Motivation!! | Wendy Day (in T.I. voice)

Hi guys, welcome back. I'm back. Okay, let's talk about motivation. Motivation is so important. I don't know about you guys, but there are times where it's just really hard to get motivated, and I would like to discuss that today if you don't mind. Um, for me, what I do when I kind of hit that block where I don't feel like doing anything, um, and for me it comes in waves, like, like it's never 10 minutes where I don't feel like doing something, it'll be like a week where I don't feel like doing something, and it usually means that I'm procrastinating. Either I have something to do that I don't want to do, or I'm just a little bit bored and I want some variety. And the way that I stay motivated is I read a lot. Um, you know, I come from a family, I come from a background, um, my parents weren't wealthy and they both believed that happiness comes from having one job for your entire life until you retire and you get a gold watch. And my philosophy in life is a little bit different. I didn't want to work for somebody else. I, I've tried that. I've worked in corporate America. I just didn't enjoy it. I was good at it and I made a lot of money doing it, but I wasn't happy. I, I always felt like either my bosses didn't get it, um, there were some cases where my bosses were idiots, and God, I hope they're watching, um, and then there were times where I just felt like the politics within the company seemed to matter more to the company than success. And I'm somebody that's really driven by accomplishing things. Accomplishments matter to me. I set goals and I focus on that goal, on those goals, and that's how I measure myself. I don't measure myself against other people. I'm not competitive in that respect. Um, I am with my clients. I measure my clients against other artists in the industry and how well they're doing, but I don't measure my own success, um, through comparisons with other people. Um, life is like a golf game to me, I guess. I'm always trying to better my own success ratio, if you will. So the way that I stay motivated, coming from a background where my family is not entrepreneurial at all Um, and, and my parents have passed now, so the pressure is a little bit less on me to go get a real job. Um, but I read a lot of books. I read, I read about a book a week. Um, and if I'm really busy, it's like a book every other week. Almost always nonfiction. It's very rare that I'll read a novel, but from time to time I will do that for the escape, like for the relaxation. Of it. Um, but for the most part, I read a lot of business books and a lot of how-to books, you know, things that will help me in my career or things that will help me better the artists that I'm working with. Um, and I find that the books motivate me because I'll learn different tactics that I want to try, and the excitement of trying something new usually gets me out of my slump or gets me going. Or gets me motivated. Um, many times when I'm demotivated, I'll skip doing something and then I'll kind of kick myself for it later. But there's never been a time where I was demotivated and I forced myself to do something I didn't want to do and kicked myself. So sometimes the pain of not doing something outweighs the pain of doing it when you don't feel like it. Um, also, I have found in my own personal life that when I surround myself with people that are drama-free, um, and I tend to run from drama, I do not like it. I do not like a bunch of bullshit in my life. I'm, I'm busy enough with what I'm trying to accomplish with my clients that any extra shit, I just kind of push it aside, and I tend to cut out the cancers that are causing it. So if there's people in my life that are causing me drama, I will very nicely explain to them that they're causing me drama and I don't do drama, and I extract them from my life happily. For the people that you surround yourself with, you really need to be around people that understand what you're trying to accomplish. Meaning, if you're entrepreneurial and you're spending a lot of time with people that think you should have one job for the rest of your life, they're not going to be very supportive about your ideas. So you may want to surround yourself in a circle of people that are also building their own careers or building their own companies, people that can kind of, um, understand what you're going through and can share their successes and failures. Um, obviously you want to know what works for other people so that you can try it for yourself. And just as important, you want to know what doesn't work so that you don't fall victim to the same pitfalls that they've already bumped their heads over, right? So I have found that surrounding myself— that's my dog, he's such a cutie. Tony must be coming home. Um, I try to surround myself with people that are already successful at what they do, but that are also building their companies or building their careers because it's just, it's more comfortable for me to have conversations with them when they understand. You know, when you, when you decide to build a company, it's extremely time-consuming, which means you're taking time away from something else you could be doing, whether it's spending time with your family, spending time with your kids, um, going to school to learn another skill set. Hanging out with your friends, you know, having