VIRAL TAKE: Worthless Wedding Ideas | Wedding Planner REACTS

5 things that are not worth the money, wedding edition, as a girl who just got married 2 weeks ago. Starting off strong with boutonnieres. If you have a bunch of groomsmen, do not waste the money on a boutonniere. My husband had 11 groomsmen and we didn't put boutonnieres on any of them. Totally worth it.

Well, I mean, like, I get where she's coming from. I personally, I feel like the outfit looks like it's missing something if there isn't a boutonniere. But you already know I'm a little bit of a classic old soul when it comes to a couple of wedding things, and this, this is one of them. Okay?

I just like them.

My husband on the other case did have a boutonniere and it was crinkled and crooked on the altar. Just not worth it.

Okay, she does have a little bit of a point here. Anytime I'm affixing a boutonniere onto someone's lapel, whether it's pinned or magnet, I go out of my way to tell them like, hey, okay, so side hug people because you don't want to squish this, okay?

Okay.

Because at a certain point in the evening, yes, absolutely, it will be falling apart. So maybe the groom didn't know this or wasn't really paying attention to it, but very rarely do we see one completely smushed before the ceremony even starts. Maybe he's just a really aggressive hugger. By the way, hi, if you're new here, my name is Jamie Wolfer. I'm your online wedding planner, and today's video is sponsored by none other than the iconic Merit Beauty. So if y'all could go smash all the buttons down there, because this is literally a dream collaboration for me.

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She's glowing.

Number 2 might be controversial, but your wedding dress. Now, I don't mean that your wedding dress is not worth it. But you can find beautiful dresses at way smaller prices. And I feel like social media has made you think that you need a $15,000 dress, and it's just not true. Mine was way under $5,000, and it was absolutely my dream dress. Not to mention, the day after my wedding, looking at my dress, it was ruined. The bottom was black. There is no way to clean it. And if you have a good time and focus on the wedding, That's probably what's gonna happen.

Okay, I love that she's like, wedding dresses not worth it. Mine was under five thousand. Okay, I I would argue that a lot of ours are under five thousand. Mine was like way less. Spending over five k on a dress is overrated, I think is what she's saying here. Am I hearing that correctly, or did I miss something?

Number three is cake and food. Nobody remembers what they ate at a wedding. Nobody comes to a wedding. Hoping to have the best meal of their lives. I'll never forget my family being so concerned about what we were serving for our wedding, and the only thing that people actually cared about was the crystal that came at 9 PM.

Well, yeah, because you were serving crystal at 9 PM. In comparison, nothing else really matters quite so much. I think there's like an effort of like wanting to make sure it's good enough to not be memorable in a bad way, you know what I'm saying? And there are foodies out there, there are people who absolutely love food and they want some sort of foam On their dishes, which I texturally I don't understand. Okay, I can't get on board with. But there are those who think that the food is an extremely important component of the day. For me, I'm like, let's make it good enough that it's delicious and people enjoy their meal, right? But not—we're not going for Michelin star here. But of course, if we're going to compare it to Crystal at nine p.m., isn't it Crystal? Am I pronouncing this wrong?

Anyways, people want to drink and have fun and party. They don't care about whether it was steak or chicken. Number 4, wedding skincare prep. Now let me go back because I did a lot of promoting of skin prep. I'm not saying don't do skin prep. I'm saying you do not need to go and do every single skin prep on the books because at the end of the day, if you're stressed, you're gonna have a pimple. You cannot control if you have a pimple or a zit or your skin's a little bit more dry. Drink a lot of water, feel good, eat good, And you'll be fine.

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Go get that microneedling if you want. Go get the laser treatment, but don't feel like you have to do everything to feel beautiful. I did every single thing literally known to man, and I woke up with 3 pimples. It just is what it is. And coming at number 5, wedding shoes. People spend A ridiculous amount of money on wedding shoes. I don't understand it. My shoes were so cute. I'll insert a picture right here. They were on Amazon for, I'm pretty sure, like $30. I threw them out the next day. Don't ruin a good pair of shoes just because you think people are gonna notice. That is everything wedding edition that I think is not worth the money. I'm sure people are gonna disagree with me, but that's what the comments are for. If I think of anything else, I will let y'all know.

