Watch Me Crash Out AGAIN | Wedding Planner REACTS

Well, hello lovely humans, and welcome to Engage, a wedding planning podcast for the modern day couple. I'm your host, Jamie Wolfer, and I truly believe that wedding planning does not need to be complicated or time consuming. I kind of picture these episodes like jumping on a quick phone call with your wedding planner. You get your answers and you go on your merry way. Because sometimes not all of us have an hour to dedicate to listening to super long podcasts or super long intros. So without further ado, let's just jump right on into it. Today's episode is actually a audio recording of one of my most popular YouTube videos. I don't know about you, but sometimes I just need to sit down and be able to process through the audio without the distraction of a video. So we decided to take this sweet little nugget and turn it into a podcast for you. I hope you find this helpful, my friends. Who's ready for crash out 2.0? I mean, the last one obviously went so well, but I thought, let's do it again, this time with a latte, because that'll make the Crash out more dynamic. Hi. If you're new here, my name is Jaime Wolfer. I'm your online wedding planner. And in today's video, I'm reacting to this fantastically horrible trend on TikTok, which is brides being like, my wedding is X amount of time out and I still don't have this finished. Listen, for the most part, like, wedding planning can be quite simple. It is very basic. It's basically putting together a couple of puzzle pieces to figure this out. I say that because this is what I do for a living, but I'm aware that, like, if you're not used to this, then it feels really overwhelming. But the overall mechanics of event planning are not difficult. It's the expectations, the finances, and the emotions that get in the way. So. So if you are planning a wedding and you're feeling like you're about to crash out because you don't know when you're supposed to be getting stuff done, that tells me that you don't really have a professional rudder in this sphere at all whatsoever. So I'd highly recommend checking out my ultimate wedding planning checklist. Cheesiest name, best checklist. You're gonna find out there. I've literally been using this exact framework with my clients for 10 years now. Gosh, I feel old every time I say that. That way, if you make a video like this two weeks out, I won't have anything to react to. I'll be like, no notes, chef's kiss. Someone followed directions. Thank you so much. Anyways, that's not why we're here though. It's not why we're here. So without further ado, let's just jump right on into it. Okay? So this was posted at the beginning of August. Think she hasn't done as an October 2025 bride? Two months. Two months. Okay, cute. We got. That's so much time as a 2025 bride.

Here's everything that I have not done yet. Not only am I getting married in 2025, I get married in two months.

So.

So let's get into it. Number one, invitations, they have not gone out yet.

Yeah.

Okay. We just, we discussed this in the last go around. Six weeks is like the closest amount of time. Okay. Some people might fight me on it. It still falls within the window of etiquette. It's totally fine. Okay. So I just want to make sure that they're at least designed and you have all of the addresses. That's it. That's all I want to make sure. Are they designed and do you have the addresses? Because then it's just a matter of getting them printed, right? Because if you're ordering them for printing, then they're going to take a couple weeks to get to you. So, like, I don't care if you're doing it in Canva. I don't care if you're doing it through Zazzle. I don't care if you're doing it through Minted. But like, it takes. It takes a minute to get them back. And if we're working retroactively for Your wedding day, RSVP date is 30 days out from your event. You can't really push it any further than that because people will not be paying attention to it. Do not fight me on this or fight yourselves in the comments. I don't care. So you need to give people a couple of weeks to make sure they can actually request time off of work should they need to. Okay, so now's the time. Two months out. Now's the time to at least be ordering your invitation so they can get in the mail by the six week cutoff. Okay. Okay.

Makeup.

I have not scheduled a makeup artist for myself. There was one girl that I really wanted to go with and I've been waiting on her to send me the invoice for like four months now.

We talk about this last one.

