AITA for My Wedding RULES? (spoiler alert: yes, you are) | Wedding Planner REACTS

Am I the a-hole for my wedding rules? Reddit says you are, so this is gonna be a good one. Not to mention there are not one, not two, but three updates that have been moved to the top of the post just for like super uber clear clarification vibes. Hi, if you're new here, my name is Jamie Wolfer, uh, and about once a month we do an AITA over here on this channel, and today's your lucky day. If you're not familiar with what I'm talking about, AITA is Am I the A-hole? Reddit post where people will go and like talk about their situation and ask the interwebs if they are being an a-hole. And half the time I agree with Reddit, and the other half the time I'm like, no, I don't, I don't agree with Reddit. So seeing how long this is though, I wonder, I wonder if we'll have some feelings. So without further ado, let's just jump right on into it. So we are actually going to scroll down to where it says original post, and then we're going to come back up to the, to the edits. 'Cause that just makes more sense for my brain noggin and also for like natural numerical flow instead of putting the updates, just stacking them on top. You know what I mean? Original post. I have just finished my information slip for my wedding. Rules, food, driving directions. I made a copy for everyone attending but showed my grandma, Jess, first. She became very upset saying it's too many rules. But when I said that most of the slip was about the food, she told me I'm being a B about the rules. This is what the slip says. Oh, you know, when Grandma gets involved about etiquette, that things are about to get lit. This event is semi-formal at the church and guests are requested to wear blue, purple, light pink, champagne, or black. Please be mindful that the reception will be mostly outside grass, so flats/sneakers are advised to be brought as well for your comfort. The top line is only a request. That's the color scheme, and I wanted to include it in case anyone wanted to match. But I've already told people that if they really want to wear a bright red dress, or lime green tux, I really don't care. So why are we including it? No white attire excluding shoes/accessories. Guests wearing white attire will be asked to leave or change. If a refusal is made, the guest will be escorted from the event. Okay, beginning to understand why you got the rating that you got. And we just got started. Children are expected to behave and not interrupt the ceremony/first dance. If a child is being disruptive, please take them outside for a breather. There is a children's area just for the kids, but if the parent wanted their child with them, this is for that parent. No proposals/pregnancy announcements. Attempts will result in the guests being removed from the event. Ladies and gentlemen, can I have your attention please? Nope. Get her. Get her out. Whatever she's— nope. Whatever she's about to say, it's not going to be good. She's gone. Who's she dating? No. Oh, wait, that's her husband? Yep, pregnancy announcement, she's out of here. Sorry, we knew where this was going. So, bye. Plus ones are discouraged due to the size of the bride's family. However, if you would like to add someone to your invitation, please first let the bride/groom know with your party's headcount. I tried to include some humor. Where? Where? She was also offended by this line. Yeah. I have an enormous family and I don't have enough money to provide food for that many people, so I only invited immediate family/close friends. and people contributing to the event. I also invited their partners as well. For example, I'm inviting my great aunt and her partner along with it. Or another would be that I'm inviting my younger brother, so I included their siblings and parents as well. About 60 people total, including bridesmaids/groomsmen. The bottom half of the slip is food/drink. Wow, we really love that slash, don't we? Um, uh, mine and my husband's phone numbers. No. And driving directions. You like how my— the first thing I'm reacting very strongly to is including your phone numbers. No, no. I'm considering rewording some things. I feel like I worded it badly and maybe separating into one slip each rules, food, and driving directions. My husband and coworkers— haven't told anyone else— are saying I should only change Jess's slip. For extra context, Jess hasn't contributed anything because I don't want her to. She helped me out a lot with furniture/appliances when I got my first apartment, and I have just finished paying her back. Am I the a-hole for my wedding Rules. Before we get to the edits, because I can't help myself but see— edit number 3 says phone is dying so good night. I'm getting general passive-aggressive feelings overall. Are you being the a-hole? Yes. However, because I always have to like hedge my statements. I do think that this is in poor taste. I do also think that she's saying what a lot of us are thinking anyways. We just aren't putting that on paper because that's where it becomes rude. When we're at the point where we can't anticipate or expect just normal social decorum from our guests, um, you know, maybe we shouldn't be hosting an event of this magnitude. Or if you're concerned about a handful of people, you should be reaching out to them directly. But a list like this— and we've gone over this with like AITAs in the past and people having rules and whatever— when you go out of your way to elucidate things that should be considered common courtesy, socially appropriate versus socially inappropriate, when we're highlighting those things as do not do or