Bye! I don't think I disagree with— I mean, I Okay, obviously I disagreed with the boutonniere portion of things. Okay, I wouldn't go as far to say that the food doesn't— and I wouldn't go as far to say that the food doesn't matter. It needs to be good. It just needs to be good enough to not suck. Okay, but yeah, if we're comparing it to really expensive champagne coming out for everybody, it's gonna fail. It's gonna pale in comparison. But anyways, let's see what other brides have to say.

I am very sorry, this is very overdue, but here are 5 things that I would not spend my money on if I was Planning a wedding again. Not gonna lie, I don't really have regrets. I was very conservative and mindful with how I spent money for my wedding. There are things I didn't spend money on, and I'm very glad that I didn't spend money on them. My first thing was favors. I didn't do wedding favors. I did not want to do favors because every wedding that I had been to that did favors, I don't even remember what the favors were.

How many times did we say favors in the last 30 seconds. How many do we have, like 6?

And I don't even know if I took one home. So I didn't want to spend all that time and lots of money on favors that people wouldn't even use or wouldn't take home. Something else I did not spend money on was a huge wedding cake for everyone.

Oh, okay, okay, we moved past it. This is one of the earliest things I said on this channel that really ruffled some feathers, and I learned that in some cultures you have to have favors. Like, you have to. It's not optional. If you have an option, don't do them. Absolutely not. If it's consumable, people will consume it. Okay? So if it's a, you know, a little bottle of Tito's, if you want to splurge for something like that, if it's a cookie bar where people can take home a cookie or 2 of their choice, of course people will consume that. If it's consumable, people will consume them. And if not, you'll have leftovers for you to have afterwards. If it's something with your name and your date on it, I don't care what it is, the likelihood of it bringing joy to your guest's heart in 6 6 months' time when they're cleaning out a cupboard in their kitchen is very slim. Okay, super slim. Remember when we went through a moment where it's like people had wedding merch? Is that still happening? Are people still doing this where you could like go into it like a merch shop? Do you know what I'm talking about? It was a little blip of a craze, and then I think people realize it's a little bit nonsensical. But they had hats, they had tote bags, they had shirts. There were just so many things that you could get from this wedding, very merchy things that you can get from weddings, uh, and, and it fizzled out really quick because a wedding date is very important to you as a couple, but to your guests It's not as impactful. So getting something with your information on it is not really gonna serve them in the long run. Okay, so next up she said cake, like a giant, a big cake, which we know how I felt.

We got a little cake to do for our cake cutting. We did like a dessert bar which had like a bunch of like mini self-serving like handheld desserts. I actually liked it that way, and I think a lot of our guests liked that way better too because we had such a huge variety of desserts. that people could just pick what they wanted. I didn't get to try them, which I'm still mad about, but I heard nothing but amazing things about the desserts from all the guests. Like, everyone was raving about the desserts and our food and everything. So, okay, this is going to be a—

Oh, I have a feeling that's gonna be controversial. I mean, I've talked about cake enough here on this channel. Having a variety of desserts is a really good idea because then your guests can eat what sounds good to them and they're not just like boxed into one specific thing. Okay. Let's hear the controversy. You ready? You ready?

Going to be a hot take, but I'm happy that I didn't spend money on a wedding coordinator, a day-of coordinator. This is definitely to each their own because I definitely, definitely see the benefits of having one, and I definitely see the need to have one, especially if you're gonna have a bigger wedding. I have a very Type A mom and a mom who's like planned things in the past, so my mom and I planned out pretty much my whole wedding On our own, kind of just did our own thing.

Which is great, which is great. I'm, I'm not knocking this. I am a wedding planner. I also coordinate. So a wedding planner plans long-term, a wedding coordinator coordinates what you have planned. That's the difference between the two. So I do both. I've done both many a time. And so what she's saying is they did the planning part, that's fine. And she's saying you don't need a day of coordinator. Someone has to coordinate your wedding. Someone's going to. So it's either going to be a loved one or it's going to be your photographer and your DJ. Someone's going to be coordinating your wedding day. Someone has to tell you when to go from here to there. Someone has to cue when the reception begins or when dinner is served. There has to be someone steering the ship, period. So when I hear stuff like this, I'm like, well, yeah, but is your mom going to be the one running your wedding day? And is that the experience you want her to have on your wedding day? Is it possible to run a wedding day without a day of coordinator? Absolutely. I did at my wedding, and honestly, it's one of my biggest regrets. You still, in my opinion, need someone running the timeline. Behind the scenes. And if you don't designate somebody, it's gonna fall into someone's lap.