Okay. Like, a lot of people like to leave hair and makeup to last minute, and I know it drives hair and makeup artists crazy. Okay, don't do that. If you want to have a professional hair and makeup artist for your wedding day, then you need to make sure you're dedicating time to booking a professional hair and makeup artist. Okay? There a lot of them are not free at the last minute, or at least you don't get to be choosy at the last minute. Okay. And then you'll have to do a lot of administrative work to be able to find someone who is available that you actually like their work. And then it gives you no time. No time, really, really, for any sort of trial, which I 10 out of 10 recommend. I don't care if you're doing it yourself. Like, you could practice at home by yourself, right? Or if a friend's doing it, you could practice there. But you need to have a practice dry run of this because I just don't think it's too big of an ass to know what your face is going to look like for your wedding day. So if your hair and or makeup artist is dragging their feet on getting you a contract or an invoice or something, like book somebody books it, but book somebody else. Sitting here listening to a podcast is all fine and dandy, right? But sometimes you need an actual person to be asking some of these questions to and you may be sitting there going, you know what, Jamie? Actually, yeah, that. That makes a lot of sense. I would love to be able to ask you these questions. Guess what? You need to join the master plan. You've heard me talk about it, but do you know why I love it so much? You get over 10 lessons that walk you through planning your wedding with videos and spreadsheets and other detailed resources all along the way. Join me and my virtual clients over in the master plan and get all your wedding planning questions answered. Literally thousands of couples have gone on this journey with me and I'd love for you to be next. Check it out@wolferenco.com tmp that's wolferenco.com tmp Listen, wedding budgets suck. They're just like the actual worst. And the hardest part for me is that weddings are not cookie cutter. They're not one size fits all. And I think it's important to make sure that you're budgeting according to your priorities. Build a budget that works with your vision and you'll be on the path to planning wedding that you really want. So if you want my recommendations for making your perfect budget for you and your partner, head on over to Wedding priorities dot com.

My dress is not done yet. I Went for one fitting and it was tea, but it's not done yet. Do I know when the second fitting is happening? I do not.

This concerns me less because it's already in the hands of a professional. Ball's not in her court. It's not up to her to, like, make sure something happens. I would recommend a call to the alteration specialist, like the seamstress or the tailor, whatever, to be like, hey, what's the stuff status on this? Like, when am I coming in for the next fitting? But we got two months. We are fine. We are fine. In an ideal situation, they'd like to at least have an answer to this. So, like, if I, if this was my client, I'd be like, just calm, just peace of mind, you know.

Transportation, there's no wedding transportation that has been booked. There has been no hotel secured transportation.

I'm not worried about if you're not worried about it. If you're committed to getting a car, like a transportation service booked, you need to do that now. You need that asap. Hotel, like, if you don't care what hotel you're staying at, like, I don't care either. You know, Like, I'm not going to force you to be stressed out about something that you don't want to put any time or energy into. That's totally fine. In fact, I actually recommend getting an Airbnb for the weekend. Here's. You want to, you want a little pearl, little budget nugget to take away from this little video? Get an Airbnb. Host your rehearsal dinner at the Airbnb, right? Get ready there the next day, right? Make sure everybody cleans up in between these activities. It only works if everyone cooperates and they actually clean up after themselves. Okay, this doesn't work. Work if everyone leaves you with a mess. And then your wedding night, you can stay there, okay, three nights, one central location. Absolute perfection. Because then it just, it gives you a home base to bring all your DIYs to. And you're not worried about a later check in or early checkout. You have the whole weekend there. That gives you a little bit more breathing room and gives you a little bit more operating space, which oftentimes you will need if you are traveling, you know, even 30 minutes from your house is a little bit more of an adventure. It's less easy to just go back and grab something. So if you can have a base where everything lives for the weekend. Again, only works if people actually clean up, though.

We're not doing a cocktail hour, but we are doing a Sterling reception that has not been secured. There's no food for that. There's no decorations for that.