do those things, it can come across really, really patronizing to your guests. So when OP is like, oh yeah, I mean, I ran it by my fiancé and by all my friends, like my coworkers, and no one saw a problem with it. I, I do. I do. I do. I do think that you should be shortening your list. I do think that you're asking too much. It's almost like that, that post we did a while back that was like, I swear guests don't read, and then everything was written in like paragraph form. There's just a little— there's an element to wedding planning where you have to understand cultural nuance and social awareness on certain things like writing too much, having it in block paragraph form when you're trying to communicate really quickly to your guests, or elucidating things that should already be really, really obvious. That's going to be an immediate turnoff to all of your guests who are like, we weren't gonna wear white anyways, but thank you for clarifying. Also, you have a dress code that you want people to follow, but you're verbally saying, just kidding, don't follow it, it should be fine. Like, what, what are we doing? Why are we doing that? We also have to say no announcements at our wedding. If your child's causing a disturbance, you gotta go. If you cause a disturbance, you gotta go. It's giving straight to jail. It's giving straight to jail in written form for your invitation, and I don't, I don't like it. Now I did touch on this a minute ago. If you are running into a situation like this where you have a handful of people or a singular person where you're concerned that this behavior could happen, because I'm not saying that we shouldn't be aware or have conversations with people that are points of concern, okay? You need to have those conversations with that person directly. And weddings are a really good opportunity to set up boundaries. And this is one of those. Hey, This is the behavior we're expecting from you on our wedding day. And it's gonna push you to have uncomfortable conversations. In a situation like this, I would assume that either the bride is just making a blanket statement and just not aware, maybe aware, I mean definitely aware after this, of the social ramifications of making statements like this, of treating your guests like children, right? Or there are a handful of people that OP doesn't wanna confront specifically about these line items. And so her and fiancé are just like writing a big blanket like do not do list and sending it out to their guests. It's not the first time we've talked about wedding rules. It's not gonna be the last time we talk about wedding rules. I totally understand wanting to make sure that your guests behave themselves, and I totally understand wanting to nip something in the bud earlier and make sure that none of this behavior pops up. This is not the way to do that, especially for just hyper-specifically wanting a few people to take note of this. Treating your entire group of guests as though they're children that don't know how to behave themselves in public is going to backfire. And I think that's what Jess— Grandma Jess— is thinking. By the way, like, who has a grandmother named Jess? Are we at a point now where grandmothers can be named Jess? I didn't realize that was— that's where we're at, you know, in history. But I guess here we are. There was a couple other things. Okay, so semi-formal church, requested to wear colors. You can't say requested to wear colors if it's optional. You're asking them to. Preferred might be a better term to use here. And yes, I think connotation is very important when you're having a dress code or the color palette of our event is. Blah, blah, blah, should you choose to match. That makes it sound like I'm not, I'm not telling you what you have to wear. There's not a required dress code. This, what you've written here, sounds like a required dress code. No white attire, excluding shoes and accessories. What about white button-ups? If someone's wearing a suit with a white button-up on it, is that not allowed? Like, now we've created— wait, I thought I knew the rules, but now maybe I don't know the rules. So now I have to figure out what I'm— do you like— what if it's a patterned shirt? And it has some white in it, you know, at what point is it okay? Is that not okay? Because I thought it was fine, but now it's not fine. But what do I know? I've only been doing this for 10 years. Also, to go as far to say like, you need to go change because you have white on, and what you're anticipating, someone being like, no, I'm already here in my white ball gown that looks just like a wedding dress. I'm not leaving. You're expecting that level of intensity on your wedding day that you need to make this a part of the rules? I don't, I don't think so. Or like, um, that's actually just like a portion too much of white in your outfit. That's not considered an accessory anymore. That's, that's a full tie. Uh, an accessory would be a bow tie, but the second it's a full tie, um, that's no longer— that crosses into too much white territory. So you're gonna need to remove that from your person or leave. Also, who's enforcing this? Also, okay, focus, Jamie. I— this— the— yes, you are. Sorry. This is not translating the way you think it is. Children are expected to behave and not interrupt the ceremony, first dance, everything else, have at it, you know, just go hog wild, I don't care, okay? But if they interrupt those two moments, then I'll be really mad. Other than that, you know, climb the walls, it's fine. No proposals or pregnancy announcements, we already covered that, that's annoying. The plus ones, this is what I