UNHINGED Hot Takes | Wedding Planner REACTS

Well, hello, lovely humans, and welcome to Engage, a wedding planning podcast for the modern-day couple. I'm your host, Jamie Wolfer, and I truly believe that wedding planning does not need to be complicated or time-consuming. I kind of picture these episodes like jumping on a quick phone call with your wedding planner. You get your answers and you go on your merry way, because sometimes not all of us have an hour to dedicate to listening to super long podcasts or super long intros. So without further ado, let's just jump right on into it. Today's episode is actually an audio recording of one of my most popular YouTube videos. I don't know about you, but sometimes I just need to sit down and and be able to process through the audio without the distraction of a video. So we decided to take this sweet little nugget and turn it into a podcast for you. I hope you find this helpful, my friends. Welcome to another rousing round of wedding TikTok hot takes. Say that 10 times fast.

These are my wedding hot takes of somebody getting married this year, and I tried to actually make them hot because I'm noticing a lot of hot takes are actually pretty lukewarm takes. The first one is plus one rules don't matter. So like all those guidelines being like, oh, if they've been together for a year, you have to invite them, or if they're engaged, or if they live together, you have to give them a plus one. I don't think it matters if you don't like the person. If you don't want them at your wedding, you don't have to invite them.

Okay, valid, valid. That still is an etiquette rule. Here's what I want you to do. I want you to understand the etiquette rules and then choose if they apply to your life or not.

Okay?

But generally speaking, we can't do away with that entire rule altogether. There's an exception to it. If you don't like the person, obviously that's when we break that rule. But we're not doing away with it altogether. That actually is indeed a hot take though.

Which brings me to number 2. You're allowed to uninvite people if you send someone a save the date and then they kind of suck. For the next few months and you're like, wait, I actually don't want them at my wedding, I regret inviting them, you're allowed to just not send them the invitation.

Um, yeah, no, you can't just not send them an invitation. You have to say something. You can't just be like, oops, I went to North Carolina. Okay, you have to actually say something to them.

Just—

we don't ghost via invitation. We have a conversation like an adult. Okay, okay.

Number 3, open bar is a must. I think that no matter what size wedding you have, it's just not a vibe for people to be like pulling out their wallets They're dressing up, they're supporting you, they're coming to your wedding. Like, the least you could do is offer them free drinks. And I think if you can't afford an open bar, you should have a smaller wedding.

Okay, do you see the little part at the bottom? This is coming from someone who has $43 in her bank account. Are we projecting? Listen, that was vulnerable to put on there, so I'm not going to razz her for that too much. I think open bar is the ideal, right? It's the ideal. I think just underneath that would be a cash bar situation because guests would rather have the alcohol present than not in most cases. Scenarios. So if you're stuck between a rock and a hard place when it comes to serving alcohol at your wedding, just serve what you can, how you can, if you want to, or don't. But I don't think it's a must. I think it's the most ideal, but I don't think it's a must.

Number 4: you're allowed to be rude. And I'm thinking of the day of the wedding specifically. Like, if your parents invited a bunch of their friends, or you have people like distant family members you don't really want to talk to, and you're sucked into a long conversation, you should not feel guilty. Should be on the dance floor. You shouldn't be sucked into these boring ass conversations.

Hard disagree. If you don't like the people at your event so much to the point that you don't want to be conversing with them, you probably shouldn't be inviting them, first of all. Second of all, I think it's a sign of respect to have conversations with people, even if you want to be on the dance floor. I think it's a respectful thing to spend a few minutes with your grandmother, with your aunt and uncle who just want to wish you well, who want to give you a hug, maybe a kiss on the cheek. I think it's the respectful thing to do to have a few of those conversations. Here's what we can do. Here's my perspective as a planner.

Okay.