One of my mom's friends did day-of coordination.

There it is. Okay.

I definitely think it's good to have a coordinator if you are kind of unorganized or you don't know like where to start when it comes to wedding planning. Yes, definitely hire one. But I had all the resources, all the people where I didn't have to hire one. So that was something I was glad I didn't spend money on because at the end of the day, like, I think that my wedding ran smooth. I don't think anything Nothing crazy really happened. That was just like a personal thing that I'm glad that I didn't spend money on. That's one that's very much to each their own. Another thing—

Do you like how she— do you like how this poor thing's like hedging herself to be like, don't get mad at me, don't get mad at me, like you can do whatever you want? I think what she's saying is, uh, she didn't need a planner. She's glad she didn't spend money on a planner, which I totally understand. There's a whole reason I make these videos is because people can't afford a wedding planner. That's why I started this channel almost 10 years ago, was to teach you how to plan your wedding. Speaking of which, I have all the links to pre-order my book Down below in the description box. You do not need to hire a wedding planner to help you plan your wedding. You do need someone to coordinate your wedding day, whether you've hired them or not.

Another thing I'm glad I did not spend money on were any floral arrangements that groomsmen would wear, that my husband would wear. Personally, I thought the clean, sleek black suit was perfectly fine and didn't feel the need for any florals on any of the groomsmen or even on My husband—they did not care either. Boutonnieres can add up. They're kind of complicated to make if you decide to make them yourself. Sometimes I see them anywhere from like fifty dollars apiece, and that would—what?

What? When did that? What? What?

When did that happen? Added up really quick. I just didn't do them, and that was something I was glad I didn't do because at the end of the day, I personally wouldn't have noticed day of, and in my mind, it was kind of just a waste of money. Those were a couple things that I was glad I didn't spend. spend money on. Again, to each their own. You do what you want. And remember, it is your day. Do it exactly how you want to do it. Don't let all these people's opinions— don't even let my advice get in the way of doing things that you want to do.

Okay, okay, okay, okay. The $50 for boutonniere— I'm sure someone charges that. I'm sure somebody does. But where are you shopping? Because you don't have to be shopping there, okay? I'm just gonna tell you that right now. You do not have to be spending that. I still like them. I still like them. I'll die on that hill. But no, you don't have to have boutonnieres. Apparently this is like a new Bouquet toss, which— whoo-hoo! Don't get people started on bouquet tosses. Okay? It makes them angry. Okay.

5 things not worth your money, wedding edition. My credentials are I got married in May. So number 1, that's it, period. Fancy wedding shoes. I wore white platform heels. They were less than $150. I think I didn't spend a lot. I bought a shoe that I knew was going to be comfortable. I absolutely wore those things to the ground. I trashed them. I did not even think it was possible to get shoes that dirty. Literally had to throw them in the garbage. They were so disgusting. Also, you couldn't even see them when I was wearing my dress.

What is with these shoes being destroyed by— what are you doing on your wedding day? Okay, well, to be fair, I think I just kicked mine off at a certain point, so mine could have been destroyed. But they're so right. Do not buy iconic shoes for your wedding, or get it for the flat lay photo, okay? And then wear them for your ceremony so you can have like the I'm wearing pretty shoes. And then change. Okay, and then change. Because as you're walking down the aisle, you know, maybe some people might see them. Some people might see them, but you don't want to be wearing those all night anyways.

Expensive wedding invitations. The sad part about invitations is they will get lost in the mail. I had so many people not even get their invitation. That would have absolutely destroyed me inside if I had paid thousands of dollars for an invitation. Hate saying this, but they Do just get thrown in the trash. But I will say one thing, if you are having a black tie wedding, your invitations should feel a little bit more elevated. You can still find ways to make them look expensive without spending a ton of money.

