and designing an abundant life real time, not just listening to a video, but real time with me live. And so I want to start with that. So point number one, I want to make and you want to write these down. Point number one. And some of this you already know. But repetition is the mother, father, sister, brother, aunt, uncle and cousin of learning. Yes. Yes. Is you are super achievers. I'm a super achiever. The one thing we have to constantly remind ourselves is to create micro wins to get to our macro wins that we go after the macro win, but we only look at the macro win. I want you to look at the micro wins and get five micro wins under your belt so you can create your macro win. That way you celebrate yourself a lot more often. Yes. Yes. That way you can have an indicator that you're on the right track more often. That way, your fuel is being acknowledged more often. That way you know you're on the right track. Let's get to micro wins. Micro wins. Micro wins can lead to a macro win. Can we agree to that? That's an abundant. And I'm showing you how abundant thinkers think. So if you want to. To me, you model successful people. When I was on the Oprah Winfrey show, on one of the commercial breaks, she said, so, Lisa, how many coaches do you have? She didn't ask me if I had a coach. She said, how many coaches do you have? I said, two. On the next commercial break, what you think I did? I asked her, how many coaches do you have? She said, 4. When I left the show, what do you think I did Right. I hired two more coaches. So success leaves clues. I'm going to give you some of the clues. And people who are living an abundant life now, you guys just allow this to be a salve of confirmation. And then for everyone else who's moving in that direction and more so in that direction, these are the things that abundant thinking people do all day, every day. One, we create micro wins so we can get to macro winds and we celebrate the micro wins. Far more celebrations in life. Number two, we fail, but we always fail forward. See, people are going to fail. Abundant thinkers. Right ka. We fail forward. We fail. And we ask the question, what lesson did I learn and what will I do differently the next time? Bring it on. Bring it on. I'm okay. Some of my greatest lessons came wrapped in sandpaper. They came wrapped in expensive lessons. They came wrapped with a hot credit card that I had to pay it off with. They came wrapped with a lawyer I had to hire. They came wrapped with tears on my pillow. But when I got the lesson, you better know I didn't have to get it again. Yes, yes. Some of you are using your lesson as luggage. Using your lesson as shackles. And your lesson is your fuel to do it differently the next time. So, Abundant thinkers, we fail. We just fail Forward. Every single time. Abundant Thinkers, we're not only responsible. Write this down. Number three. We're not only responsible for our actions, we're not only responsible for our thoughts. Abundant Thinkers, go the step further, and we're responsible for our reaction. Oh, that's juicy. Yes, yes. Someone gonna chew on that on the plane on the way home. Like reactions, right? Abundant thinkers not only hold ourselves responsible for our thoughts, we hold ourselves responsible for our actions. We hold ourselves responsible for our reactions before we ever do it. It doesn't mean we react and then apologize. It means we never do those things we have to apologize for. Yes. Yes. We don't blame it on. That's how I've always been. That's old. Grow up. You're genius. You're brilliant. That's so old. Eight, right? Abundant thinkers, I'm just giving you some nuggets. There's a ton of other things. I'll share it with you another time, but I'm telling you, these are practices of abundant Thinkers. Christy talked about affirmations. Abundant thinkers understand the power of I am. Anything after. The word I am is true to your unconscious mind, Michael. Anything. Anything after I am. Anything, anything after I am. Even if you just, you know it's not true, your conscious mind will believe it. Anything after I am. So the use of affirmations is very intentional and very consistent. I was diagnosed as clinically depressed in 2,166. 97 2. 1998. I'm sorry. I was diagnosed as clinically depressed. Me. It didn't make sense. I had been in a relationship. I was engaged to get married, and my fiance, who I did not know at the time, was bipolar, and he'd stopped taking his medicines. And under the belief system that love can cure anything. And so I ended up being picked up and thrown three feet across the room. And I ended up being choked until I passed out. And once I got out of that relationship, I just was different. It was different. So my mom insisted that I go to the doctor. I went to the doctor and I sat on the table, and she checked me and talked to me and came back in with a prescription. And she said, lisa, you're clinically depressed. And I felt like I heard Charlie Brown's parents talking like, wah, wah, want clinically depressed? And Lisa, that makes sense in that same sentence. And she handed me a prescription. And I read the prescription. It had my name on it. And it said Prozac. And I thought, that don't make sense. Lisa Nichols, Pro. That don't make sense. And I said, do you mean I'm sad? She said, very, very sad. I said, can I try something? And I'm not recommending you guys. If you're on medication, you stop taking your meds. Please don't do that. I asked my doctor. She agreed. I said, do you mind if I try something before I take this? She goes, yes, but I need to see you back in 30 days if you're in the same condition. I need us to try this medicine. I said, okay, I could do that. So I went home, and every day, I got in the mirror and I drilled