Here's what we can do instead. Why don't we arrange table visits where after you're done eating, you and your now husband, wife walk around and say hello to all the tables. So you get a picture with table number 1, you chat with them for a minute or 2, you get a picture with table number 2, you chat with them for a minute or 2, and that way you get intentional face time with everyone that's been invited to your event and you satiate that need for those people that want to chit chat with you a little bit because they've had physical face time with you less than 30 feet away. Okay, but we're not going to be behaving with this attitude of like, if I don't want to talk to you, I'm not going I don't want to talk to you. That's not the spirit of this, okay? Because this is so much more than people coming together to celebrate your love. You're hosting an event where you have to care for people's needs, and being rude is not cool, period.

Number 5: vows should be required. Um, this is just my personal take, as that's my favorite part of weddings. Like, I want to see what you have to say about each other. I think you can definitely have private vows that you can read to each other beforehand, or like a letter you can give each other, but you should have some sort of public vow. Like, you should be saying something up there at least, like especially men. I feel like at least the men should have to say their vows in front of everyone because I want to know. I want to know.

Number 6, just men, just specifically dudes. We need you to be held accountable publicly. I want to know what you're promising. Okay, so basically she's just saying I'm really nosy. Listen, I also like saying the vows, and I kind of like— I respect and appreciate why couples do not do them publicly if they don't want to, but I do have a little feeling of like, oh, Kind of wanted to hear that. Okay, am I also nosy? Yes, we are not secretive about this, okay? I love weddings and I love everything about them, so yes, I want to be immersed in a lot of it, okay? A lot of it. I'm not sorry about it and I will not apologize. But if you want to have private vows, that's fine. It's just the hot take specifically for just dudes, just dudes. Sitting here listening to a podcast is all fine and dandy, right? But sometimes you need an actual person to be asking some of these questions to. And you may be sitting there going, you know what, Jamie, actually, yeah, that, that makes a lot of sense. I would love to be able to ask you these questions. Guess what? You need to join the Master Plan. You've heard me talk about it, but do you know why I love it so much? You get over 10 lessons that walk you through planning your wedding with videos and spreadsheets and other detailed resources. Along the way. Join me and my virtual clients over in the Master Plan and get all your wedding planning questions answered. Literally thousands of couples have gone on this journey with me, and I'd love for you to be next. Check it out at wolferandco.com TMP. That's wolferandco.com TMP. Listen, wedding budgets suck. They're just like the actual worst. And the hardest part for me is that weddings are not cookie cutter. They're not one size fits all. And I think it's important to make sure that you're budgeting according to your priorities. Build a budget that works with your vision, and you'll be on the path planning a wedding that you really want. So if you want my recommendations for making your perfect budget for you and your partner, head on over to weddingpriorities.com.

Number 6: registries are weird. I feel like it's weird to just tell people what present they have to get you. You might as well just be like, can you give me your credit card information so I can buy myself the stand mixer? Like, I'd rather you just give me a handwritten card or like something that you think of on your own instead of, here, please get me this cutlery set from Bed Bath Beyond. It's weird. It's weird.

I disagree. I disagree. Okay, this is my hot take because I do feel like a lot of people feel ick about registries, which is if you do not want to do it, don't do it. Okay? This obviously is not for you. This next part of my message. I think registries are a fantastic way to support a couple as they're venturing out onto their own for the first time. If they have not lived on their own, if they have not lived together, if they're moving into a new space and they need more items, they need more things. I think it's a really intentional way of blessing someone. To be like, oh, you need new knives? I would love to purchase that for you. It kind of can feel vulnerable for the couple in some situations, and then in other situations, the couple's like, yeah, gifts, baby! It just depends on the spirit of the situation. However, being very specific and having seen lots of weddings and seeing those that don't buy off the registry— or buy from the registry, they buy off the registry rather— there's some real weird stuff that people think is an okay thing to gift to a couple, um, on their wedding day. Okay. K. One story I heard was that the couple received a picture of the groom as a baby and a candle and a do not disturb sign. That was the gift they received from the groom's mother. So I just, I think registries are a great tool to really hone that in. You know what I mean?

Real moment.

Um, that couple was my— was my parents, and that, that mother of the groom was my grandmother. Okay, is my mom gonna kill me for telling this story? It's too late now.

