Why You Absolutely SHOULD Assign Seats at Your Wedding Reception | Wedding Q&A

Well, hello lovely humans, and welcome to Engage, a wedding planning podcast for the modern day couple. I'm your host, Jamie Wolfer, and I truly believe that wedding planning does not need to be complicated or time consuming. I kind of picture these episodes like jumping on a quick phone call with your wedding planner. You get your answers and you go on your merry way. Because sometimes not all of us have an hour to dedicate to listening to super long podcasts or super long intros. So without further ado, let's just jump right on into it. Today's episode is going to admittedly be a little bit all over the place. You see, every single month, I sit down with the people over in the master plan course and answer your questions in lifetime. So if you find yourself struggling and really need to sit down and speak with a real life wedding planner, I would love to be a part of your wedding planning journey. Join us over in the master plan today to get your questions answered. Until then, take a listen. All right, Linda, how do you tackle a seating chart when there are 31 tables? My venue provides 48 inch rounds that seat six, and our guest count is 180. I'm worried the seating chart will look too daunting with so many tables. Is it okay to not assign guests to tables? I would say in this scenario, Linda, you probably actually really need to do that. And I'm so sorry. Here's how. What I would suggest, don't organize the names by table numbers. Organize them by names alphabetically. So that way you have a whole section for A's, B's, C's, et cetera. Obviously, you guys know how the Alphabet works. But then we're not going through 31 tables. We're just going through the Alphabet, which I would argue is actually an easier way to communicate where people are seated because they don't have to search through all the tables. And even if you add 10 tables, this is a lot faster. Even if you add 15 tables, this is a lot faster. So this is a method that I recommend kind of across the board, unless you have a smaller table count. And I do love the individual table numbers, they look really cool. But in a scenario like this, with this guest count, with this many tables, and with the tables being that small, the likelihood of you getting the perfect setup of persons at each table to make the best math work out here, you'd need it 10 to 20% extra of just extra tables. So, I mean, we're looking at another three, six tables. Just because people won't seat themselves in even enough ways. So I know it's really stressful to plan out where people are going to be seated, who they're going to be next to, are they going to be having a good time. A lot of people get really hung up on this, but it is so much better to have one night of stress of you and your fiance figuring this out than everyone on your wedding night being stressed out because they don't know where to sit. In my opinion, sitting here listening to a podcast is all fine and dandy, right? But sometimes you need an actual person to be asking some of these questions to, and you may be sitting there going, you know what, Jamie? Actually, yeah, that. That makes a lot of sense. I would love to be able to ask you these questions. Guess what? You need to join the master plan. You've heard me talk about it, but do you know why I love it so much? You get over 10 lessons that walk you through planning your wedding with videos and spreadsheets and other detailed resources along the way. Join me and my virtual clients over in the master plan and get all your wedding planning questions answered. Literally thousands of couples have gone on this journey with me and I'd love for you to be next. Check it out@wolferenco.com tmp that's wolferandco.com tmp Listen, wedding budgets suck. They're just like the actual worst. And the hardest part for me is that weddings are not cookie cutter. They're not one size fits all. And I think it's important to make sure that you're budgeting according to your priorities. Build a budget that works with your vision and you'll be on the path to planning a wedding that you really want. So if you want my recommendations for making your perfect budget for you and your partner, head on over to wedding priorities.com okay, we are getting married in December and we've already sent out the invites. Shortly after we found out one of the couples we invited are going through a pretty messy divorce. Oh. We have known them both for about five years and consider both of them are good friends. They both told us that when we. They both told us when we got engaged that they intended on coming. We have no doubt that they would have. Again, they are our good friends. Have you ever encountered this? How should we address it? We haven't asked them about coming or what their plans are and we don't want to pressure them or make it seem like we are favoring one over the other. Help. Okay, first of all, Katie and Tony, I just wish that I could hug you because that sucks. Yeah. Because you're so torn. What are you supposed to do? I. You can either not say anything and just, like, see who shows. If you like living on the edge, just be like, ah, we could have drama. We might not. We'll find out. Hey, it's like Russian roulette of who's gonna show up. Or you can talk to each one of them. Hey, invite still stands. Not sure where you're at. Not sure if your ex is coming. I don't know how to handle this. I just want you to know, from me to you. I love you. I would love to have you present. And we'll do our best to accommodate any sort of seating should we need to. So just want to check in with you. How are you doing? How's your heart? How's the situation feeling? And do you feel like that's something you'd even want to go to? Because sometimes, even after a messy divorce, people don't want to go to weddings because it hurts and it's hard to be around. Especially, oh, look, they're so in love and my life is falling apart. So if it were me, I would call the friend. I would probably, you know, obviously, were a husband and wife. I would probably call the wife and he'd probably call the husband to do a check in. Or we both would. We'd both be present on the phone or on FaceTime or whatever. But I think it's really hard to kind of get around this without saying something. To ensure I don't lose access to vital medical care, prescription specialists and ssi, we are doing a commitment ceremony that functions as a wedding. We want to ask people to refrain from posting pics on our day on social media to protect my small income and life saving medical care as I'm disabled. Any thoughts on verbiage for the FAQ part of the wedding website and during the opening remarks of the ceremony itself, Maria, would most people attending be aware of your medical situation? And you're like, because, yeah, I can understand, like, losing those benefits. I mean, we call them benefits, but they're kind of essential. That would be really hard. So I totally get where you're coming from. So if most people are aware, I would argue that it would be pretty easy to be like, hey, just as a reminder, this is a commitment ceremony. Also, we ask that you refrain from taking from posting any pictures of this day. You could be that clear. You could say exactly what you said here. Hey, just so you know, this is a commitment ceremony. This is not a wedding. We also need to Be very cautious about this because of X, Y and Z. If you're like, nope, I can't say all that. I don't want to say all that. Then I would please refrain from posting any photos of our wedding day Due to privacy reasons, we request that you refrain from posting any photos of our wedding day, of our commitment ceremony. I would, I would actually do your best to not include the word wedding anywhere. Just use commitment ceremony as often as possible. I hope that helps. And then at the beginning of the ceremony, I would have the officiant come out first and say, hey, everybody, As a reminder, we are requesting that you refrain from posting any photos or videos of today for privacy reasons. Thank you so much. And then hopefully, especially if you also implement like the phone train. I'm almost the queen of this big mom. Can you let people know this? And she'd get on that phone, start calling people and she that that person would start calling other people and just be like a web of just like phone calls. This was back landlines, baby. You know what I'm talking about. With the cord attached to the wall, she could have information get out so quick. To my family if we needed people to RCP for our wedding. I actually called her and I was like, can you just go do the thing? Like the spider web of communication. We had a lot of RSVPs that day. It was great. If you are struggling with wedding planning and you have questions and you just need someone to listen and to chat with, come join us in the master plan community over@themasterplanwed.com I would love to have you in there. Thanks so much for listening. If you haven't done so already, have subscribe, jump on over to wherever you're listening to this podcast and leave a five star review so we can let the podcast people know that Jamie knows what she's talking about sometimes. And until next time, bye, guys.