I am every day. Because I realized I had forgotten who I was. I just forgot. And it was okay to forget. I just forgot. So every day. Every day for 25 minutes, I just went over the I ams. Every day, I am, I am. I am. And then I paralleled that with, I forgive you for. Then I paralleled that with I commit to you, Lisa, every single day. I went back in 30 days, and I'm talking to her, and I'm on fire. She's just looking at me, and I'm just talking, talking. She twisted her head again, and I'm just talking, talking. She says, wait, I gotta stop you. I said, what? She goes, what are you taking? And can I have some? I was like, I'm taking some of me. And so the power of I am. The power of I am can pull you through the darkest moment. The power of I am. And so I want you to really begin. It's not hokey pokey. It's not mushy. It's real, and it's the truth. Abundant thinkers. What else do abundant thinkers do? Abundant thinkers continue to stay in cognitive dissonance. They continue to put themselves in cognitive dissonance. Let me explain to you what that is. Cognitive dissonance is the form of discomfort that you put yourself in when you think of yourself in such a way that doesn't match your current behavior. Oh, that's. Somebody came. That's worth the price of admission just to do that. Isn't that juicy? I'm gonna say it again. Some of y' all are like, okay, I don't even know what to write down. Cognitive dissonance. So just Cognitive dissonance. You're creative. Spell it whatever way you want. Cognitive dissonance is the form of mental disruption where you literally disrupt your own mind by thinking of yourself in a way that doesn't match your current behavior. It's beyond your current behavior. Your mind will be uncomfortable because it doesn't match. So your mind will begin to call you to do the thing to make your mental conversation match your behavior. That's some good stuff. That right there, That's a game changer. Somebody. Yes. Yes, yes, yes. Y' all so cute. I still see some of your faces, like Scooby Doo. Ruh. Roll. Just study it. Just study it. When the book comes out, study it. I give you exercises to do. Don't worry about it. So abundant thinkers are constantly placing ourselves in cognitive dissonance. Constantly, constantly placing ourselves in cognitive dissonance. I have an infomercial that's coming out next year. It's the first personal development infomercial to come out since Tony Robbins. Can you say cognitive dissonance at its highest level? Because that comes with a really big bill. But if I don't, I gotta scare somebody. We might as well make ourselves nervous reaching for the best version of ourselves. Yes. So how will you. I'm gonna start challenging you. How will you be the man, the woman you've always known yourself to be? I'm gonna come back to the points. But now I want to touch your soul, because this is great thinking. This is great notes. That's a cute notebook. But there's a calling on your life that you don't get to shake. And it's only yours. No one else has the same calling as you. So comparing yourself to me doesn't do any good. Comparison is and will always be the thief of all joy. Someone might want to write that down. Comparison is and will always be the thief of all joy. You will never do me. When people say, oh, my God, you're like the next Oprah. I said, and I've told Oprah's producers this. They called me as recently as on the. On the plane, as I'm sitting on the plane, coming here to a fest. They call it again. And they're like, we just, Lisa, we just love you. We just want to do work with you. And I said, as long as you are not trying to make me the next Oprah, because I will 100% fail you every time if you want Oprah. But if you're ever interested, I do a damn good Lisa Nichols. I got her. I got her on lock. I know, Lisa. And so when you begin to look at people, look at someone as a model of who you can be by taking a piece of who they are, adding it to the uniqueness of who you are. And then understanding, what's the divine assignment on your life? What do you need to do more of? Who do you need to be more of? What do you need to evict more from your behavior? See, we're infopreneurs. We love information. But what do you need to let go of that's not serving you anymore? See, when I look at the things that I used to be, I look at procrastination, I look at scared, I look at being worried. I look at doubtfulness, I look at my edginess. I've always been a rebel, always will be a rebel. I just have to learn how to use my powers for good. Yes, yes. That wasn't always the case. There was a point where you might be there. So let me know if there's a point there where everything that you've been and every person, every characteristic that you've been, that doesn't serve you, you need to confront it. And you need to say, thank you for getting me to this point, but in order for me to get there, I have to leave you here. You won't fit. Doubt, you won't fit. Worry, you won't fit. Being afraid of being seen. You won't fit. Come on, somebody. Y' all done forgot how to say yes. Yes. Boy, we got selective amnesia real fast. Like all those things that fear of outgrowing your tribe. Anybody there? See, that was mine, see, because I wore a badge of honor. I love where I'm from. I don't apologize. Where I'm from in la, I don't apologize. I don't need to wear it and get through a door with it, but I don't want to hide it either. But something happened when I became wildly successful. I became almost ashamed of my success because it seemed to make me so different. It was so different from Inglewood. It was so different from my cousins. It was so different from other women of color. It was so different from anyone of any color in the struggle. And