I'm sorry, what? Reception. I have not heard this term before. So. I mean, like, sometimes people be making stuff up on the Internet or sometimes, like I just be uneducated. I don't know, strolling reception. Just saw in the comments. No, sit down. Dinner, I think hors d', oeuvres, food stations and small bites. So it's an appetizer only reception, Your whole reception is a cocktail. You have no food for two months. Okay, listen, I'm not, I'm not mad about it. Again, we talked about this in the last video. I just want to make sure that you don't give yourself too much of a mental or administrative load in the last handful of weeks before your wedding. If the expectation is that you're find a caterer that's going to do past apps during this time, like, that's a. That's problematic for me. Okay, because then that's going to be really hard to find, you know, a professional caterer within the time frame that we're talking about. If we're doing like, you know, the flat pretzels and hummus from Costco. We love Costco. Then my expectations are lowered accordingly. It's just, it's just this is a lot for you to figure out at the last minute. Okay, It's a lot. So, like, can you find a friend or someone we could pass this along to? Well, also. Wait, did you say you don't have a location for this? Hold on, hold on.

Are doing a sterling reception that has not been secured. There's no food for that. There's no decorations for that.

Like, there's no place for it. When she says that has been secured, is there no place for it? Why did I agree to this video? Do we have a location? Because this explains why we don't have invitations because we don't even know where we're sending people. K, K k K Decorations. I'm less fussed about with something like this. Because you can do the belly bar tables, like cocktail hour tables. The taller ones, the skinny ones with tablecloths I delete to the floor. You don't want ankles showing on your tables. Okay, that's just. It's a tiny little pet peeve of mine. It's not a big deal. And then like a couple of candles in the center, maybe a couple of flowers that you pick up from the grocery store. Like, I'm not out here trying to force you to like, spend a Lot of money on your wedding, but you might need something in the center of the table to, like, keep the tablecloth down in case it's windy or, like, grounded a little bit. Just a little something.

I had a hair consultation with the girl, and she told me that she was available that day, booked my deposit, and haven't heard back from her since. I texted her the other day, no response.

Okay, but, like, you booked somebody. Okay, so, like, yes, again, if I was your planner, like, follow up. Just a little. Cute, cute. Follow up. Like, hi, just want to double check with you. Like, we're still on, right?

Oh, back to the dress update. I texted the people, like, hey, when can I come back from the update? There's no update. They haven't responded back to my text message. Like, I love that for y'.

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I love that y' all are adding this dress for me. Hair, makeup. Andres, love that. It's like, a lot, but it's really not that much. It's not that bad.

It's not that bad. It's not that bad.

It's not that bad. It's not that bad.

Who are you convincing? Me or you?

Oh, I'm pretty sure my fiance does not have his suit yet. And I'm pretty sure none of the groomsmen, they also do not have a suit. So, yeah, those are all the things that I could think of right now. Off the top of my head. I'm pretty sure there's, like, a lot more, but it's okay. Like, life still is good. Definitely. It's gonna be a wedding that's happening. I guess I'll let you guys know whenever the invitations go out. But, yeah, and I'm stressing. I just wake up every day and just vibe and just pray for the best. God, is that.

Generation tugs don't have me for sending people your way. Okay, but, like, okay, like, call them. I only say this because I have 42nd experience of, like, walking through their warehouse and I know how many suits they have. So just. Just call and check. Okay. Just call and check. It's a very tight turnaround. I can't guarantee they're gonna be able to do it. But, like, we love them. We love Generation Dogs so much. This is not sponsored. I don't have anything else to add to that. She's got vibes, so she's good. But wait, there's more.

My wedding is in 11 days, and here's everything that I still need to do. Sorry if this stresses you out, but this is just the reality of being a procrastination. Vaccinator while planning a wedding. I still need to order our flowers. I was planning on doing it through Costco, but our wedding's on a Monday, and Costco doesn't do weekend deliveries, so I found another place. I just need to figure out how much of everything, so I'm doing that today.

