Vishen LakhianiFounder of Mindvalley | NYT Bestselling Author | Transforming Lives Globally

Why is dating so hard?

13 Sept 2022 · 1 min

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A short talk discussing why dating feels difficult: many people bring unhealed emotional wounds into dating and unconsciously trade wounds with partners. The speaker argues that doing inner work and aligning with oneself creates a healthier foundation for dating and all relationships, since relationships mirror self-relationship.

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So can I get all the single people to stand up in the room? For those of you who've ever experienced frustration with the dating scene, if you've ever felt like, oh, God, I hate dating, I want you to remain standing. So the question is, why is dating so difficult? There's so many incredible humans. So the reason dating is so challenging is because many people are showing up to the dating scene with unhealed parts of themselves. And so what actually happens is this transaction. I'm going to trade my wound for your wound. But if we actually took the time to do the work and get into alignment, once you set that foundation, once you get that sorted, you set an extraordinary foundation for every other relationship in your life. Every relationship that you have in your life reflects the relationship that you have with yourself. I can love you.