I agree, I agree, I agree. If you are going for an elevated experience, just make it minimalistic, okay? You don't have to do this big elaborate design. Canva is an excellent resource for this, all right? I absolutely love Canva. Weddings. There's so many things that you can do with it. And then just upgrade the type of paper it's printed on. Maybe go for a rounded corner instead of a straight corner. You know, those kinds of things will really elevate the experience and still communicate what your event is going to look and feel like without being super expensive. I've done multiple DIY wedding invitations here on this channel. There's ways to really spruce it up without adding a lot of money into it. I don't know of rampant amounts of invitations getting lost, um, unless this is more of a new thing. I do think some will get lost in the mail, but not Not copious amounts. The bigger concern is, do you want to be investing thousands of dollars in your invitations if you know that 50+% of them will almost immediately go straight into the trash?

3 is a fancy welcome sign. I saw this on TikTok before my wedding and somebody said you don't need a welcome sign, everybody knows where they are. People look at the sign for like 2 seconds when they come in. Skipping it also saved me so much money. My original floral proposal She had this arrangement for my welcome sign. Instead of doing a welcome sign, I moved all those flowers. I think I put them at the altar or something, I don't know. But the point is, is I used all those florals somewhere else.

Which, yeah, but you don't have to have an elaborate floral design. What you're saying is you, you moved your floral budget around. I still think a welcome sign is very important if you are at an obscure location or a location that potentially could have more than one Uh, event happening on site that day. We've been to hotels where they have 3 to 4 weddings happening on the same day at the same time. So having some sort of signage that says this is the correct location reassures your guests. I also see it as kind of the bookend to begin your event. Here's what it looks like. So is it necessary? No, of course not. I mean, I just listed off a couple circumstances where it could be a lot more helpful, but in this instance you saved money because you switched where your florals were going. You can have a very cheap wedding sign. Still be elegantly done, still work with your theme without having, you know, hundreds of dollars of florals around it.

4 is program. In my opinion, guests are sitting there and they're just like, they look through it and then they're just holding on to it the whole time and they're like, what am I supposed to do with this? A lot of times they get thrown on the ground. I skipped these. My ceremony was just like a 30-minute outside ceremony and I didn't think it was super necessary. There is an exception to this though. If you're having some kind of religious ceremony like a Catholic wedding or a Greek wedding or something, you should have a program. But if you're just having like a quick I don't think that they're necessary. You can save your money and do something else with it.

Okay, I think what she means to say here is if it's a religious ceremony and your guests might not know what's going on, putting that in a favor will help them be more in the know. Did I say favors or did I say programs? My brain is short-circuiting. I'm ambivalent to programs. I think they can be very helpful. I think it is something fun for guests to look at, but it's an extra cost that you don't need to spend. If you do have a ceremony or elements of a ceremony where your guests might not know what that portion is, Your officiant can't explain it. Your officiant can say, as we head into this next moment, we're gonna be playing a song, here's what they're gonna be doing. Typically though, with the much more culturally rigorous style ceremonies, they're not gonna explain it. So if you want your guests to know why they're kneeling, you're gonna need to put that in the program because the priest very likely is not gonna say anything.

Number 5, which I feel like I'm gonna get some haters on this, but signature drinks. One reason I say this is because they were so expensive at our wedding venue. Some people prefer only wine. Some people drink just beer. Some people just don't want like a really sweet cocktail. People could totally disagree with me on that. That is okay.

Oh, the controversy. No signature drinks. She's totally right. She's totally right. Okay. Signature drinks. You can make it your favorite drink. That's pretty specific. Or you can make it a popular drink. So like a margarita with your own little twist on it. So if someone doesn't want Tajín on the rim of their margarita, which I don't know why they wouldn't, okay, freaking love a Tajín rim on a marg, but if they don't, they could just have a regular version of that made instead, maybe without the hibiscus flower floating in it. But overly specific, overly fruity, or overly sweet signature drinks often will be passed over for more crowd-pleasing options like, you know, wine, beer, especially if it's super hot out. People are going to gravitate towards something that is refreshing and not cloying. So keep that in mind when you're planning out your drink menu.

And lastly, if you're doing any of these things, that's amazing, that's great. The best part about weddings is that they're unique to you and your fiancé. When I was planning my wedding, I watched so many of these videos, and I would say 90% of people said do not get party favors, they just get thrown away. Don't get koozies, don't get hats. I got both of them and I have zero regrets. I do not think they were a waste of money at all. Good. So take these as I personally wouldn't spend Money on them, or a lot of money on them. But these are not rules for your wedding, obviously. If it's something that you really want, spend the money on it.