Promise? Promise. I don't like these videos anymore. Again, if you've got, like, a loose vision of what you want, great. If. If you just want, like, white and greenery, totally fine. You're not worried about it. Cool. I hope you practice with florals. Like, I hope you practice this DIY ahead of time. Because, like, I don't want you to crash out. Like, I'm crashing out right now hearing this information, but yours would instead be a couple days before your wedding because you forgot to practice doing your florals. Okay. I need you to place this order because it takes time with florals, unless you've heard otherwise from where you're getting them. I think this is a trap that a lot of DIY brides fall into where they're like, oh, I could just do it later. I could just do it last minute. Like, the time frames don't matter because I'm diying it. Ergo, like, I could just, like, order it later. And this may not be just like DIY brides. It could also be type B brides. It could type Z brides. Like, I don't care. I don't care. Like, a lot of times if they're like, oh, I'm not going with a professional, so I don't have to abide by those timelines. Yes. And also, no. That's why I recommend at least working off my checklist. And then, like, you can see the general pacing of things, because I prefer pacing right over, like, hard and fast deadlines. There's a couple that are hard and fast that I don't think you should necessarily break. But, like, I'm. Again, I'm breezy. I'm not out here trying to force everybody to get stuff done on my time frame. Right. Like, I want to make sure that you feel good in the last two weeks. Not. Not, like, hey, I don't have flowers.

I still need to order a cake. It's not gonna be a crazy cake.

I just.

We're not from the area where the wedding is, and so I need to do some research and find a place and order the dang cake.

That doesn't matter. That. That doesn't. That doesn't. That. Sorry. If this was. If this was A high school administrative office, and you came in with that. And I was your. Your high school administrator. I was like that. I would be like, that excuse is not that valuable. That's not. You could still figure out your cake from a distance. You still have to do research. And it's 10 days out. They might not even have time to put together a cake with this amount of time. Like, I don't know what Costco's cut off is, but I'm pretty sure it's, like, at least 48 hours. So, like, maybe go with that. Because, like, if you didn't know the Internet doesn't just exist for where you live, you could research things outside of that as well. Because, for the record, shout out to my social media gal, Chelsea, who just eloped and, like, literally threw together the cutest, most perfect little elopement I've ever seen. I don't even know how people she had there. It was so gorgeous. She got a secondhand dress altered, ready to go in, like, what, a month and a half? Like, go, girl. She had flowers. She had a suit for him. She had things. She had literally everything that she needed for her wedding in a very, very short amount of time. And it all was very cohesive, and it came together really nicely. What made it more convenient and easy for her, I'm sure, is having lower expectations, having a smaller guest count, and having a simple vision that was easy to pull off. She wasn't dead set on a specific vision of a dress and needed to go to 17 different bridal boutiques to be able to figure it out, because her vision was more flexible, but also came together absolutely impeccably because, Chelsea, I adore you. You're fantastic at what you do. She was able to do it masterfully. And she's gonna edit this into some sort of short form content. And I hope she overlays some photos of her wedding should she choose to. Okay. So short timelines don't bother me. Kay. Just want to make sure that you're not stressy pants McGee right before you get married. Okay.

Okay. I'm still in the process of finalizing all of our music with our violinist. We're getting there. It's just there's little details and things that haven't been finalized. So I have been emailing back and forth with her, but that needs to be done.

Okay. Something not done versus not finalized. Like, we're splitting hairs at this point. You're fine. You're already in discussions. Okay. You're good. I'm so proud of you.

I still haven't found my getting ready outfit. I ordered one. It's not going to be here in time, so we gotta figure that out. I'm probably just gonna order something on Amazon that I don't actually love because we have 11 days.