Okay, number 7: speeches are the best part. I want to know, I want to know what you think about the couple, even if you're a stranger to me. I also think if you're providing people with like an open bar and dinner and stuff, the least they could do is listen to your family, like get emotional and give a speech about you. Like, that's kind of what we're here for. It's not really just a party. Like, speeches are the best. People shouldn't complain about speeches.

Mm, okay. People shouldn't complain about normal speeches that go over a normal length of time. Okay? That's the part that they shouldn't complain about. Like, if you want to do away with them, that's perfectly fine. What I think kind of crosses the threshold or crosses the barrier is when you start losing guests' attention span after 20 minutes of speeches. That's where I start to go, mm, this is not great. It's not great. You're losing your audience. And what happens is if you drain their entertainment battery too far, it's hard to recover from that. So yes, speeches can be incredible. But when there is one father of the bride who has multiple outfit changes, a stapled packet that is his speech, it required a stapler because there were so many pieces of paper in the speech. The sun was up when he started. It was down when he finished. That's not the best part. That's too much because guests are going to be completely over it. They're going to be bored. They're going to be— there's another scenario where guests started watching a football game on a phone at the table because speeches took 45 minutes. 45 minutes. So at a certain point they clock out, they don't care. So yes, and just not too much.

Number 8 is you can't get mad at people if you're having a destination wedding. Fine. But you can't get mad if somebody can't come because they can't afford it unless they're being crazy. You can't really get mad at people. Like, same with bachelorette parties. Oh, if you're going to Austin, Texas and someone's like, I can't afford it, like, you can't be upset. You can't get mad at that. Okay, anyway, those are my hot takes. Let me know what you think.

Bye. I also agree. I think I saw another video, uh, that talks about destination weddings being like literally a filter. They are, they are.

They—

it will weed people out. And so if you were choosing a destination wedding, you were not gonna have everybody on your list come. And some couples are like Perfect. That's exactly what we want. We want to make sure that not everybody comes because we don't have the money for that. We don't have the emotional capacity for that.

And that's—

in moments like that, I'm like, well, maybe just trim your guest list anyways. Like, I get the obligatory invite, but maybe try to trim that down anyways so you don't have to deal with like the dance of it all and just cut the list to who you want to be there. But I do understand, as I'm often preaching etiquette here on this channel, that sometimes you just have to send the invite just to send it. Next video.

Rapid-fire controversial things about our wedding that I'm 100% going to get hate for. You start.

No band, potentially. I'm very much for DJs, and I think bands are unnecessary spending.

Yeah, I still am undecided on that. I, I'm definitely of the opinion that I want to hear Beyoncé singing if we're hearing Beyoncé, not a cover. People have told me that a band makes or breaks a wedding, so I don't know. We have like 8 weddings this year, not even exaggerating, so we're gonna do some recon.

Mm, okay. I love bands. They're also so expensive. They're so expensive because instead of paying one DJ and/or a DJ and MC, sometimes it's a, it's a two-for-one special on those guys to play through a playlist. You are now hiring 5 to 10 talented musicians that deserve to be paid what they are worth. I am not saying that bands charge more than they should. I am saying that automatically, if they are coming out the gate with this, we are thinking about doing a DJ instead of a band, we're talking about $100K budget. Automatically. Like, I'm already like, okay, I, I have you clocked immediately. Bands are also very culturally specific, so you'll find them more in pocketed areas where couples will just run in circles that have more money and/or choose to spend more on a band specifically, um, as opposed to a DJ. For me personally, I have only had a band at maybe 2 of the events over the last 10 years, so I definitely run in a DJ-heavy circle. It could be budget, it could be cultural, uh, but I don't think that this is necessarily a hot take. It probably is a hot take for where they're at, for the type of weddings they attend. But across the board, no, I don't think it's a hot take to choose a DJ over a band.

Number 2, no kids. Like, flat out, no kids. They ruin the vibe. They bring everybody, you know, all the attention goes to them. And sorry, it's my wedding day. The wedding— the attention is not going anywhere but here.