I'm getting married in 2 weeks, and these are the things that are not worth the money. Inviting people—

oh wait, wait, I didn't respond to the end of that last video. Okay, no, if you watch my videos and you're like, Jamie, I really want to do hats, do hats, boo-boo, do them. Because if people see how lit up you are about these hats and see how excited you are and you're running around passing them out to people, that's gonna be more momentous than a matchbox that's left at their seat or a chocolate bar. If you're excited about it, that will be palpable and people will want to be a part of that. If you want to pass out koozies or if the bartenders are passing them out with the beers or with the beverages, that's an experience, right? You're not just leaving favors for people to pick up, you're making it a part of the experience. And so if you're inviting your guests into that with you, that's way different than leaving a bunch of merch On a table for people to peruse that they may or may not like a handful of weeks from now. Anyways, back to this video.

I'm getting married in 2 weeks and these are the things that are not worth the money. Inviting people who are on the cusp of your list. The reason I'm saying that is so there's your variable cost per person. So that's like your dinner plates, your drink packages per person, the amount of chairs you're gonna have, programs, invitations, things like that. And then there's—

And it goes even a little bit further than that. Centerpieces. How many tables are you ordering? How many centerpieces do you need? Um, certain venues have like, if you go over X amount, you're going to be charged more, et cetera.

Also a little bit more hidden costs that you might not know just yet based on when you're making the guest list in the beginning of the process. Yeah. If you're having dinner indoor at your venue, for example, and you all of a sudden can't fit the amount of people that you've invited, you may have to move dinner to a tent, for example. So you're gonna have to rent a tent. You're gonna have to make the tent look much nicer because you're spending more time in the tent during daylight. So. Just think about it. Really think about it, because there may be a threshold where things get sticky.

Yeah, well, you, you're not wrong, but this feels like a very hyper-specific situation. I don't know of— I've never had any couple have so many guests that they break the threshold of being able to feed them inside and now have to hire a tent and then make it pretty. Like, I've never had a couple have that happen. I'm not saying it's outside the realm of possibility, but any couple that I had that has booked a tent has booked it because weather is imminent and they're already eating outside. It's already out of doors. They're not moving from inside to outside because they overwent the maximum occupancy for the space. So I mean, yeah, but like maybe just don't go above the occupancy number.

Something that is not worth the money I think is party favors. I'm pretty sure this is like common knowledge now, like most people are not doing party favors. We're not doing matchbooks, we're not doing any of that stuff.

Okay.

Sorry. We're doing a photo booth to kind of serve as party favors so people can print out as many photos of themselves or their friends or whatever as they want and they take it home with us. The next thing that is not worth the money is the champagne wall. I did not realize how expensive the champagne walls are. I think that if you have a champagne wall at your wedding, I'm immediately like, wow. But for me, it's too much. I'm not doing it.

It's, it's, it's so, it's so, it's so much because it's one, the wall has to be very sturdy, otherwise we're gonna have shards of glass everywhere. 2, the labor that has to go into prepping a wall like that, because you don't want warm champagne, right? So if you have 100 guests and 100 glasses of champagne, assuming everyone is going to be having one, which you would probably provide enough for all the guests that you do have, correct? Those need to be poured in such a timely manner that none of them are too warm. Okay, because warm champagne is something different. And by something different, I mean not good. It's not good. So the labor that you need to then fill all of those glasses, The building of the wall, if you're DIYing it, rental is going to be more expensive because it's hyper-specific, and then having enough people there to pour the champagne, to get the wall loaded up before people even arrive. There's a lot of stuff that goes into this. So yeah, no, I'm not normally a fan of the champagne wall. Excellent in photos, excellent guest experience, not excellent on the budget.

The next thing that I don't think is worth it is excessive signage. Other than things that you are asking people to do— sit here, Don't sit here. This is the drink you should order. Sign this. Go here. Other than that, I don't think that you need much signage. People are smart.