wanted to sit on for a second. No. No. You can't say no plus ones unless you ask me nicely. Just set the rule. Like, just set the rule here in your mind. And if you're concerned about people showing up with plus ones or whatever that happens to look like, we cover this quite often on this channel. We need to start on the envelope, the outside of the invitation, and work our way inside. Make sure who it's addressed to says Mr. and Mrs. Smith. Or the Smith family. The outside of the invitation will indicate the amount of persons or which persons are being invited. So if you say Mr. Smith and guest, great. Automatically from the outside, we've notified them that they have a plus one. If it just says Mr. Smith, it's one. It's the one. That's all they get. That's all that's happening. And then on the inside of the invitation, if you have an RSVP card included, that's where you say one seat has been reserved in your honor. 2 seats have been reserved in your honor. And then you add another layer of, by the way, you only get 1 or you get 2. But this whole like, haha, I have a lot of people. All of my Latino girlies laughed when they heard 60 people for family and close friends. And they're like, no, no, no, that's just my first cousins without husbands or wives or spouses or nobody. That's just it. So, you know, to try to crack a joke with the size of your family to negate 'You cannot have a plus one unless you ask the right way, but also I've got a lot of people and it's super expensive, so like don't ask me, but you can ask me. Like, but don't wear those colors, but if you want to wear those colors, you can wear those colors.' I would almost prefer it if you're just like, 'No, wear these colors. No, you don't get a plus one.' We're hedging this in a really weird direction. And then for extra context, Jess hasn't contributed anything. At first I was like, 'Well, that doesn't matter,' but it does kind of matter to an extent. When you take it in the light or the idea of like if parents are contributing, then they get a little bit of a say. I don't think that's what Jess is trying to do here. Grandma Jess, Grandma JJ. I don't think she's trying to insert herself in such a way based on, of course, my very limited understanding of who this person is. But if she's the one waving the flag to be like, hey, this isn't— this is not okay, then I'm automatically kind of already on her side. Anyways, is the idea that if your parents are pitching in or like a loved one is pitching in, then they get a say in what you're doing on your wedding day. So I get that. I don't think that that's what the grandmother is trying to do here. Let's read the edits, okay, which are done in reverse order, by the way. So it goes edit 1 and then 2 and then 3. I'm so annoyed. Edit 1: The information slip is not also the invite. I have revised the information slip using advice from many of you, but mostly from Heidi Smiles and Does the Octopus Care. The usernames on Reddit Reddit should be how we design usernames for everything. Just randomly selected. You don't get a choice. You can change it or you can keep it as is because does the octopus care is, is peak. It's peak personal handle in my opinion. It now reads, this event will be held at a church and semi-formal attire is recommended. Wedding colors are blue, purple, light pink, champagne, and black, and guests are invited but not required to join in dressing in those colors. This is still a really long sentence, but it's Better. 'Kay? A children's area will be provided and families are welcome to have their children in the area at any time during the day. Okay. That's better. We do not have room for additional guests or plus ones. Sorry. You don't have to put that there. You don't, you shouldn't have to. That's, that's still a no. That needs to be removed entirely. Okay. McAllister's will be provided. Mac and cheese, soup, salad, fruit, chips, variety sandwiches, brownies, and cookies. If you have any allergies or food intolerance, please let us know at blank. This also could be mitigated by, hear me out, the RSVP process when people can write in dietary restrictions there. So you're not passing out your cell phone number to your wedding guests. 0 out of 10 recommend. And also we don't need to put the whole menu there. They don't even need to know what they're eating unless you're requesting a meal selection through the RSVP card process. Drinks will include, great. Water, lemonade, diet lemonade, sweet tea, unsweet tea, Coke, Diet Coke, Dr Pepper, Diet Dr Pepper. Yeah, I'm reading all of them. If I have to go through this, you do too. Sprite, Sprite Zero, and root beer. Driving directions, dot, dot, dot. Oh, I'm so glad you spared us that. We don't need to include the full menu of what we're offering if it's going to be buffet style and people are allowed to select for themselves. Okay. The only time we need any sort of information from our guests regarding food is are there dietary restrictions and/or what is their meal choice out of 2 to 3 protein options. What are they going for? That's it. We don't need to provide this ahead of time. We definitely don't need to provide our cell phone number, and we definitely don't need to list out all the different soft drinks we're going to be serving. Edit number 2, moving edit 1 up here and answering questions. The food choice is because I live in a smaller area that doesn't have much, but I'm looking into local options now. Mac and cheese is included for the kiddos. I don't— you don't need to explain that to me. Mac and cheese is peak comfort food. Okay. Are people giving you crud for mac and cheese? Because they can respectfully get out. Get out. The groom's entire family is invited, excluding one member for his personal reasons, but his family only consists of himself and 6 other people. He doesn't have any friends except for the ones we share who were his first, but they're also invited. Okay, so I'm assuming that came up somewhere. That got weird. Okay. Edit 3: Phone is dying, so goodnight. My husband and I have already eloped and the ceremony is for our family who didn't get to see it. 