Yeah, let me de influence you for a second. You don't need to have a getting ready outfit. Especially like, I mean you can if you want to wear something all white and it is sweet and it's very whimsical but like you're probably not gonna wear and wear it again. So it could be more of a one time use thing. Especially if it says the word bride on it anywhere. Okay. So yeah, you can snag something from Amazon. It's probably gonna be like not the highest quality. It's gonna get the job done. Or you can go to Goodwill. I saw this on a video forever ago. I should have saved it. I don't even know where it is. But this gal like went and thrifted men's dress shirts and put like little initials on the pockets and it was so freaking cute because then they had custom getting ready shirts because they were like button up shirts. They didn't have to take over their hair and makeup, but it was way more affordable and it wasn't fast fashion. Again, if you want a getting ready outfit, I'm not judging you for it. Okay. But like if you were at this point 11 days out, like, well, I guess going to Goodwill and finding the perfect oxford shirt is also not gonna happen. So I mean, maybe Amazon it is.

I still have quite a few DIY projects to do, but the biggest one that is just eating at me is the pedestals for the ceremony backdrop. I'll put a picture. My stepdad is going to help me make those, but I am like, these need to be done.

Those don't stress me out. You have someone else in there like doing it. Hopefully he's going to take like a little bit of initiative to make this happen. You have a second person that's responsible for this. Everything else you've listed so far, it sounds like it's probably on you. Obviously you haven't mentioned your fiance jumping in, helping out. Those again. It's fine. I don't mind that last minute diy. But wait, this is also out of town.

I still need to finalize the itinerary to give to our photographer because I gave her just a rough estimate, but I need to actually put one together so she's able to, you know, know what time everything is going to be and Also, for our sake, I'm just like, I have no idea how long everything is going to take. I just don't, I don't know what to do. So I've pushed it off and here we are 11 days out and I don't, I don't know what we're doing.

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Dessert we're baking cookies. So we're doing that today. We're gonna bake all the cookies and freezer them. I still need to get a few gifts for like my mom and future mother in law and my grandma. I've ordered some things, but I still need to get a few more things.

Why is this always a last minute thing? It's always a last minute thing. Always. Like, how many videos of these have we done? Okay, this is my second one doing video like this. But like it's always like a last minute, like, oh, yeah, by the way, I have to go buy stuff for really important people. I got like a week. So it's gonna be real, real special because I came up with it seven days beforehand. I say that and like, I don't even think I got my mom something for my wedding day. I think we got something for my mother in law because I thought about that in order in advance, but I don't think I'm for my mom. So. Hypocritical much. Yes.

I have one more dress fitting next week and then I'm picking up my dress the day that we are driving to our wedding venue. So there's just like honestly one piece that we had made and they want to make sure that it is right.

Before I pick it up. Okay. Again, starting in the hands of professionals. So we really can't do much with it now. Okay. Because it's already there. And so if there's like one detail left and everything else feels like great and snatched and delightful, like, I'm so happy for you. Oh. What concerns me though, like in a situation like this is, is that she's picking it up the day she's leaving for her wedding venue to go out of town. And so there, there is no options. There's no, there's no room for error. But of course we love and respect this alteration specialist and we're just hoping for the best. Right? We've already seen nothing but green flags. Like, I'm okay with that. It's just not my favorite. So if you're in a situation where you have a choice, don't choose the day you leave.

There's like, honestly quite a bit more just like DIY things and like canvas projects. But for the most part that's what I have left to do. And I am just a little bit stressed. But honestly, it's all going to work out and everything will get done in time. It might just cause me a little bit of stress.

So. Download checklist, please. Download, download, download the checklist please. Because a lot of this could be done ahead of time. All right. Okay. Guess what? There's one more. There's one more. This one has like almost 50,000 likes, so you know it's going to be just.

So I keep seeing those tick tocks of everyone being like, I get married in two weeks. Like, here's all the things that I haven't done. I'm getting married in two weeks. Here's all the things that I have yet to do. Number one, my favorite. We haven't finalized a caterer. I'm in talks with one. They just won't send me the invoice anyways.

