Get Rid of Tantrums and Crying | www.agentsofspeech.com/micro

Hello, we're live. They will be talking about what happens when your child cries a lot. Okay. And why we don't talk about this is basically, there's a lot of parents who have gone through our micro course and they've been saying, hey, Ming, I've tried some of your stuff, right? Most of them are great. It's just that one of the. One of the tasks I teach parents to do is something about opening open palm gestures. So on. If you don't know what it is, that's okay, but it still applies to you because why children cry and scream, there's literally only a few reasons. And especially if you're giving your child something, if you're withholding something that your child wants and he starts crying, there's really a few things that you should do in a fast manner. Okay, so the question exactly, let me read it right now. It's, hey, Meng, I've been trying the open palm gesture, but, you know, the child is crying a lot and he's not able to. He's not able to wait until the thing comes into contact with his hand. So he's crying, crying, wanting to have it. So first of all, you have to remember the function of crying and screaming and shouting and hand pulling and whatever or screaming is to get the item, right? So if you give the item, if you give the item when the child is screaming, what are you teaching? You're teaching the kid that screaming and shouting works. All right? So you don't want that, but the other side of it is that you don't want to wait so long that it becomes a full tantrum. So what should you do? So in the micro course, if you haven't, you can join it at agents of speech.com micro. Basically, when your child wants something, you have to instantly give them something. Okay, Instantly give. And how you do it without compromising your whole, you know, what you're doing is that you take his hand and then flip it right away and give it to him. Okay? Last week I was talking to a parent who sent me some videos, which is great. And she was doing the said task and she was asking, hey, see, look, I've been doing it, it's not working. And I see her keep on asking the child to say something. Okay? Never push, never pressure your child, never pressure them into talking. When you repeat and repeat and repeat it over and over again, it's not gonna work. Okay? So one of the great things about joining a marker course is that there's another Facebook group, and basically people there are Asking a load more harder questions, basically. Okay. And based. And the thing about it is I want to read a part of it to you right now. I think I will be able to share my screen. Probably. Give me a minute. Okay, let me see. All right, here we go. I see it. Let me share my screen. Right. So you would be seeing my. Like over here. Let's see if you can see it. So Tanya here. Oopsies. I'm gonna share what she said here. So the problem here is that a parent was asking, hey, man, don't know any words and pull our hand to get something what he wants. So typical. Like typical everyday life, right. For everyone, for myself and for you. Right. And then Tanya says, okay, if you follow what I say and do the exercise in the course, opening a transparent snack box with open palm gesture while staying open. And then in the course I keep on saying, don't pressure, don't pressure. So she said, but I never pressured him. If he doesn't answer, I'll give him the treat. Still then with consistency, he started to say open. Right now he brings things to us and has to open all the time. All this in two months. Please give your boys a lot of love, praises and patience. I hope this helps out someone out. All right. Definitely help me out. Because basically, if you do this and follow through with the advice, in two months, basically your child is going to have a lot more. A lot more. A better understanding of how communication works. Right? So if anytime you have any questions, you can put it down here. Today is going to be a shorter live. And basically that's because it's Christmas and New Year's time and everyone is just wants to like lay back and just have a good time. Right? So I'm not going to keep you all here for a very long time. I'm not also trying not to make this as long as I usually do. Right. So just tell me if you have any questions. Hi. I don't know who you are. I need to look at the group anyways. Hello. Ask me anything right now. Have anything to ask. That's cool. I'm gonna keep on going. Okay. So tantrums and crying. If you've been watching me for some time, you know the number one is always having something. You know they want something from you. Right? That's why they're communicating. So when you help them finish something and don't pressurize them to talk and instantly help them with a gesture or a tap or anything, then it becomes easy. Like over time, maybe 10 or 20 times they start to understand, okay, so the easiest way is just to let you do it, right? Always the highest point of any service of a business or like