that for a long time, that was my connection. I hadn't built another connection yet. Anyone know what I'm talking about? And all of a sudden, I began to silently sabotage myself. Now, it's not an obvious sabotage. I'm still running. I'm just kind of moonwalking. I look like I'm in motion. I'm just not as in much motion as I used to be. I remember the year when I made $975,000 in October and I threatened to pass a million dollars in one year. I took the rest of the Year off, I said, I'm tired. You know, we got sexy excuses. And then the next year, I hit 985,000 in August. And I was confronted, you're going to take the rest of the year off again. And I had to realize that I was afraid of leaving someone behind. Come on, you guys. I just want to speak the truth. And I see the tissue, I see the tears. I just came. I stopped by to serve you up your truth. And someone has to love us enough to give us the truth, even if it's mildly to moderately to significantly uncomfortable. I remember. And she's in the room. Someone said to me the other night when I did the en suite, because I do this little en suite thing where I coach, and we had a great time coaching. I'll do it again tonight. And she said, don't you feel like you're. Don't you feel guilty that you're leaving your community? And I said, not at all, because I can't do them any good struggling with them. But if I go away and I become someone, the woman I've always known myself to be, then I got something to go back and offer. Can you help me down off the stage? I love being a lady. I know I can. I know I can do it myself. But why. Thank you for all you ladies that don't know about that. You get that when you get to your 40s. So I want to be closer to you. I'm going to push you a bit. Who are you willing to become at the risk of being seen? What are you willing to do at the risk of being wildly successful? What are you willing to say at the risk of being heard by everybody? What are you willing to model at the risk that people will follow you? What are you willing to let go at the risk of getting something greater? See, it's not in all the information you gain. It's in the what you're willing to do with the little bitty nuggets. If you just did half of what you've learned, just half, if you were willing to stand half as tall as who you know yourself to be, if you're willing. If you're willing, whose life would you change? Because when you get. When you get that your journey has less to do with you than it has to do with everyone who will be blessed enough to cross your path, then you're willing to do the thing you don't want to do, say the thing you don't want to say, so you can hurry up and be the person you've always Known yourself to be when you know, to operate with a sense of importance, matter of fact, a little bit of urgency to say, wait a minute, Somebody's going to cross my path today. And when I let my light shine, my light illuminates their dark corner. And for a brief moment, Anthony, they see a little more of themselves. For a brief moment, they can see that wing, and they go, was that my wing or was that his wing? And when you leave and they can still see it, they realize it was theirs. Because you let your light shine. You were generous enough to get out of your freaking way. You were willing enough to surrender, to kill your ego, to kill your shego. That's ours. You know, we got our own, right? You were willing. I'm gonna go back, guys, right? So you might have to twist a little bit, but I'm gonna go. When you look at someone, and I'm not saying I've arrived anywhere, but I love the place and the journey that I am right now. When you look at someone you've chose to admire, ask me what I did in the dark of the night. Ask me what was I willing to let go go of so that I, in this form, can be born. Ask me. Ask me what jacket, what cloth of victimhood, what cloth of fear I was willing to take off. Ask me what was I willing to go study that lived and breathed abundance until I wore it so much, it became not in my head, not in my heart, but it got in my DNA. Come on, you guys. When I bleed, it comes out. That's what you want to know. And then how can I reinvent myself so radical that it might disrupt my entire community? See, some of you are more committed to keeping the company you're keeping than you are to be the person you've been designed to be. I'm just saying, somebody might say ouch on that, right? I see your ouch. She's like, ooh, I'm not even gonna walk over there right now. I'm gonna stay right here. I know. I kind of hit you with that one. See, we get so committed to our tribe that we forget that it's seasonal. It's seasonal. And some people were brought in our lives to show us who we could become, and then our relationship will forever shift. And because we're trying to make everybody lifetime, we keep holding back, and we look like we almost jumping into a game of double dutch. I'm almost there. I'm almost there. Hold on, hold on. Let the kids graduate from high school, but the kids are two. Oh, hey, hold on. Let me just get my money together. Hold on. Let me lose this extra weight. Do you know if I waited till I lost the extra weight before I stood in front of you? Lisa Nichols would be the freaking secret. Y' all get that? Yes. Yes. How about we do it while we get better at it? How about we do it? How about your 80% is 159% of what I need right now? How about I need your wrong in my life? How about that? How about your perfection is more about you than it's ever been about me? How about that? How about I need you to fall in front of me? Because I'm not watching you when you fail. I'm watching you and how you get up. Because I need somebody to model to me how to get up. How about it's not your perfection