fun, going on vacation, buying a house. There's a lot of things that you have to give up in order to have success. You got to be very long-term visioned instead of short-term vision, meaning you, you're looking at a 5-year plan or sometimes a 10-year plan, as opposed to what am I going to do next week or what am I going to do next month. You need to really have a vision for yourself and follow that vision. Surround yourself with people that are going to support you and encourage you in that vision, and get rid of the dead weight. And this is such a hard thing to do and to even advise you, because it could be your own mother or your husband or wife or your boyfriend or girlfriend or your best friend that isn't being supportive. And it's just very hard to succeed when you have people around around you that don't support you. And sometimes you can have that conversation with the person that you really care about. Like, maybe you don't want to cut them out of your life, so you have that conversation with them that they need to be a little bit more supportive. Or you— like, if they genuinely hate what you're doing and think that you're ruining your life, at the very least they need to tell you once how they feel, get it out of their system, and then let it go. They need to not be in your ear all day, every day, because that stuff— the little voices in your head— tend to slow you down and tend to stop you from doing what you need to do. You know, I was having a conversation today with a friend, and we were talking about how when you feel like you have something to prove, or you feel like you're not enough, you're going to go harder because you've got something to prove, or you feel like you have something to prove. And at some point, you need to accept the fact that you don't have to please anybody but yourself. You don't answer to anybody but yourself. But you also have to accept the fact that you are enough. And that what you're doing is enough. And until you genuinely feel that, there's going to be insecurities and those little voices in your head that nag at you that say stuff like, oh, you can't do that, you know, oh no, that's too big, no, you can't do that, you don't have enough money, you're too young, you're too old, you're too fat, you're too thin, you're too black, you're too white, you're too whatever. And those little negative messages in your head, you know, you need to hear them, you need to acknowledge them, and you need to tell them to shut up and keep doing you, because you are enough, and you wouldn't be on this path if it wasn't the right path for you. I think all of us as human beings are smart enough and intuitive enough to know what's good for us and what's bad for us. And many people that have hit walls or hit blocks in the road knew that they were going down the wrong path. They just chose to keep going because it was comfortable or because others expected that from them or whatever. But we all know, we know when what we're doing feels right, and we know when what we're doing feels wrong. We all know right from wrong. It's no surprise. So it's up to each of us to do what's best for us. And for me, that's how I stay motivated. I know exactly what I'm doing every day when I get up. I know what's on my schedule. Every Sunday night I sit down and I plan out my week. I plan out, as simple as these videos are, I plan out what I'm going to talk about. I plan out when I'm going to shoot them, how I'm going to shoot them, and, um, there are no surprises in my life. Yes, things pop up that I didn't take into account, but as I've gotten better at planning, those things occur less and less. So I guess what I'm saying to you guys is that be the best you you can be. And I, and I hate to sound all woo-woo with it, but in order to stay motivated, you need to be in a positive mind state, and you need to have positive people around you. And if you can't, like, if you truly can't be around positive people, you're going to need to get that from either videos or books. You're going to need to turn to a resource that can give you strategies and positive reinforcement and positive ideas to help you change your mindset and to stop hearing that negativity that's around you. And it may not even be people around you, it might just be what's in your head, it might be the way you were raised, you know. So, um, You got to be motivated, you got to dream big, and most importantly, you need to put your dreams into action. Because a dream without a plan and a plan without action is just a thought, it's just a fantasy. So guys, thanks for tuning in. I know I rambled a little bit on this topic, but it's such an important topic, and it's one that quite a few of you have asked me to talk about because you're at the beginning stages of your career. You know, I'm 25 years in, so I'm not at the beginning stages of my career. I'm at the ending stages of my career. At some point, I really do want to retire and go do fun shit, whatever that is. I don't even know what comes next, but I do know that if you're at the beginning stages You've really got to follow your passion, and you've got to do what you love, and you've got to surround yourself with people that have the right attitude so that you'll have the right attitude. Because without that, it's just going to be really hard to succeed. Thanks for tuning in, and I'll talk with y'all soon. Bye!