in a relationship or whatever. It's always DIY like, sorry, done for you. Right? Done for you. If you do it for a child, there's no resistance because they. All they need to do is sit back. They only scream and shout because they think that's not working. Okay? Think about screaming and shouting as a way to complain. So if all, everything that you've been doing is correct, right, there's no point. There's no point in complaining, right? So if you think about it in that way, then all you need to do then is to provide how do it for them, finish it, right? So once you go past the done for you, right? You keep on doing the gestures, whatever for them, and you pair it with speech. Later on they're like, oh, so there is a better way. Because remember when your child is screaming and shouting and going like, ah, like that, they're not listening at all. There's no point in teaching if they're like screaming and shouting. That's why in the micro course we always say, like, behavior is number one, make sure that your child is behaving. Make sure that, you know, they're not like running away. They're not, you know, being busy, being angry, or else they won't be learning anything. Right? So remember behavior number one. Okay, so how about times that are not about screaming and shouting. Sorry, not. Not about them wanting something, but they are still screaming and shouting. Okay, so other than wanting something, there's also like, escaping, right? So if right now, you know, if there's anything that he doesn't want to do. All right, if you're pulling on his hand hard and he goes ah, like that, he's actually escaping from your, from your touch. Okay? And that's something that you have to be careful about because then you are becoming a negative stimulus to say this. Say it nicely. They become like, annoyed by you. That's why when you touch them, they kind of, they don't want to be touched and they like, just scream and run away. That's escaping. Okay, so how do you deal with that? And a lot of like, moms have been telling me that whenever they try to teach their child and play together, the child runs away. And that's because, you know, number one, you're disturbing them. Okay. Number two is that you might be. Have become a negative, A negative stimulus already, which I have been there as well. I remember one time a Child who was on the spectrum, you know, he came over, he came into the clinic room and then the first thing he said was bye bye bye bye bye bye as in like getting rid of me. Right? He's saying bye to get rid of me and he says bye to all the things he doesn't want. Okay. So I'm sure a lot of parents can relate here. A lot of kids actually say bye bye as a way to reject. So after the bye bye, if it doesn't like, if you don't get rid of yourself or the thing that is causing the disturbance or annoyance, he's going to start screaming, he's going to start crying until you remove it. Okay? So this is when it's about escaping or rejecting something. You have to, how to say this nicely, you have to get the timing correct. Okay. You need to know when he doesn't want it. Okay. The moment that he doesn't want it, you have to teach him or her a better way to tell. Okay. So it's okay to remove yourself. It's okay to remove something as long as they talk or as long as they do a gesture or as long as they, you know, stay calm. Right. So if that's the case. If that's the case, then you can teach a. No. Or like leave or like bye bye is not really that great. Or you can teach him. I don't want and teach him like across like that. I've got a non verbal kid who does this a lot, you know, like to cross you away and so you can do that. But then the problem is that what if they always say bye bye, what if they always cross you and stuff. So, so this is when you need to do a lot of work behind. Okay. You know, improve your relationship with your kid, which we do talk a lot in the micro course and also the full course. Okay. So for you guys who don't know yet, there's a micro course which is like eight videos, is short and snappy, very to the point. And then at the back of it there's a full course that you can upgrade later and it talks more about, you know, managing behavior. Okay. And then also teaching how to a lot more lessons about teaching language. Okay. We don't talk about speech, unfortunately. I think at this moment in time we, I myself personally have no plans to touch upon speech. Okay. There you can actually you can ask me about speech obviously in the, in the Facebook group because it's highly individualized, it's highly personalized and sometimes I just don't know how to Tell a parent what to do without knowing more. Right. So right now there's two courses, the micro course and the full course if you're in it. Great. Say hi in the group and the agents of speech group. And you know, tell me about, tell me more about what's going on at home. Okay. And then so I was talking about improving your relationship with the kid. So what does that mean? What it means