'excluded previously due to character limit and I didn't think it was important but some people beg to differ' so— at least you came into this with what seems to be a very open mind and a very open spirit to receiving feedback. I do think it's oftentimes interesting when someone posts something on Reddit and then just like argues with people who give feedback and you're like, well, you came to the slums of Reddit for social feedback. And now you're just like duking it out with people in the comments. Anyways, it didn't get better. The edits didn't— the edits made it a little bit better in some categories, but not, not much. Okay, do we know what we're supposed to be doing when it comes to communicating with guests? Okay, do we know that we can't include some of these things on there? Cool. Um, we're not adding menu, we're not giving people optional +1 or making blanket disclaimers about +1s. If people don't know how invitations work, they can Google it. Okay, they can Google it. Some of this is still too wordy in my opinion, but it's better than it was with the original post. Okay, let's jump to the comments, shall we? Eh, you're the a-hole. The slip should read, the wedding colors are XYZ if anyone wants to wear them, a kids play zone is being provided, and wine available during the ceremony and reception. Since the venue is outside, feel free to wear comfortable shoes. Same information, not a single rule. Comes across much kinder. Yeah, it does. Except for there's no wine. There's no wine. It's dry. Did you read all the drinks? You must have missed the update because there's a bunch of drinks and none of them are wine. So her response: I foresee disaster if sneakers and grass aren't specifically mentioned for the footwear. Sometimes it really pays to be super clear. Otherwise people will come wearing their nice shoes and plenty of people will likely wear heels. Since the venue is grass, feel free to wear comfortable footwear including sneakers. Yeah, I think I'm— I think of all the things we could be hyperfixating on, the shoes is not one of them. The shoes is not— is not one of them. I think if you have shoe recommendations or clothing recommendations, oftentimes I suggest putting those on your wedding website, um, or making it a one sentence: event will be taking place outside on grass, so please dress accordingly. Ah, you see that? You see how fast that was? It was so fast you barely even heard it, right? A little bit further down on that same thread, this person says, considering all the talk here on Reddit about fun stuff happening at weddings, OP just wanted to cover the common ones, like someone showing up in a white dress, disruptive children in the ceremony, people stealing the spotlight by proposing or announcing their pregnancy, all of which are generally considered rude at a wedding. But if all your guests are decent people and not prone to drama, those rules might be a little over the top. I totally, completely agree. I can tell this bride spends too much time on Reddit simply based on these wedding rules, because I can tell you for a fact that I have never seen a guest show up wearing white. At a wedding. I did see a singular photographer once wear a full white button-down. Female photographer not wearing a suit, just like a white button-down. And I thought that was an interesting choice. To be fair, she was expecting, and so it might have been the only thing that fit, but it just was— it was a stark white. And so I thought, hmm, that's interesting. That's the only reference point I have. Like, other times I'm like, oh, that's very clearly cream. I probably wouldn't have picked that, but it's not white. I can tell. Or sometimes it's like a floral print with a white background. I go, that's probably too much white, I wouldn't have picked that. But you know, it is very— it's still a floral dress with a bunch of bright colors on it. Those are all matters of opinion for me. I've never seen an announcement, pregnancy or otherwise, happen at an event. I've only seen them online, never in person. So you could just tell when someone almost like hyperfixates and spends too much time on the interwebs, because then they get freaked out about stuff like this. So yeah, do I talk about horror stories or do I talk about situations like this to make you aware of them? Yeah. One, because it makes for really good content, and two, because, you know, there's a one in a million chance that it could happen. It could. But the likelihood of it happening in person, you know, it's about as likely as a carriage horse walking about the same pace as a snail. You just never know sometimes what's going to happen, so it helps to be prepared. This person replied, I think OP is just planning for the worst but praying for the best and covering their bases with most of the rules. I would rename the info slip to something more quirky or formal to say things to remember so you can enjoy the wedding. Edit to add not the a-hole, but tact is your friend. Use it. Yeah, I still think you're doing too much. I still think you're doing too much. This is a great response. We put this information in the FAQ section of our wedding