Mostly I feel like this every day.

Hey, it is most days. Um, you go.

Okay, uh, I don't think the kids steal the attention. You can have your reasoning, right? And just be like, we just don't want kids though, buddy.

We just—

it's our preference. I don't think they steal the attention. Like, you are literally probably wearing a gown. Like, looking at you, you're going to be wearing a gorgeous gown that's going to command absolute attention. The children are not going to steal from that. You could just have a child-free wedding. You could just say, hey, we're just having a child-free wedding. Your reasoning I don't agree with necessarily, but you do you. If you want to go kid-free, that's fine. If you want to have kids, that's also fine. I have never seen a child ruin a wedding day. Ever, ever, ever.

Potentially a colored tuxedo for me. Yeah. Haven't really decided on it, but I think there should be a little more fun than just a black one. Maybe dark green. Yes.

I haven't decided for him yet, so we'll see.

At least she's honest. Yeah, I haven't determined what he's wearing yet. Listen, at least she owns it. At least she owns it. I do love a good variation on like a tux or a suit color because I just think it makes it a little bit different. A little bit more visually intriguing. However, if you're watching this and you're like, I'm not, I don't want to, I don't do it, okay, then don't, then don't do that. But as for someone who is in this industry and does this all the time, I like seeing some variety every once in a while.

Oh, another thing, he wants to see my wedding dress before we get married, before I buy it, before anything.

I feel like I should be able to give you my opinion on like different ones that you try.

Your opinion?

Yeah, it's important.

Your only opinion of me in a white dress should be gorgeous, stunning, gorgeous. Would love to marry you, will marry you right now. Well, that is obviously a given, but apparently it's a German thing where you do see the bride before.

A lot of American things that we don't do, like the second look and like the sleeping in separate beds and like—

oh yeah, we're 100% sleeping in the same bed the night before, the night of. We do not believe in that. Also, I know I'm gonna sleep better in the same bed as him. Oh, I know. Hey, let us know if you want a part 2.

Bye.

Bye.

Okay.

Is this a thing?

Is this a thing that I just don't even know about? Like in German culture, you see the dress beforehand? Although I will say that perhaps there was a little bit of a misstep in his language there when he said, I think I should be able to give my opinion. I also see, I see it. I see it. I see the duality of what I'm saying right now. Typically it is a very bride-forward planning experience and typically a groom's just like, yeah, put me on whatever you want, it's perfectly fine. If he has an opinion on things, I welcome it. I actually love when a groom brings opinions to the table, as long as they're feasible, okay? As long as they make sense and they're feasible, and it's not like, hey, what do you think about hiring a helicopter? Like, with your budget, honey, that's not gonna happen, okay? But for him to want to have an opinion on her dress is a very indeed interesting and hot take. Would you want your fiancé to have an opinion on your dress? I would— I didn't— I did not want my husband to know, and I was like, no. And thinking about it now, I don't think I would have wanted his opinion. I I think he would've tried to say something that sounded or felt supportive, right? But he has no idea what he's talking about. And then it might've just given me more anxiety. So, so no thanks. No thanks. I'm good. I'm good. And he also didn't really have a lot of thoughts and opinions on the colors of our event. And so when I told him a blue suit, he was like, perfect. Say less. That's fine. I'm okay with that. Now, if he was like, no, I feel really firmly about this, of course we would've changed things up, but he didn't and it didn't bother him. Okay, we got one more. We got one more. And this one, just based on energy alone, seems like it's going to be a little bit intense. You ready? Okay, deep breath, everybody.

Here are all the hot takes I've been holding back from saying, but now that this app might be getting deleted, I don't mind saying them out loud. You can have a cheap wedding. You can have a wedding for under $10,000. It's not going to look like what you think it's going to look like on Pinterest. You make every Pinterest board under the sun, doesn't matter. It's not going to look like that. You are not going to have the room in your budget for those larger-than-life scale weddings that you are saving to your Pinterest board unless you start throw in a couple more Ks on that budget.