is all the kids who listen to me do so because we have a good working relationship together. Right. And the reason why your child doesn't listen to you is because they're not used to it and they think that they can run away, they can scream and shout, they can get their way. Okay? With me, there's no, there's no particular. There's not much bargaining. Right. They know they can't control me and they know even if they say bye bye, nothing's going to happen. But the key component is that I never push them, force them or you know, make them to talk. I never do that. What I do though, and this is where you need to change a little bit, is to be generous. Okay. We always talk about being generous. What does that mean? What does it mean with like crying and whatever? You have to remember crying tantrums are all forms of protesting. Right. And you know, obviously they have different functions and we talked about this in a different video. Right. And I'm sure that if you, if your child is going to an ABA Applied Behavioral Analytics Therapy, the therapist will talk a lot about, you know, the function of the behavior, whatever. But remember, whenever they're doing that, it means they're in discomfort. Right. It means they want something or they don't want something. There is a reason behind it. And the reason most, mostly why they're protesting is that they don't like the way you're talking to them. Right. Or they don't like the way you're presenting something to them. Yeah. So if you think about it in that way, we're the people to change. Because most of, most of the time, if they change, they would have changed already. Right. If they, if your child changes, can change, they would be talking already because talking is way easier than throwing a tantrum. Like, call me crazy, but to me, throwing a tantrum like for myself as a grown man is pretty hard. I mean, you know, I have to get into the mood. I need to be so triggered that explode. And I don't care about what others think, you know, and you know, it's, it's bad on the voice. Like my vocal Cords. It's not very pretty. You know, it's tiring. So why does your child do that? Like, if you think about it, they're going all out. They're going out of the way to do it. Right. And they can't. That's the best way that they know. Okay. And one of the. My students who are. There are two students I want to talk about. One is on the spectrum, right. And she told me that she only got. She can speak now. Okay. She only got angry when she was young, during therapy, was because she wanted to get to. For the things to go her way. Okay. And that was the easiest way she knew anyways, because talking was hard. Okay. That I can totally understand. Okay. The other one is that he doesn't really have much of a problem with language and behavior. It's more like his speech was like, you know, he had a speech disorder, apraxia. So he would get into the tantrum when things got really hard for him. Okay. And that people weren't understanding what he meant. Both situations are that the child is in distress and isn't really liking how we are communicating. Maybe we're not understanding. We're not communicating nicely. We're not making the rules that make everyone happy. So that's why they get angry. And the same as adults. There's only a quarrel between you and your husband with your wife because someone feels like they're wronged. So your child is always feel like, oh, you're doing a bad thing to me. I feel like I should throw a tantrum at you so that I to get what I want. And that's what we call protesting on a national level as well right now. So if you think about that, it's just common sense. Therefore, if you keep on doing the same thing over and over, it's gonna either stay the same or get worse. Okay. So the parent showed me this. I can't show you the video. Obviously, it's to my discretion. But what happened was that the parent kept on pestering the child to say the word. But obviously the child wasn't ready yet. He wasn't ready yet. And if you're pushing your kid to say something because you heard him say it once, ain't gonna happen. Okay. Imagine you doing it. We were talking about this last week, right? So imagine that you were learning something. Okay. For me, back in the day, for this example, I want to talk about when I was in high school, I went to Thailand. It was about like swimming in a river. And one time I was able to do a Flip. Okay. Into the river. Just one time. Okay. I would call that fluke. I think I'm getting it, but I'm not mastered. I haven't mastered yet. But then everyone around me thought that I could do it forever every time. But that doesn't work that way. So, you know, got pissed off, you know, if they keep on, like, pushing me because I don't know how to do it. Like, it's just, it was just like ch. By chance, right? And I, I, I told the teacher, hey, man, I'm not ready yet. And then he's like, hey, you, you got it. Go do it. And I'm like, hey, this is new. River is. It's very dangerous for me, so I'm