website and also had heel protectors/stoppers at the reception in case anyone forgot. We just said, please note that ceremony will be held on grass and could potentially be wet/muddy. I personally prefer my terminology. Event will take place outside on grass, please dress accordingly. If I receive something like this and it said I was requested to wear certain colors, I definitely would think that it was not a request but an expectation. Yes. Also, the humor about the bride's family being large, was that actually funny? No, not even a little bit. It honestly sounds like she's saying her family is more important than the groom's. That's the problem with subtle humor in writing, especially if it's not in a form where humor is expected. People might not pick up on your attempt. I hate to say you're the a-hole because it sounds like she's just trying to communicate, but I'm going to anyway. This could have been pared down to make it more welcoming. Well, obviously, as we saw in the edit, that his side is much smaller, but I do agree. I just think it didn't— it didn't land. It didn't land, bestie baby. It didn't. I also question the colors: blue, purple, light pink, champagne, and black. Okay, should the blue and purple be light too, or is it bright, or is bright okay? Also, champagne is a dangerous color for the bride, so adamant not even to have white accessories. Well, she did— no, she did allow for white accessories, just no white attire. As champagne to one is white to another, listing champagne as a valid color is just asking for a white dress disaster. This is such a good point, cuz that's exactly what I was talking about earlier. I've never seen someone wear white to a wedding but champagne. Ivory? No, not ivory. Actually, I think the closest thing I got to that was actually being a bridesmaid in someone's wedding, and she had us wear like an ivory tan colored dress, which was not flattering on my complexion. To say the least. Anyways, that's probably the closest that I've seen. But if we're inviting things like champagne, champagne is a very, very icy, very light gold. So it's a very cool-toned gold that's very light and not very saturated in color. So we're just kind of asking for it if we're inviting that, especially if the light catches it and it shimmers in such a way, then it's going to come across more white than it's going to come across any other tone. Plus ones are discouraged due to the size of the bride's family. However, if you would like to add someone to your invitation, please let the bride/groom know with your party's headcount. We'll decide if you deserve a plus one or not and if you're worth paying for an extra person. That's the vibe this gives. Yeah. If you really want to, sure, just run it by us first and then we can tell you no to your face. Don't do this. Don't do this. This is giving the same vibes as like A-list versus B-list when it comes to guest lists, and I don't like it. This bride is just making way more work for herself. Exactly this. Don't make rules, provide information. Yes, you're the a-hole. This is way too much information. And personally, I think this comes across as bossy and controlling. This is exactly what we talked about earlier. It's like not letting adults be adults and kind of assuming and controlling their behavior, or assuming that they will behave the worst or break the biggest social faux pas that you can break at a wedding and then needing to make that about rules for your event. Personally, I wouldn't want to attend a wedding that had this many rules and lists. I like what this username said, comes across much better than what you wrote. That whole diatribe about not wearing white just sounds rude and off-putting. I couldn't even figure out what you were trying to say around the headcount. It was totally murky and definitely needs to be worded better. Honestly, if I received something like this before a wedding, I would feel like all the fun has been sucked out of the room before it even started. I think honestly— okay, this person needs to work on their, their word variation. Personally, personally, honestly, honestly, your grandma was just trying to save you from something that is very embarrassing and it would probably be talked about behind your back. You should thank her. Edit: well done on changing your wording, it comes across much better. Enjoy your special day. Good, I'm glad you came back. Wait for the edits and the updates. Agree on all counts. If I got this invitation, I think the bride was cheap and controlling and just in it for the gifts. And look at me, aren't I wonderful? Attention. Oh, that's not what I got at all. And people would totally talk about behind your back. Get a grip. This whole list of rules reads as someone who has spent way too much time on AITA. Oh no. Okay, here we go. So seems to be a lot of talk of like, I get where she's coming from, yada, yada, yada. And then this person says, but then she'll be leaving out the draconian policing part, removing X, escorting Y off the premises, and so on. Reads like rules in a club of which I wouldn't be a member. I feel like there isn't a very good judgment for the situation. She may have worded it poorly, but it doesn't make her an a-hole. She really was just trying to communicate clearly. This person said, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Just because someone means well doesn't necessarily mean that their behavior is okay. The way OP communicated to guests was needlessly authoritarian, bordering on hostile and condescending. It was definitely condescending. If we are listing things that are normal no-nos that we like, we