What Am I Forgetting To Do for My Wedding Day? | Wedding Q&A

Well, hello, lovely humans, and welcome to Engage, a wedding planning podcast for the modern-day couple. I'm your host, Jamie Wolfer, and I truly believe that wedding planning does not need to be complicated or time-consuming. I kind of picture these episodes like jumping on a quick phone call with your wedding planner. You get your answers and you go on your merry way, because sometimes not all of us have an hour to dedicate to listening to super long podcasts or super long intros. So without further ado, let's just jump right on into it. Today's episode is going to admittedly be a little bit all over the place. You see, every single month I sit down with all of the I was going to say constituents. They're not constituents. The people over in the Master Plan course and answer your questions in live time. So if you find yourself struggling and really need to sit down and speak with a real life wedding planner, I would love to be a part of your wedding planning journey. Join us over in the Master Plan today to get your questions answered. Until then, take a listen. My venue only allows pre-mixed spirits on top of wine and beer. Is there a classy way to accomplish this? We're in a formal ballroom and I'm worried the guests will think it looks tacky comparatively speaking. I thought champagne tower would look so cool with a 1920s black tie aesthetic we're going for, but is it actually a silly idea? It's a granite countertop, so I'm not too worried about cleanup. I just don't want to be over the top. Okay, champagne towers are kind of over the top inherently, but that's the beauty of them. And I think it really does fit with the theme of what you're talking here, that 1920s black tie aesthetic. Yes, ma'am. Sarah, absolutely go for it. I think that that would be phenomenal. The only thing you'll need to do is you need to double-check with the caterer because it can get messy. So even though it's on a granite countertop, champagne is so sticky. It's so sticky. So you're going to want to make sure that they're okay with it. They might have already offered it or mentioned it. Just want to call that to attention. As far as having pre-mixed situations, a lot of times the go-to would be like a drink dispenser. Which is not 1920s black tie aesthetic, admittedly. However, when people are getting free alcohol, they tend to care a lot less about the vessel. Uh, as long as it's not served in a plastic cup, or God forbid a red cup, a red Solo cup, then they tend to be pretty much okay with just about anything that you're going to offer them. So the dispensers are the best way of doing that. If you want to see if they would be willing to do this, see if they could have them in pitchers So it looks nicer for the aesthetic of pouring, and maybe there could be a drink dispenser somewhere, somewhere else. It does add an extra step. It could make your line a little bit longer for your bar, or they might need to bring on additional barback to pull that off. So it's one of those, like, is it really worth the added cost? Is it really worth the added time that your guests might have to wait for that little extra bit of aesthetic? Or should you just go for the drink dispensers? Or can you ask them to be stored lower, right? So they're not just like right on eye level with everything else, but just something that's like off to the side so it's not super prominent. That would be where I'd go with that. Sitting here listening to a podcast is all fine and dandy, right? But sometimes you need an actual person to be asking some of these questions to. And you may be sitting there going, you know what, Jamie, actually, yeah, that, that makes a lot of sense. I would love to be able to ask you these questions. Guess what? You need to join the Master Plan. You've heard me talk about it, but do you know why I love it so much? 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We are having a sort of destination wedding with only about 50 people in attendance. We live in Southeast Georgia and the wedding is in Western North Carolina, not— no, Brandy, thank you for clarifying. Uh, if you know, you know. I say sort of destination because most of our guests would be traveling if we had the wedding where we live too. Anywho, the question is, who should we invite to slash feed at the rehearsal dinner? Some places say everyone if it's a destination wedding, and since it's a small guest list, it wouldn't be awful, but I kind of would like the rehearsal dinner to be more intimate. So whoever you want, literally whoever you want. I think that, um, I would keep it to wedding party and then family members who will be processing and recessing at your event. That's, that's personally, if especially if you want it to be more intimate, because with a 50-person wedding, your wedding's already going to feel intimate. So you don't need to go out of your way to create more pockets or more events to hang out with those people. Keep it small, keep it sweet. If you feel obligated to do something, go to a bar afterwards. Um, a place where everyone can host a, what we call an open house where people can come purchase their own drinks. And then just mingle with you guys for an hour or two after your dinner. So that way you kind of can like fill in the, hey, we hung out with everybody, but we still had our intimate rehearsal dinner. Hopefully that helps. What are some last-minute forgettable details that I should not forget? Jocelyn asks. I think we actually have a list of the 25 most commonly forgotten things. There, she's already on it. I didn't even get the sentence out, she's already pasting it. Of course. Thanks, Rebecca. So these are the most common items that I see like forgotten. This is why I want you to get it now, and you can run through it. You can use it as a checklist, like a couple days before your wedding or the night before your wedding, you know, whatever works best for you. Um, and so I'm gonna go ahead and open it actually and give it a quick little— of course the internet's taking its sweet time. Okay, um, I'm gonna read through them for those of you who are not downloading it, which is totally fine. A little emergency kit. Eyelash glue. Eyelash glue is water soluble. So if you don't have eyelash glue to reapply your lashes, they're gonna be flapping in the wind at the end of your ceremony. It's also a really, really good hack to use eyelash glue to hold your necklace in place. You can put a little dot on the back of your neck and it will hold your necklace and keep it from spinning around and having the back of it show, if that's what you're doing. Um, bustle video. If you have a dress that has a bustle, have someone take a video of it. You think you're gonna remember? You think you're gonna ask me how many times this happens? Uh, food. Make sure you're feeding yourself early in the day. Water. Flats. Cash and ID. Marriage license. Invitation suite. If you want the picture of the invitation with all the different— the flat lay, you're gonna wanna have that on hand. Overnight bag. Guess who forgot their overnight bag? So I put on the list just to make myself feel better in case someone else does the same exact thing that I did. Uh, vendor tips if you're choosing to tip out. Ice. We've seen this forgotten at multiple events. Just somehow it just blanks because there isn't a bartender that's handling all of it, um, and so ice just slips through the cracks. Transportation to and from the ceremony, especially if you're going to different locations. The amount of times I've heard bridesmaids go, okay, so how are we getting there? Also, who hasn't had any champagne and could drive us, right? I mean, they're having a great time, we love that for them, but if, you know, Lyft or Uber is going to be your choice of mode of transportation, just have that as your plan. Who's ordering them? How many do you need to order for the amount of people that you have? Reserve seating signs, photo wrangler— so that's someone who knows the people on your family photo list to help kind of, you know, tap them in for when it's their turn. Um, vendor overtime, vendor meals, music selection, gift wrangler— who's getting your gifts and cards and putting them in a safe location? These tiny things get forgotten quite frequently: cake topper, server, knife, toasting glasses. Pens for your guest book, list of personal or DIY items for whoever is doing your setup or teardown, point person, ideally a coordinator, if not someone outside of you that can answer questions just in case, and then someone to tear down, like a teardown crew. Ask me why that's there. Yeah, that one, that one can be quite a bit. And I know that list might feel really overwhelming, but some of you might go, oh, that's fine. Oh, I got that. Oh, I got that. Cool. If you can, print it up just so you can check it off solely for the endorphin boost. Just that's it. If you are struggling with wedding planning and you have questions and you just need someone to listen and to chat with, come join us in the Master Plan community over at themasterplanwed.com. I would love to have you in there. Thanks so much for listening. If you haven't done so already, subscribe, jump on over to wherever you're listening to this podcast and leave a 5-star review so we can let the podcast people know that Jamie knows what she's talking about sometimes. And until next time, bye. Bye guys!