not going to do it. But, you know, that's how your child feels like he might have done or said some words before which may or may not be, like, very accurate or not accurate at all. But remember, doesn't mean that they can do it consistently. Same with all skills, especially for kids, because they haven't really gotten the required skills and the required, the motor planning or motor strength, whatever you call it. So all those things that children need in order to start talking like us, right? So if you think about that, if you think about that, then don't push it. Okay. When you see a tantrum, first of all, of course, don't give in. Obviously, don't give. Let them what they have. Well, let them have what they want. Show them a good way and stuff. And then, you know, and then give it to them asap. All right? Don't try them. Don't force. All right? So Tian, I hope it's Tian says, good morning. I do that with Zoe, keep forcing her to say something. But must admit, patience is not my strongest trait. Yeah, Tian, you have to remember, Zoe never asked you to be like, speech delayed, man. I mean, she never said, mom, it's not her fault. Basically, it's not your fault either, right? She never asked for it. You never asked for it. So when she doesn't do it, it's not like she's trying to be a bad person or a bad kid to you, right? All she's trying to do is that when you force her, she gets pissed off and it's a bad, you know, it's bad relationship between you two already. Okay, so it's not really about patience either, because what you're doing now, Tian, is that you're forcing what you want on her by forcing her to talk. Because she doesn't, she probably doesn't want to talk. She's pretty okay with not talking. That's why she's not talking. Right. And by you, us putting our standards on them, on the children, it's very easy, very easy for them to feel that they're wronged, and that's why they throw a tantrum because we keep on pushing. Okay? Sometimes we use like a. Like a. Like a ruler for normal kids on special needs or, you know, speech delayed children or language delay or, you know, ASD children. Doesn't matter. But it's not the best thing to do. Yeah. Children will, you know, develop in their own way. Right? So don't think of. It's not your fault that you're not patient. It's just that the society has. I'm not blaming the society either, okay? What I mean is that we use people. We use people's, like, ruler to put on our kids. And that's exactly what standardized test is, all right? That's exactly what it is. We put. We get, like, a bunch of typically developing children, make a test out of it. Test them to see, like, the. The results that they have, and then, you know, make a norm out of it, okay? And obviously there are people who are better, who are, like, weaker, whatever. But remember, okay, Keep them. Don't force them, okay? And don't give in. All right? And what about. What if there's, like, a sensory breakdown that creates a tantrum, like, makes them scream and shout and you can't hold them? Okay? This happens a lot with children on the spectrum, but it also happens a lot with sensitive children. Okay? So let's talk about that. In order to deal with it, you have to do a lot of, like, legwork. And what I mean by leg work is before you get there, you have to get them ready, okay? Because I also have a lot of sensory issues now that I've grown up. And now I know why. I always feel tired when I was a kid. And for me, I'm very sensitive to sound. So if things are too loud, basically what happens is, like, my brain feels like it's about to explode, okay? Which none of my friends feel like it. And now I know it's because I'm sensitive to sound. And your. Your child might be sensitive to a lot of things, so you have to do a lot of desensitization or at least help them to deal with it. So for me, sometimes I might need to use. I don't use it, but, you know, I put on, like, some earbuds to listen to music. It's too loud or you know, when there's, what's that called? When there's, when there's a, a church event, it gets too loud. I need to put on, I need to put silicon ear blocking butt blood buds. You know, like it's, it's that bad for me sometimes. All right, so Rohini has a question. She says, I have a question related to my 6 year old son. He has both receptive and expressive delay. He has been in therapy since 3, but he doesn't seem to remember the answer to how old he is. How can I help him to remember? Okay, okay, so about that, that's what we call like a daily question answering thing. And it really depends on, like it really depends on his memory. Right? And if you're telling me that he can't remember how old he is, the only thing I can say is that you just need to keep on training him in order for him to remember. A lot of people think that it's important for children to know, to answer how old are you? Right. Just in case that, you know, like they have to like, let's say that they, they, they lose, they're, you know, they're running around