Mm-hmm. There's that planner I used to work with who was like, I really just wish that there was price tags on Pinterest images. Just be like, hey, by the way, that's a $300 arrangement. Hey, by the way, those are like very expensive linens. Hey, by the way, that venue is $40,000. Hey, by the way. Hey, by the way. Now listen, I'm gonna say this with my whole chest, okay? I am a huge fan of budget weddings. That's the whole reason that this platform was built, because my husband and I didn't have any money when we got married and I wanted to champion budget weddings. So this channel came to be. That's also why I created the master plan, so I can teach you how to plan your wedding as your online wedding planner without the fee of a wedding planner. It's right here. I'll also leave it in the description box down below because I think it's important to make educated decisions when it comes to your wedding planning. I also do agree with this take though. A lot of times, a lot of images, the most luxurious images that you're going to see on Pinterest typically are either a very expensive wedding or a styled shoot that are not as practical at a lower budget or, you know, with logic, period. Like, those styled shoots that you see with like candles all over the floor— do you know as a planner the feeling I get in my core when a couple goes, hey, so we want to have like tons of candles all in front of our head table, like spilling off to the sides right in front of the dance floor? I go, okay, cool, that's only gonna be for dinner, um, and then I'm gonna be watching like a hawk to make sure no one walks too close to it and knocks it over, and then we get wax all over the floor, uh, because the second dancing kicks off, we are moving those. Those are not staying there. So if you want that for the image, for that one moment, I got you. Don't worry about it. But then they're— then they're leaving. Okay, so there is— we kind of have to filter a lot of these ideas through logic and pricing.

Wooden flowers are ugly.

They're ugly.

And I know they're wooden when I see a neon purple bouquet or a neon blue bouquet.

I don't like solo wood flowers. I don't like them. I don't like them, okay? And I'm so sorry because I know so many people like them so much, and, and, um, I've had people ask me to do videos on them and I cannot bring myself to do it because I don't like them. I don't like them. I love for the DIY girlies who want to do it ahead of time and want to paint them their custom color, but I— they give me the— they give me the ick, okay? So I will cheer you on. I will cheer you on, okay? I just I just— I don't like them.

When girls say, I'm glad I didn't have any bridesmaids, I know they're not a girl's girl. I can see why they did not have any bridesmaids.

Okay. Do you agree? I can't figure out if I do or not.

I can't.

I can't figure it out because I think you're fully within your rights to not have a wedding party. But also, what? Like, I'm running through the couples in my mind. I'm like, I don't think that's exactly accurate. But then again, like, it's okay to not be a girl's girl. It's okay. It's okay to not have a bunch of girlfriends. That's perfectly fine. And it's also okay to say I have a bunch of girlfriends and I'm not having a wedding party. I don't know where— where do you land on this? I don't know where— I can't figure it out. I can't figure it out.

Okay. When people comment on other people's wedding struggles and say just elope, it's easier. You can tell they're bitter. A eloping is not easier. In fact, it may just as well be the same price as a very inexpensive wedding.