shouldn't have to list, that comes across condescending. A wedding invite should be fun and welcoming. Guests should have some guidelines for what to expect, but that doesn't mean it's appropriate to preemptively threaten them with being dragged away for not following common sense rules. Thank you. Preemptive threats and bad faith assumptions are a-hole moves. This person said, being called an a-hole in a situation isn't the end of the world, especially on this sub. You did ask, you did ask for it. It's not that high stakes a situation, but she's asking us if we think her grandmother has a point about her list, and the way we say yes, your grandmother has a point, that list is really off-putting and excessive, is you're the a-hole. This also here to point out that the majority of cis men in my USA-based experience at least will wear a white shirt to a wedding. If that isn't going to be grounds for removal, OP needs to be very clear on what is. Thank you very much. Okay, last comment and then we'll go ahead and wrap this up. Oh dear, you're the a-hole. It's off-putting. I know you're probably trying to cover all your bases so your wedding goes perfectly, but the way this is worded is so harsh. I don't think you need to explain basic conduct at a wedding, but if you really feel like you need to tell your guests what to do, make it nicer. Example: if you really don't care if someone is wearing lime green, why don't you word it like that? Try all colors of wedding attire. Welcome efforts to wear wedding theme colors. Black, champagne, purple, and blue are appreciated. Glorious example. There will be a child's play area for children who need a break from sitting quietly. Brilliant. Because then it's not shaming the kids for being kids, right? It's not shaming the parents for not minding their kids. Although, to be fair, if a kid's going to be really loud at an event, I don't necessarily discourage everyone stopping what they're doing and staring at the parent until they take the kid out. Okay. Because that's, that's better than the alternative, at least The alternative that this bride's presenting. Great edits. OP, also note that these edits don't include consequences. That's 100% correct. They just focus on options to guide behavior. The inclusion of consequences in your original script takes it over the line from harsh to patronizing, like it's a theme park or a legal contract instead of a celebration, and you expect people to behave badly. When you edit, focus on keeping things bright, providing clarity and options in a thoughtful, cheerful way, and leave out the penalties. It can be really, really stressful to plan a wedding. I'm not giving you brand new information by making that statement. It can be really difficult to try to figure out like, how do I navigate this? How do I make sure people don't do these things at my wedding? What do I do? Inherently, you are adopting a risk of something going awry when you are hosting an event of this magnitude with this many guests and this much orchestration. We have to hope that most of the guests are going to understand common courtesy when it comes to a wedding. We cannot teach that to them through an information card in your wedding invitation. If you feel this sensation, if you are hearing some of the things that this bride is saying, this OP is saying, and you're like, I kind of want to have that, that's actually low-key valid. Like, oh, what if I— I'm gonna ask you to pause. One, is there a person in your life that's making you feel that way? Then you need to go talk to them. Two, if there isn't a specific person Is it like a whole side of the family? Okay, is there anyone that you can talk to that can get on that phone tree and start calling people, say, hey, we're not, we're not having this at the wedding? One, so it's someone outside yourself, and two, so we get it off the invitation so all of the people who are going to be following the rules don't feel patronized. Three, if you're like, no, I can't think of anybody that would do that, I just want to make sure they don't, you are spending too much time on the internet. And I say that as someone who makes content on the internet that invites you to come watch it. Okay, go away, respectfully. Get off of Reddit, get off of TikTok. You've done too much, you've gone too far. If you think that all these horror stories are going to happen to you, they are very likely not going to. They're not going to. And if you are concerned that they are, I refer you back to point number 2 and point number 1, because apparently we go in reverse order sometimes because just to mess with people's brains, because why would we do things in numerical order? Now just keep adding the edits on top, you know what I mean? You know what I mean? Okay, anyways, so that's all we have for today's video, guys. Thank you so much for watching. Would you add any of these rules to your invitation? And no shame if you do. Like, I understand the kid perspective. I understand the color perspective, like the color palette of wanting people to wear that. And I think that most of you watching this, if you said yes, you still wouldn't say it in a way that was condescending or rude. I think you would say it in a way that was totally different. But is there a rule from this OP's list that resonated with you that you were like, oh, oh, I felt that in my soul? Because again, it's not like I don't understand where this couple is coming from of like wanting to make sure that their day goes as smoothly as possible. But this is not the way to make sure we, we make that happen. 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