at the loss inside a shopping mall or something and someone asks, what's your name? Who you know, how old are you? Where are you from? You know, like, where's your mom? You know, where do you live? Okay. These type of questions can be simply alleviated, then we simply solve by adding a tag on the bag or on the belt and teaching your child to show it to strangers with the name, telephone, date of birth, address. I always think, what's the most functional thing a child could do? And obviously sometimes if your child is receptive and expressively delayed teaching like how to answer their age might not be a very functional thing to do. And you might say, hey man, hey me. You might, you know, like in Hong Kong, if you are like interview, like children have to interview for preschools, that's the number one question they would ask. What's your name? How old are you? Right. Isn't that functional? Well, I don't know Rohini, like if your child cannot, cannot remember how the, how old are you? Question, is that the number one thing that you are like most, most concerned about right now? Like that? That's my question. Okay. And I'm treating as if you're coming to me paying me money. That's what's, that's what I'm going to say, Rohini. I'm going to say, dude, maybe that's not the best thing to teach right now. Okay. If you have to teach, if you must, make him remember. You know, make sure you use all the things that you can do. Right? Write down the question on a piece of paper, like, how old are you? Right. And then change it into a sex or something. All right? And then pair it with a reward, so that's very strong. So he remembers it. Okay? So remember, like, if you must teach, use a strong reward. Use written cues. You know, use. Use. Tell him the answer right away. Do it, like, multiple times a day. I'm sure any kid will remember. Okay, but what I'm telling you, Rohini, is you have to evaluate. Is this the best use of your time with your child? Okay, so Tian says Zoe is 4 years old, not Tony, as average. Does that automatically mean I should test for autism? No, Tian, that is not automatically what it means. Okay? And I don't understand, like, I remember, like, from last week. You were on the live as well, Tian. But you can tell me more about. You can tell me more about, like, how your child is, right? And I can give you a better answer. But, no, that doesn't automatically mean that you should test for autism. Doesn't mean if a kid isn't talking, doesn't mean it's autistic. Right. Autistic kid can talk a lot. Doesn't mean anything. Okay, so, you know, you can tell me more about Zoe. Right. And I'm not sure if, Tian, you're in the micro course yet. I don't think so. But you can tell me more about what's going on. All right? And you can put it in a group or whatever or on the YouTube comments, and I'll try to get back to you. All right? So I was talking about sensory overload. Right? So sensory overload, obviously, is not something that speech therapists like myself are particularly into or should be doing, but sometimes we really. We really should do it. We should, like, think and think about. Is this because of sensory overload? Okay. Is there a particular sound, a particular thing you turn on, a particular, you know, a way that you. A smell or whatever that triggers some way of a. Some sort of, you know, bad response and hence to screaming and shouting? Okay. One particular thing I want to highlight to parents is physical touch can be something that triggers screaming and shouting. Okay. I've seen a kid in my first job as a therapist. I was very young, and I was, like, really scared as well. Not to hurt kids, but at the same time, he was running at me, and he wasn't going to bang me with his head. So I just had to stop him, right? So I held him down and he started. I was really, really scared. Okay, but why he did that, and we were analyzing was that I used a little too much force just holding on to him. And within typical sensory, like normal sensory level child. If I did that to him, it's okay, right? If it was a child who wants sensory, like physical needs, like physical, sensory needs, right? If I hold him like that, he'd be happy as well. You know, he'd be even happy. But this one was hypersensitive with like touch. So what I see a lot with, with parents, especially moms, is that when they hold on to the child's hand, they grab them, right? They grab them. Or you might do it, I don't know. Or you might know someone who does it. He holds the hand here and holds the child like that. And then they tell me, hey man, my child doesn't follow me. Or like he doesn't like to hold my hand. Doesn't like to, you know, be a normal kid and just walk with me. And then when I hold him, he just kind of like flip, flips him, flips off my hand and runs away, right? If you are having this problem and you're holding to your child on the wrist, then you're doing it wrong. Okay? How you should do it is to like, make sure that he's comfortable. If you do that, if he's