Okay, I'm. I'm gonna hope. I'm gonna hope. I'm gonna hope that we got. Okay, there's a scale. There's like a wedding caterer with servers, etc. Right? Then there's like buffet style catering, and then there's like drop catering. And then there's like your Uncle Bob picks it up and brings it for you, like, right? So you can do Daphne's Greek kitchen. You can order that two weeks in advance. I'm less worried about that. It may not look great, but it's gonna taste bomb. In fact, I miss Daphne so much. Shout out to you guys. But I really don't love this story for you.

Number two, wedding rings. We don't have those. Have yet to order them. Probably should do that like actually today or else Walmart and like, send suggestions.

Yeah, Walmart. Walmart sounds great. Walmart sounds like the best option. Modern gents might be a good one. I just don't know what their delivery time frame looks like. In fact, I wear like modern gents engagement rings because I lost mine while gardening. Okay. We got a metal detector and everything. Never found it. Okay, I don't want to talk about it. But modern gents, I like. I like their stuff. Okay. And it's all I can dress with, apparently. Do I know if they can deliver a ring in two weeks? No. Do I know if Walmart has enough of a supply to have the right ring size for you within the two weeks that you need? Also no.

Hey, number two, I don't have anything for table decor. No plates, no cups, no napkins, no utensils, no linens.

That. Fine. Okay, it's fine. Amazon, Costco. If they've got those plastic plates in hand, they usually have them around graduation time and around the holidays. Dollar tree. You can get glass plates for a dollar and then just like wash them and try and resell them afterwards. It's feasible. Okay, it's feasible. It's not great also, depending on your guest count. Okay, but if you're going all disposable, we've got options. Okay? It's fine. Tablecloths are fine. Okay, you can order those on the cheep. Cheap. Again, Amazon. Don't let the ankle show of those tables, ladies. We can't. We can't have scandalous tables out there. Pet peeve. Make sure that they go to the floor. So this could be 10 minutes of adding to cart. Okay. It's fine. I hate these videos.

Number two, I don't know how I'm getting to the venue. I'm not driving. I don't. Like, all of my girls are gonna be partying with me, so, like, they're not driving. I got a quote, but I didn't act on it.

So many of these brides are like, I mean, I got numbers, but, like, I forgot to follow up or I didn't go to quote, or, like, I'm just waiting on them to send me a contract or, you know, like, we're just like, big fat question mark. And then they get themselves into this point, right? You at this point, Uber, baby. Like, Uber is gonna be your best friends. Or call someone with an suv. Or my husband drives a truck and I drive an Excursion, which is the largest SUV you can own. We are called for things. We're aware that when we purchase these vehicles, he's the truck guy, and I'm the gal with a lot of seats. Okay? So we're aware that we are automatically assigned that role on a lot of occasions. Is there a bridesmaid that may have a minivan? It may not be the chicest ride, but it gets the job done. Okay. Or you're ordering an Uber xl. But at this point, trying to figure out all of that on top of the other things you've listed makes me a little bit more concerned for you. But, you know, I don't need to have, like, a transportation vendor booked. I don't need that. I just need you to, like, show up at your wedding.

Number two, I don't know how I'm getting from the venue either. And to add on to that, I don't know where I'm staying that night. I don't have a hotel.

That big deal. It's fine. Unless you have a very specific vision, then you got to let that go.

Number three, don't know. First dance song. Don't know cake cutting song. Don't know what song I'm walking down the aisle to.