that I was ever looking for. It was watching you stand and shine and be inside of such an obvious imperfection. That's my inspiration. When I see you perfect. We're not a match. We're not a match. When I see you perfect. The night before I went on Oprah, I'm freaking out because I know I can't even. I can't go anywhere without telling the real story. So she had modeled us as all these experts, and I was like, well, I'm going to tell my mess. I don't know about them, but, you know, because the 56 million people watching her, they're not secret teachers. And so they need to hear about a woman. They need to hear about somebody who has doubt. I'm going to tell them that. So I'm freaked out because I already know I'm going to tell the truth like that. And I don't know what that means. And I've never told my mess in front of 56 million people before. You know, I can do 5, 605, 6000, but 56 million, like, damn right. And so I'm nervous, and I'm packing for the trip the night before, and I'm listening to Kirk Franklin, a gospel artist, because he talks about being, you know, imperfect. And I'm matching. I'm trying to. And I'm just freaking out. And at 4am, I call a friend of mine, and I'm just crying. I said, I'm scared. I got the biggest opportunity of a lifetime tomorrow. And I'm scared. I'm scared that they're gonna know that I'm scared. I'm scared that they gonna know that I messed up so many times. I'm scared that they gonna know just all my imperfections. I'm just scared. He said, let me pray for you. I said, okay. And he's just what he said next changed everything. He says, God, thank you for using your most imperfect child to help your most imperfect children. I was like, oh, oh, I'm perfect for the job. And I promise you, it just shifted. And I've been standing that since 2007. And so I just stopped by to stir your soul. I stopped by to disrupt any form of complacency you might have in mediocrity. I stopped by to not let you off the hook of your greatness. I stopped by to remind you that you're 70% of might look like 159% to somebody else, but it's still your 70%. I stopped by to say it's in your imperfection that you're perfect. I stopped by to say that your gifts were never about you. And for you. I stopped by to remind you. And every time I see you, I'm going to remind you that I need you more than you need you. That when you cross my path and I watch you keep working at it and I watch you keep coming back, you put oxygen in my chest. So I need you to keep showing up, it looks like for you, but it's just for me and a million other people coming behind me watching you. I stopped by to ask you, are you willing to live an abundant life at the risk of having it all abundant? Are you willing? Are you willing? Are you willing to make abundant living your automatic stop, non negotiable. And anything, anything that's incongruent with it has to be evicted that you're willing to disrupt your norm for it. You're willing to walk alone for it. See, some of you want company so much and you got to realize that before you can be good company to me, you got to learn how to be good company to you. So if you walk alone for a while, and you will, and you will share your vision with someone and they won't get it. They just won't get it. They won't get it. They will not get it. And they won't get it for a reason. And someone came here just to hear this message. They won't get your vision because God didn't give your vision to them. Your vision was given to you. And it's your job to nurture it, to feed it, to be good to it, to bring it out so we can then see it. But until you bring it out, we can't see it. So please don't ask me how beautiful it is. I can't see what's in you. That's like me being pregnant, saying my baby pretty, huh? I don't know. Could be ugly. I don't know. So I just stopped by to ask you just a few questions. Not tons of content I can give you, but you're getting a lot of content. I want to make sure that it's landing on tilled soil. I want to make sure that you stir it up a bit. I want to make you uncomfortable. Is it working? I want to do that because it's not always in your comfortable. Rah, rah. Let's all be awesome. See, I was sitting on that couch and 1995 and I didn't say I want to be awesome. That didn't come out first. What came out was this is not who I am. I am more than this. And I want my dash to freaking dance while I'm here and I don't want to get to the end of my days. Instead I kept some in I don't want to get to the end of my days and said I was standing at the line waiting for the right time. So sometimes your greatest leap comes from being fed up with something. Your greatest leap comes from being done with something. Your greatest leap comes in a combination. I'm complete and I'm ready. I'm complete with that and I'm ready for that. See, when I was ready for an abundant life, numbers didn't scare me. Money didn't scare me. Going to conferences by myself didn't scare me. Working all night didn't scare me. Being alone didn't scare me. Nothing scared me because I was ready. I said yes to it and everything that came with it. Are you willing to say yes to that too? Are you willing? Because the reality is someone's watching you. Someone's watching, watching you. He's been waiting for me. Thank you, sweetie. Thank you. Someone's watching you. And when you win, they win. When you win, they win. Some 14 year old girl, some 20 year old guy, some 10 year old boy, they're watching you. And when you win, they win. A three year old child, when you win, they win. A stranger, a neighbor. When you win, they win. I get that. My win doesn't just belong to me. When I win, she wins. When I win, he wins. So on the days when you don't want to do it for you, do it for us.