hypersensitive, that's going to make him scream, okay? And so what you should do is to hold up your hand like that and then take his hand and teach him to hold your hand like that and then walk. Whenever he lets go, you stop him and you just totally just like, you stop and you stop him, like putting your hand on his, on his chest, not let him go. Okay? The only way he starts walking again is in a mall now. Not going to do a lot of that right now. But like, if you want, if he wants to walk, he wants to go forward, he wants to see something, he will take his hand and slowly put it on, onto your hand. I don't know how you do it like this. I. I don't know. But if you do that, I guarantee, nearly guarantee 98% that is going to be a lot better because I've done it a lot of times. I've taught multiple moms do it like getting rid of, like running away without hand holding and stuff. So try it. Okay. Don't let them go. If they, if they let go of your hand, just push them on the chest. Right. And then, you know, teach them to slowly put it on your hand and like that. So we eliminate any sensory problems and let them know that they are. Yeah. And don't, like, try to, like, pull them ahead with the hand like that because it's not comfortable. All right. Okay, so I'm going to answer a few more questions and that's it for today because it's. Wow, it's already 30 minutes. My God. Okay, so Daniel Danya says, my son is three and he likes to play with our ears. Like a comforting thing. He's gone better, but still he does it anyway to help. To help him stop the tripan sensory toys, but doesn't like them. Okay. So I don't know what you mean by play with your ears. Like he play with. Plays with your ear. Right. Like you and your husband. Am I correct? So I'm gonna keep on going because I know that there's a time lag in the. In the lives. So you have to stop him before he does it. I'm guessing he only can play with your ear when he's near your ear. Right. He can't possibly jump up and flick. Okay, so Daniel says flicking, flicking them. Okay, cool. I mean, not cool for you, but so that I understand. Okay, so I'm guessing that he can only flick your ear when he's near your ears. So how you prevent that is to always like pushing his hands away and preventing it, actively prevent it before he even flicks it. So you will know whenever he wants to flick your ear. Right. Because he's close to you. So I have a kid back then in my first job again, he would like to take my glasses off and bite it for no reason. I don't know why. It's not a sensory thing. I don't know what it is. Okay. I don't know what your child is about either, Daniel. I think it might be your. Your response as well. So let me. Let me talk more about this example. So the only way that he gets to my glasses as per ear, because it's on same level, is that he's sitting next to me or like he's sitting, I'm hugging him, I'm like carrying him. Or you know, I'm on the. I'm on a chair and he's like basically climbing on me. So number one, don't let him climb you. Right? Don't never let him climb you. And when he. You're holding him up, don't let him like, you know, put his hands down and squish him. Okay. Squish him a little bit. Little bit. All right? Actively preventing it. Think about how to prevent him from even touching anything. All right? And number three is don't give a response when he does it. Just simply just don't go, no, don't do that. Because if you do that, you never know if your child likes it or not. A very, very good hint is that he's, like, smiling, he's giggling, he's like, he wants to do it again when he hears you, right? Some kids are just silent. Like, they're just silently having fun with you. They just, like, flick it, and then inside they're having fun. All right? So you can see it in their eyes if they like your response. So the best way to, like, just eliminate it. Eliminate your response. Don't even give them the gratitude. Like, not. Not gratitude. Don't even give them, like, the. The pleasure of hearing your voice, right? If it flicks, you just. Just don't. Just shut up. Don't say anything. Put his hand down, and that's it. All right? And another thing you can do is to pair it with rewards, okay? And what I mean by that is, like, you set up a situation where he is. He's. He has access to flick your ear. It's tempting, but you stop him before he does it and you give him a reward. Okay, what do I mean by that? So, for instance, how I got rid of the kid, like, taking my glasses is that I played with my glasses. I tempted him. Tempted him a little bit, right? I'll talk about that later. You tempt him a little bit before he doesn't. Like, before he touches it, you stop him and you say, good boy. You didn't touch it. And then you give him like, a snack that's very robotic. That's like teaching an animal, per se, right? Or you can give him like some iPad time and you say, good boy. Here we go. Go watch it. Go eat it. I don't know, because you didn't touch my ears, right? So Tanya says, he's