Ming explains three ways to get kids to follow instructions: stop repeating commands, so they don't learn to ignore you; state a consequence upfront; and physically guide them hand-over-hand to show what you mean.
To get your child to do what you want to do is very simple. Do not repeat your instructions many times. Because if you repeat so many times, let's say you say, hey, come over, come over, come over, come over like seven times. And then they do come over the seventh time, what's going to happen? They're going to know my mom or my dad. Bottom line is that seven times, so I can ignore the first six, and then at the seventh, I'll come over. In this case, children who are not speaking yet or don't speak as much as their peers, in terms of intelligence, there's probably nothing wrong. So what he's going to do if he doesn't want to do what you do, he's going to ignore you. So first tip is not to repeat your commands. What do you do if you say it once and he still doesn't do it? You say he open the door, he doesn't do it. You tell him the consequence. You say, hey, you didn't listen to me, you didn't do it. Let me try again. Open the door. You run up to the kid, take their hand from behind and teach them how to do it. Just think about how easy it is for the child to follow your command every time you say it. They have no choice but to do it because you're going to get them to do it anyways.