They are two very different experiences. Loping versus a wedding, they're two very different experiences. And someone expressing struggles and frustrations with wedding planning is perfectly fine. The solution isn't to pull the plug on the entire thing. Just let them vent a little bit, have a tiny little mentee bee, and get back on their merry way. Because planning a wedding is difficult. Planning elopement, I do think, especially an elaborate one, does cost about the same as some of those budget weddings that we see, especially if you're really leaning into a high-end elopement. Photographer to help you kind of curate this experience, because in my experience, that typically is the photographer leads a lot of that if it's very remote or very elopy. Does that make sense? Are we tracking with what I'm saying? So, uh, it's not a solution. Telling someone to just slope is not a solution. There's this term— ooh, I'm about to get a little psychological on you— there's this term. I'm gonna describe it, but I forget what this term is. My audience is so smart that someone's gonna tell me what it is in the comments. I just know it. I just know it. This idea that when someone's venting to you and you're uncomfortable with it and you're not aware that you're uncomfortable with it, but you are in fact uncomfortable with their pain, their sadness, whatever they're expressing. The common phrase of "It'll be fine, it'll all be okay" is actually a response from us to basically say, "What you're talking about is making me feel uncomfortable and I'd like for you to stop." We are not aware that we are doing it, but those kinds of comments don't really serve anything. So if anyone knows what that is, because this is like way back in the day in college, I learned about this concept, but I forget what the term is. Please let me know. But the wedding— just elope. Just a look that doesn't serve anything. That doesn't help me. So I completely agree with this hot take. Stop telling people they should elope if they're complaining about their wedding, okay? Or saying, well, I eloped and it was great. That's fantastic. This person's just trying to grieve a little because this experience is not looking like what they thought it would. So just let them vent, okay? But also, they're on the internet, so they're inviting those kinds of comments just like I am. Comment section's free, by the way. Get on in there.

Go all out and have a full-on wedding weekend. Who cares? Celebrate yourself. Literally make the entire weekend all about you. And make it just a parade about you and your fiancé. Who cares? It's literally your wedding.

Okay, um, yes and yes and you're also hosting a lot of people, so you still have to make sure you're meeting their basic needs. Are they interested? Are they having fun? Do they feel like they're like at the, the, the couple's show? Is it performative? Is it obnoxious? Because again, that battery, that entertainment battery, can be super drained when it feels like they are just watching something happen and they're not participating in it, or they're not a part of it, or their bodies aren't moving, or they're not eating, or something like that. So Yes, as long as we do it with a spirit of we invite you in because we want to have this experience with you.

Start telling your family members no early on and start gauging their expectations that they cannot walk on top of you. Try on tons of dresses.

Okay, she really be out here just throwing out hot takes and giving me no time to respond to them. Okay. Oh, we talk about this, the dark side of wedding planning where it just brings the weirdest things out in people. Where all of a sudden your mom is really passionate about your color palette and you're like, Mom, you haven't redone the interior of your home in 20 years and now all of a sudden you want to get into an argument with me about different hex codes? Mother, you have had the same hairstyle for 35 years and now all of a sudden the design of this invitation is absolutely sending you into hysterics? I don't understand. No, these are not personal experiences. Okay? Sometimes I just make these up on the fly.

Okay.

Or the food, or the amount of people you need to invite, or what you're spending your budget on. Everyone has pictured your wedding day. Your mom, your dad, your siblings, uh, your friends and family. They've all pictured it. Your mom might have pictured it in great detail. Your dad might have pictured walking you down the aisle. Your friends might have kind of pictured what it would be like to be on the dance floor with you. So they, they might not have been like, ooh, I'm envisioning and I'm manifesting what's gonna happen at this wedding, but they've thought about it. They've thought about it and they've thought about being there. And so they think that giving you their opinions on things is helpful. Because they're trying to formulate your wedding to fit the vision that they've already had of it, okay? Or the vision that they have of weddings in general, or what they believe that weddings should have. So then you're absolutely bombarded with so many opinions. So setting a firm boundary on this early on, or after, you know, a couple of experiences where you're like, that was cute, thank you so much, I no longer want to be hearing from you on this, I'm no longer accepting, uh, input on this at this time, thank you, is very real.

Try on tons of dresses, try on tons of different styles. Pick something you don't see literally every day.

I don't care about that at all. Pick whatever you want. And if dress trying— if trying on dresses stresses you out, do not try on a ton of dresses. Just pick one. Just pick one.

Okay?

I do like the idea of like having fun with it and trying things that you might not expect, but also who— dresses we're not seeing every day? What? What? There's only so much capacity for creativity. It's going to be something that someone's done before. The only person with original thought was Adam. All right. All right. So don't, don't, don't own that.

I hate that hairstyle where it's slicked down right here and then the rest of it is out. I think it looks weird and too many people are doing it.

I don't care.

Great.

I actually think it looks chic and timeless and I don't care how many people are doing it.