I feel like her number system is a little skewed as a note because I feel like we're on, like, number eight, and she just said three. But what do I know? Again, I think we covered this in the previous video. Picking out songs can feel really stressful or overwhelming for people. So, like, your DJ should be asking you these things. If you don't have a dj, I have a free music guide that one of my favorite DJs put together. I'll go Ahead and link it up here for you if you want to check it out. He tells you all the songs that you need to fill in or that you should kind of have an idea for it. And they also has playlist for you that you can use. Should you not have a DJ for your wedding, like professional DJ playlists for you to use at your wedding instead, having these songs selected the last minute is super common. I'm less stressed out about this. Unless you're staying up at night being like, I have to come up with the perfect cake cutting song and at that point, freaking Google it, babes. Because I don't need you losing sleep on whether it should be Maroon 5 or the Archies playing their version of Sugar while you slice a cake with your honey bun for the very first time. I'm not, I. I'm not losing sleep over that. So I don't want you to do it. So worst case scenario, give it a go, close your eyes and pick a song.

My vendors don't. They can't contact each other. They don't have any contact information for each other. So I need to like, send that to them.

Yeah, I mean, in an ideal situation, they would have a way to, like, know who's who. That's like, that's. We include that in the master plan. There's a whole vendor spreadsheet where, like, I tell you all the things that you need to add onto that and then you could just send it to everybody. Just send it out to everybody. So if you join the master plan, which you totally should, at 29amonth with multiple different modules teaching you how to plan your wedding from point A to wedding day and live calls with me, it is the most affordable professional wedding planning service out there. And so if you want to make sure that you're not missing anything, you should. You should probably come join me over. I'll go ahead and link right there.

Invitation to the rehearsal. That's actually in less than two weeks. That's in 13 days.

Nope.

12 we did on Thursday. No invites have been sent out for that.

Send a text message, you're fine. This is where a little bit of the TikTok culture gets in and makes a little bit more out of control. I'm not worried about it. Okay. Unless you're having like a super posh event, which, no offense, but based on the fact that there's no plates, napkins, utensils, or glassware or tablecloths, probably not the poshest. So I don't think that everyone's going to Be expecting a paper invitation for a rehearsal dinner. Just educated. Yes.

Number three, you probably can't tell right now because my hair's in braids, but, like, they're really thin. I have really thin hair. So I'm gonna get like a hair extension. Just like a tape end. Something quick and easy for my hairdresser to put in. I don't know. I don't have that.

Also, I just noticed that her caption says, you can tell my mental state by the fact that I said number two for about six things on the list. Cake. I'm that I now feel bad for pointing that out because I'm so sorry that she's. Okay this point. Call your hairstylist and say what recommendations you have. Take out the guesswork and the mental load of trying to figure out what tape and extensions you should be ordering and have your hair stylist try to narrow that down for you or at the very least tell you what you should be searching for. You might spend a little bit more cost wise if they, like pick it out for you. But honestly, at this point, it might be worth it when you have so many other things to work on in the next 13 days.

Next one. My fiance, he does not have a shirt to get married in. He does not have shoes, no accessories, just a suit. So I guess we're going naked.

Every single one of these that I've watched, at least to my recollection, like, there's no suit or a. Portions of the suit are missing. But at least if you're just going for a white button up, like, that's okay. It's okay. Dress shoes are dress shoes. Again, low expectations, Lower stress. Lower. Not none, just. Just less. So I guess you're getting married. Let me at least make him put the jacket on, for goodness sake. Also, when she said my fiance, I was like, oh, gosh, does she not have one? Is this just like an entire parody video and I just wasted all of my time on this? Nope, she's got one of those. Just gonna be a naked one.

Next one. We have not applied for a marriage license.

That takes. That takes time. That takes. That takes some time. That, that, that one, that one concerns me because that sometimes takes time. You can't just like go in and get it then have it delivered to you. Sometimes it depends on your county clerk, recorder's office or whatever they're called to, to tell you the time frame. So, like, you could still have a wedding, but you might not be legally married. You know, semantics at this point, you got this much Going on. If the groom's naked, does it matter if it's official or not?

Next one shot list. Haven't sent that to my photographer at this point.

