Vishen LakhianiFounder of Mindvalley | NYT Bestselling Author | Transforming Lives Globally

The voice in your head isn't always telling the truth

6 Aug 2026 · 1 min

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Your inner voice shapes how confident you feel. A speaker walks through a simple exercise: silently repeat "All is well," then say it out loud and notice how your body responds. He practices this before performing, matching his external voice to his internal one.

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Confidence is a state of mind and body, just like love is, or apathy, or anger, or motivation. Who here, when they make a mistake, says, "Oh, another learning experience"? No. Who here usually says, "Yeah, stupid, you're such a— blah blah blah," etc.? Who gives themselves a hard time when they make a mistake? "Oh!" Well, let's just try our first thought experiment to see how our internal dialogue affects our state. There's a couple of people going, "Well, I don't know if I have an internal dialogue. Do I have an internal dialogue?" Yeah, that voice there, right? That's it, just locate it, okay? Now, not out loud but inside your mind, in this tone of voice, notice what this does to your state. Just say, "All is well." Okay. Now, what I do before I come on stage is I get my internal voice sounding really good, yeah? And then I match my external voice to it. So it feels congruent. So this time, say it in your head and then say it out loud. Say, "All is well." All is well. Feels nice, right? Yeah, who notices that it changes their state when they change it? Yeah, great, okay.