I think makeup artists have lost what natural looks like and have leaned so heavily into glam that they forget that not everybody's skin can handle that amount of makeup on it.

Nope, hard disagree coming in from my hair and makeup girlies right now. I think people that are getting their makeup done have lost the plot on what natural is because they come in with these images that are very much not natural. Soft glam, maybe, but not natural. It is enhancing their features. Yes, it is also a full beat face of makeup. I don't think it's the makeup artist's fault at all. I think that there might be some communication things that we can improve here, but I don't think it's the makeup artists that are like, oh, you want natural? Boom, full beat. I don't think— well, also, wait, that actually could be true. This hot take actually could— it's multi— it's multifaceted. Here's, here's my thoughts. I think perhaps they've heard the term natural associated with like soft glam so many times that now they're like, yeah, um, I'm just— you said natural, but I'm just gonna go soft glam because you don't know what you're communicating. So I think in that moment, in that chair, that's where we need to have that conversation. If it's the bride, it needs to happen way ahead of time at the trial, where if she's sending an inspo photo, the makeup artist says, let me just energetically reflect back to you what I'm seeing. You're using the term natural, but this is actually more of a soft glam. This is actually a full face of makeup. Is this what you like? So I'm just going to tell you that this phrase that you're using doesn't apply to the images that you're sending., but I can still make the images happen. Okay. But then if you're servicing a bridesmaid or a mom in the chair and they say, I want something natural, I think it's up to the makeup artist to clarify what that means. Like, have some images on hand. I understand the wedding morning is very tense and I understand that there's a lot of things happening. And so taking an extra minute or two to figure this out could feel like it's frivolous. It could feel like it's pointless. And why, why are we spending time doing this? Because you don't want someone leaving with a bad review or a bad taste in their mouth. Because you didn't complete the service the way that they thought they were communicating. So I think because their face is your billboard, it's worth taking another 60 to 120 seconds to confirm what the term natural means to them. Oh, I got so boxy on that one.

And lastly, in my hottest, hottest, hottest take, you can tell who was never ever in a million years the center of attention growing up and who was always in the back and always, you know, oh, I don't need to— I don't need attention like that. I don't need that. I don't need that. By the way, they have their wedding and it's not the bride you think it is. It's the bride that turns into a Bridezilla on the day of and like has this whole giant fireworks production and freaks out on people because they're not sitting and paying attention. The real cool brides and the real people who have been center of attention before and are just thrilled to have their people there are so relaxed during the day and are so focused on the guest experience that the production doesn't matter. That's my hot take.

What? In my opinion, it's the bride. And to be very clear for a moment with you right now, I've never had this be an experience with any of my couples ever. So this is a very hyper-specific hot take that I have never experienced. I've never experienced. But what I understand about humanity and about people, I feel like it's not the person who's never had attention on them that is then like, I'm going to make a giant production. It's the person that's used to attention on them that's going— that says, I'm going to make a giant production. So I— this is, again, I've never had a couple do anything remotely close to this, so I'm just speaking from like a purely person interested standpoint. Person interested. Listen, I like psychology and I love sociology. And so I just— I think it's really interesting and I love how just like watching people interact over weddings and through weddings and at weddings, it fascinates the absolute living heck out of me. Okay, so that's all we have for today's video, guys. Thank you so much for watching. What a rousing round of hot takes. Some of those were hot, actually hot. This is certified hot take. Okay, so that's what we have for today's video, guys. Thank you so much for watching. If you like the video, jump on down there and like the video and subscribe to this channel. Channel for more tips and tricks for the modern-day bride. And until next week, bye guys! If you are struggling with wedding planning and you have questions and you just need someone to listen and to chat with, come join us in the Master Plan Community over at themasterplanwed.com. I would love to have you in there. Thanks so much for listening. If you haven't done so already, subscribe, jump on over to wherever you're listening to this podcast and leave a 5-star review so we can let the podcast people know that Jamie knows what she's talking about sometimes. And until next time, bye guys!