I don't want you stressing out about creating a shot list from scratch. I want you going to your photographer and saying, hey, do you have a recommendation? Or like a. A typical list that you go off of? And then I could just pick from there. Right? We don't need to be creating anything from scratch at this point. Nothing. Not a zip. Settle. We need a little bit more help from these professionals that you've hired or from things that we can find online and then pick and choose what we want to add to that or not that. That's what I want for you. We're not inventing this from scratch because you're probably going to forget something. So this is where you go to the photographer. This is why you pay them so much money, because they've done this before. So this one detail will be just like a little bit easier.

Am I horrible? Maybe I don't have reception shoes, but one of my friends is being really great and she said, send the shoes to me, baby. I'll do it. Thank you. I'm not wearing heels the whole night. Peace and love. Next one. I have an idea for, like a favorite thing which requires me thrifting. Like, funky glasses. I have less than half of what I need.

That ship sailed. You're done. You're done. You had to experiment on that. You. Whatever funky favor thing you wanted to do with thrifted glasses, you don't have time. Okay? You don't have hair. Your room is naked. You don't have a wedding license. You don't have time to thrift. I'm so sorry. Like, she's so cute. This is where you. You add more to cart on Amazon. Okay. Because I get that you want this organic experience. And your girl loves thrift. Literally thrifted. Okay. There is very rare. Also merch. There is very rarely an outfit that I put together that doesn't have something second hand. I love it. I'm obsessed with it. If I don't go thrifting once a month, I go through withdrawals. Am I admitting an addiction online? Possibly. But I also know that there's only so much that you can do when it comes to thrifting for your wedding. You have to go regularly and consistently over an extended period of time. If you don't have that, you have to add to cart. Okay? So this the ship for this. Bye. Bye. This is where we take that vision and we switch it up a little bit. Okay. Just a little bit. And then, and then go from there.

I don't have event insurance. And the last one, I applied for my ABC license yesterday.

But. Okay, here's the beautiful part about event insurance is you don't have to do it until right before the wedding. You don't have to have it ready two weeks in advance. This is one of the reasons I love Brightcoat is you could have a quote in literally minutes put together, like super, super fast. In fact, if you open up a second window, by the time I'm done blabbering through the video, you might have a quote in hand. So there.

The last one. I applied for my ABC license yesterday, but don't have it yet. Yeah, so help me.

I just wanna hold her. I like to think I'm so chill as a planner. I do. I'm like, I'm so. I'm such a. Like, if there was like a. If there was like a, A pick me girl version of a planner, that's, that's. Listen, your budget doesn't scare me. Your time frame doesn't scare me. But then I watch stuff like this and I'm like, But the core of why I have such an emotional, visceral reaction to this is because of what these brides are going through. And I don't, I don't love that. Don't love that for them because it's supposed to be a super happy and really intentional time in their lives and they're not having fun. So literally, videos like this, as silly as these reactions are, this is why I do what I do. This is why I create stuff like the ultimate wedding planning checklist that you can literally just go download. It's free, it's there for you. It's supposed to prevent you from getting into this position. That's why I have the master plan where you can come join me. Literally the most inexpensive professional planning assistance you can find anywhere. But if you don't want to spend any additional money, I have plenty of free resources here to help you out. So be sure to jump on down there, hit subscribe, okay? Because I'm here to help you plan easy and stress less. But of course, if you want to see me crash out again, do another version of these. Like, just let me know. Just let me know. Because I love doing this so much. So that's what I have for today's video. Guys, thank you so much for watching. If you haven't done so already, jump on down there. Hit the like button if you like the video and subscribe to this channel for more tips and tricks for the modern day. Not stressed out. Plan things in the perfect amount of time, Bride. And until next week. Bye guys. If you are struggling with wedding planning and you have questions and you just need someone to listen and to chat with, come join us in the master plan community over@themasterplanwed.com I would love to have you in there. Thanks so much for listening. If you haven't done so already, subscribe. Jump on over to wherever you're listening to this podcast and leave a five star review so we can let the podcast people know that Jamie knows what she's talking about sometimes. And until next time, bye guys.