Ming @ Agents of Speech explains how to calm a child after a tantrum. Ignore attention-seeking behavior to avoid reinforcing it, then use predictable routines like nursery rhymes, reading, or tickling to help them re-regulate. Acting neutral tests whether they actually need comfort or just want a reaction.
When we tell the parent to stop giving attention after the child gives a tantrum, we'll know what the child is after. When I talk to parents, they always cry, bite that the mom. They pinch the dad, and they start laughing because the reaction was funny to them. They didn't know that it was negative. You should try to act as if nothing happened, see what happens. Probably they'll bite again. Then it was attention seeking, and you should block him from doing it in the very beginning. Even if there's a tantrum, you should ignore it. And you should not give any type of reinforcement to that. You should not reward that. If it gets to frustration already, it's very difficult for you to give them out because now they're emotionally tired. The only way was to soothe them. You must have routines that you can show your child to get back into their state. Routines that helps a lot. Going back to nursery rhymes, reading a book, play routine, social routines like tickling. What works is to give the child something to drink. Because when they're drinking, they cannot talk, they cannot scream. It soothes them when they're drinking. That works a lot of times.
