Jamie Wolfer breaks down a Reddit post about a couple who charged guests $10 to attend their canyon wedding, required them to bring their own chairs, and posted their registry publicly. He calls the setup tacky and greedy, questioning the safety and logistics of a canyon venue while noting the couple's burden on their 20 invited guests.
Am I the a-hole for asking my guests to pay $10 to come to my wedding? Reddit says you are. Not having a real reception, just a small dinner for those who attended, and posting our registry all over social media but only having 20 people actually be invited. You're the a-hole. Not sure which is worst: $10 entry fee, bring your own chair, or getting a registry over social media, not being invited to the wedding. Guess there are no bathrooms at this canyon dinner. Better bring your own butt wipes. Mm, okay, well now we're just making assumptions, okay? And By the way, if they really are that crunchy, they'd use mullein leaves, okay? Read a book. I'd rather go to a wedding held at McDonald's. I wouldn't. At least that would have a clean bathroom and free parking lot. Not to mention a play area for the kids. Plastic babysitter. You guys are awful. You're the worst. Posting registry for anything with the intention of reaching people who weren't invited to an invent is so tacky and wrong. So is your grammar. That alone makes OP the a-hole. Registry is only for the people invited to events. That's the trade-off. So greedy to ask for presents from people who who aren't invited. Gross. I don't think this person was asking for presents from those who weren't invited. I think this person was prompted to put their registry out there by people who were asking, even if they weren't invited. I think there's a difference. But I think that, that maybe if you're running into feedback like this, you should do that— just send it directly to the people. And it sounds like OP hasn't even arranged anything with the park. The rangers may not even allow it. What a mess. Okay, but we saw that in the original part of the post, that they had already tried to figure out a solution with the rangers and it wasn't working out. So this is not Do you guys read? Oof, buddy, I was trying to be open-minded, but you lost me at posting your registry on social media, soliciting gifts from people who aren't invited. That's tacky as fuck. This canyon is clearly not meant to be a wedding venue. The least you can do is pay for people's entrance fees. You're the a-hole. Yeah, okay, they tried, they tried to figure that out. That's not an option, that's not on the table. The hike means a lot to them. What— with that in mind, what do we do? With that in mind, what do we say? How do we handle this? They lost me at bringing their own chairs. Yeah, let me get right on that. While I hike to this canyon and sweat my makeup off. Listen, hiking's not for everybody. My best friend talks about going on hikes with her family all the time. I'm like, that's so cute. I am way too pregnant for that to sound fun right now. Okay, the— my version of a hike is to leave this office and go to the couch. That's my current hiking status. Someone mentioned it's a mile walk to get to the area. I'm assuming she's getting in casual hiking gear. Yeah, she's having a wedding at the expense of others. They are paying for this financially, mentally, and physically, all so she can keep it inexpensive. I don't know if that's necessarily the intent. I read it more as the canyon is important to them and this hike is really special to them. Maybe I'm reading into this, and I'm definitely giving OP more credit possibly, um, than I should be doing, but I don't read it as that. I don't read it as like, oh, we're just trying to keep this as cheap as possible. My guess is they don't care about the pomp and circumstance that surrounds most modern-day weddings. They're just not worried about it, and that's why, like, if, if they cared about the aesthetic, they would control the chairs.