Okay, I've never heard someone phrase the signage like that unless you're telling people what to do. That's brilliant. I'm borrowing that. I'm probably going to be reusing it. Okay, so if you hear it again, it came from this video. Came from this video. She's she's not wrong. She's not wrong. You need to tell people where to sit. Yes, you don't need to give them a timeline of the overall day. So you don't need a program sign, but you do need a seating chart. Do you see how this is working? I love this phrasing. If the bathrooms are kind of obscure to get to, yeah, maybe you need a sign for the bathrooms. If they're pretty obvious, you don't, you don't need a sign for the bathrooms. People could see it. I do agree that people are pretty smart, uh, but you'll still have people ask where the bathrooms are when the door's right in front of them. That's gonna happen. It's gonna happen. That doesn't mean you need to make a sign for that though. Okay, last but not least. Okay, rapid fire.

Bridesmaids getting ready photos, specifically paying extra for them. What are you gonna do with the pictures of you in your pajamas?

We're gonna print them and put them in the book. In the same way that the welcome sign is like the bookend for the event for your friends and family members, your guests— that's the word I was looking for. It's fine, I know what I'm doing. The getting ready photos tell a bigger part of the story of the day. If you don't want to do them, don't do them. Okay, but if you want to watch your whole wedding day unfold and you want to see the story told in photos as it goes on, I love that part. I love the details of the makeup. Imagine also— okay, one thing, this is— I'm done with the sponsored part, but look at the, look at the packaging on this. Imagine this is a part of your flat lay. Are you kidding me? Okay, I love it. I love details photos. I love the getting ready photos. I'm pretty sure my sister-in-law, this was one of the photos she was looking forward to the most. Like, we got a confetti cannon, we all had matching pajamas, we had champagne, we got outside, we were excited. She was pumped about those photos. Then we spent like 15 minutes trying to pick up all the confetti pieces so she didn't get in trouble with her Airbnb.

Designer wedding shoes. Nobody is gonna see those, okay?

Okay, yep.

Custom reception cocktails. People are not gonna like that one. Half of the people will take one sip, put them down, and walk away for the money.

Okay, did y'all call each other? Because I'm sensing a theme happening here. Yeah, just don't get too specific with it. Don't make it weird, okay? Your wedding is not an opportunity to force people to like the things you like. Ooh, that's a bit of a deep take.

A getaway car. Where are you going? You've been drinking all night.

Well, obviously don't hire a car if you've been drinking all night and shouldn't be driving. But if you've hired one for someone else to drive, that's a vibe. That's totally fine. I love a vintage car moment, okay? I love a vintage car moment when a couple drives away in something that's with the cans. Shut your face. Shut your face. I love it so very much. But yeah, if you've been vibing, be an adult. Don't go driving. I'm a poet and I didn't even know it because it goes along with that same idea of like the photographer being there for getting ready photos. Imagine the Iconic pictures of you driving away in some sort of convertible, your arms in the air, you're holding your bouquet, you have a just married handmade sign and cans off the back, either in color or black and white. Just iconic. Like, what a way to end your event. So yeah, 100% worth it if you're not sloshed.

And a custom wedding website URL. Nobody is gonna notice, just you, Zola.

I disagree. Disagree, disagree, disagree. Okay, this is a very niche situation. I prefer custom wedding website URLs because they're very easy to remember. Ours was thewolferwedding.com. It made it so easy— you can look it up, it's gone, okay? We stopped paying for the URL. She got— it's made it so easy for our guests to remember where to go RSVP because, as you know, if you're planning a wedding, people are contacting you all the time with very simple questions. And like we talked about with the invitations earlier, oftentimes those end up In the trash. So you want to make this process as streamlined as possible. I know that one bride was like, people are smart sometimes, sometimes, and other times they want you to hold their hand through a process that doesn't require any handholding at all whatsoever. So with a custom URL, it's a lot easier to remember. Oh, thewolferwedding.com. Boom. I'll go type that in real quick as opposed to zola.com/brianandsarah, B-R-I-V-O-L, the number 7, letter Q. So is it necessary? Absolutely not. Do I as a planner love this hyper-specific niche tip for all of my couples? Yes. Yes, I do. Thank you so much for asking. Anyhooters, what are your hot takes? What are things that you think are absolutely a waste of money when it comes to wedding planning? Go off in the comments. Merit, thank you again for sponsoring today's video. I'm obsessed with you, and I know my audience is going to be as well. So that's what we have for today's video, guys. Thank you so much for watching. If you liked the video, jump on down there, hit the like button, you know, do all the buttons down there, and subscribe to this channel for more tips and tricks for the modern-day bride. And until next week, bye guys!