really touchy feely. We sit and watch a show, cuddle in bed. He does it. Yeah. So therefore, during a. During a show, you need something to hold him down, right? It might be your hands. Okay? And if he does it, you should stop everything. Like, you need to, like, switch off the TV and just whatever. If he touches your ear, you should, like, just walk out without giving any, like, sort of response. Just like, whatever and just leave. Okay? See if that works. You see, I'm throwing a lot of Solutions at you, because I want you to try them, okay? Not one solution will help. You need it. And a lot of parents always say, will your methods help me? Or like, or my child, my child is four, is not talking. Will your methods help? I don't know. I really don't know, to be honest. If you're watching this and you're thinking about whether to join our, you know, our micro course or whatever, or like, just listen to me or, you know, the answer is I don't know. So, Danya, you have to try all of these other stuff that I've said just now. All right? The last one for you right now is that during a show or on the sofa, on the bed, you can buy a weighted blanket. And a weighted blanket is just a blanket that has more weight in it. You can just buy on Amazon if you're in the USA or, you know, any type of blanket that is a little more heavy, okay? That can calm your kid down when he's on a surface, like, like, like a soft surface, like a sofa. All right? See if that helps. All right, so that's it. I'm not going to answer any questions for now, but I'm going to tell a little more housekeeping. So for the upcoming live, it's going to still be on schedule and at any time, you guys can always just comment and ask me. I see. One more question from Rohini. I'm just going to answer it anyways. Okay? So Rohini says, what are the chances of a second child of having a delay if the first one has one? I don't know the chances. There are no study about, about this. As far as I know. There is. There is a genetic thing, like, like inherent thing with like speech delayed language delay, autism as well, but there are. I don't know what the chances are, to be honest. It really depends. No one knows why there is a delay in children, all right, Especially for language. And we certainly don't know the reasons behind children. The causation of like autism. All right? So literally nobody knows. Nobody knows how to answer a question as far as I know. And if any. Anyone tells you that they know, then I would think that, you know, tell them to show you something, show you a piece of paper with a study. And one study doesn't cut it. It needs to be like 10, you know, and what are the chances? I don't know. There is a chance for everything, right? So a lot of parents have been saying, you know, like, what am I supposed to do? Is this gonna help? And especially because the micro course itself, it's like a $10 thing is like for me, it's cheap, right? Because it also saves my time so I don't need to repeat myself over and over again. And so parents always like, especially mothers and also fathers, they ask me, hey man, is this gonna work? I'm putting my hard earned cash onto this whole thing, right? So my, The door just opened by itself. That's crazy. My advice for you is that, hey, try out. You gotta try. I don't know if my methods will work, okay? I don't know. And the thing is, if I tell you about a method, it's like just now that parent, one person says it doesn't work, the other says it does, okay? And it's because how you do it and how you get good at something is that you try it, you ask for feedback and then, and then you do it over and over again until you understand how to do it and do it better, right? So try it. Try those methods out. Ask in a group, right? If you join the course. And, and obviously there's no one cookie cutter method for anyone, okay? The stuff that I talk here and in the paid courses are like, it's the stuff that's been working for parents. All right? I've been teaching parents over the Internet and I know that without my own intervention, it's going to be a lot harder. I get it. But at the same time, you have to try it. There's no other way that I know as of right now, but I'm trying my best to teach the things that that has been working, right? And this course isn't the first course that I've done right this, these courses are from like me teaching parents one on one, like in real life and on zoom afterwards. And then after that it was like a group inside a group and now it's become like video lessons. Okay, so that's it for tonight, guys. Happy, happy and merry Christmas. And I'll see you in two. Oh, let me see. I think I'll see you guys in 2021 then. 221. Have a great New Year's. Hope that 2021 will be a much happier, a much, much happier year per se, A much easy going year, especially for the moms and the work at home dads, you know, who are suffering right now without better word, right? So thank you. Thanks everyone. And I'll see you guys soon in the next year. Bye.