This is a sign you have deeper healing to do

If you're feeling withdrawn, hurt, angry, unsafe, insecure, that is your indicator that there's a wound that needs to be healed. Get out a pen and write down what your top three emotional triggers are. What are the things that cause you to feel the most upset and the most thrown off balance? Hormones. It's broken down and absorbed in the body within six seconds. So if we feel something longer than six seconds, we are, at some level, choosing to recreate and refuel those feelings. What we're in is a cognitive loop. Why did they say that? I wouldn't say that. That's not very nice. That's actually making me feel defensive. They're being a mean person. That's a loop that we're doing. But the actual chemicals that created the emotion only last six seconds.