Language Regression in Speech Delayed Children | www.agentsofspeech.com/micro

Oh, hey. Hello. Tonight we're going to talk about regression, okay? And regression is something that all parents are very scared of. And trust me when I say this, right, as therapists, we are very scared of regression. And the reason behind it is because, you know, all the hard work, everything that we've done has basically been reversed or something like that or so to speak, right? So the first time I've really seen a true regression, like, talk about my experience was during masters. I was in a special needs school and where, you know, there are. Don't mind me using this word, right? Intellectual disability. I know there's a lot of moms or whoever out there or like social workers, I don't know that they don't like this kind of labeling. But all in all, it's still intellectual disability, okay? Some places we still call it mentally retarded, but, you know, we try to shy away from that kind of. That kind of words, right? So the. The thing is, I was at the special needs school, right? And regression happened real hard. And I remember teaching a kid something along the lines of, you know, sentence building and whatnot. And then after a long holiday, of which it was probably Chinese New Year in Hong Kong, we celebrate it quite long for like, I don't know, a week or something. And then plus or minus, adding in the Christmas holidays and whatnot. After they came back, they pretty much forgot everything that I've taught them and basically they couldn't use it, okay? And that was one time that I saw regression as a real thing, okay? And it kept on happening. And it's not the first time, it won't be the last time. And regression is real, okay? So there are certain population of children who are very susceptible to regression. And we're talking about what I said just now, like intellectually disabled children, not necessarily children on the spectrum, you know, but those who have that kind of problem will be more susceptible to regression, okay? And regression happens for obvious reasons. For instance, during this pandemic, right? So many parents have been emailing me and whatever. Or PMing, DMing, whatever it's called on different apps and stuff, right? And they say, oh, my kid is starting to reverse, like regress because there's a lack of therapy and. Yeah, it's true. It's true. This thing is real. And the biggest reason is that basically the biggest reason is that they don't get enough. They don't get enough practice at home, right? They start, so I'm changing the color of the light. Yeah. So it gets more and more difficult for Them to sustain their language development because there's not enough practice. Right. So given that, given, given what we said here, given that the chance of you guys having this kind of regression, you know, we need to talk about it and we need to talk about how we can mediate it given this current situation with the pandemic. I know a lot of places are resuming actually with therapy, which is fine as long as we're safe and everything like that. You have to keep them coming, communication, like momentum going at home. If it stops, they might go back to using their old ways of communicating to you. Okay. And I have seen this quite a few, like with my own clients, one of my own students, because I'm not seeing anyone right now because of the pandemic. And I don't hope that they come back. I do hope they come back. I want to see them. Yeah. You know, I do miss them a lot. But the thing is, the pandemic is kind of crazy here in Indo, so I don't want to risk anything. Right. So I've been hearing that there's some form of regression going on with like maybe 60% of my, all my kids basically, and all of them of which have been reported to say less and less words and use more of like hand pulling methods, reverting back to their old and safe behavior. I guess that's what you can call it. So what you guys can do at home is to continue to work that, you know, we therapists have been doing in the clinic. Okay. And then the best way obviously is to go to the micro course, agents of speech.com micro go check it out. Very low cost course for you to learn, okay. And use those methods and stuff at home. Okay. And other than that, there are other regressions I want to talk about. And I got like three emails about like, oh, my kid regresses when they go to school. And I'm like, what do you mean? So apparently what was happening is that they can talk a certain number of words and they can like say sentences and stuff. Right? But once they like see other children, they start to like, not use words and teachers are like, oh, your child is not talking at all. Okay, so, so what do you do with that? Right? So the thing is that's not called regression. That's called the inability to like generalize their language abilities. Right. So children or humans, shall we say, our abilities, obviously in a room, in a room like this, like closed environment, only me, obviously, I'm hanging out with you guys. If I am learning how to play like a Guitar, per se. I'll play a song perfectly here. Right, right. Because there's no one here. But when I guess get on stage or there's like, a few people watching, I start to sweat, you know, I start to stumble on my fingers. That. That kind of stuff happens a lot. And we're talking about children who are not very good at talking yet. Right. So therefore, when they are, then the situation becomes more anxious. Like, there's a heightened anxiety. There's a. There's more people looking. There's more social stakes. You know, like when, you know, you remember when you were in school and you were in the play or doing a presentation or whatever, you get sweats, man. You get cold sweats. You get. You get frightened, and so do these children who need to speak and socialize in school. Okay, so really quick, I see a question. I'm just going to answer it real fast. Okay. Manisha says, is it going to affect the whole life? It depends what it is. Okay. It depends why there's a speech lay. How. How severe is the speech delay? What you're doing with the speech delay? Like, are you doing a lot of therapy, whatnot? Yeah. Just a moment. I need to open the door. Yeah. So it really depends. All right. And by the way, I know you guys are watching all over the world, so if you can. If you want to comment and tell me where you are right now, say hi from. I don't know, hi from Jakarta or something. Yeah. So, yeah, that's going back to that topic about what regression is. That's not regression. If your child doesn't speak as much in school. Okay, that's more of a generalization problem. All right, so how do you tackle that is basically, you know, if your child is going through speech therapy, ask for some group therapy. Right. Ask for some group sessions. Ask for some. If you can't, then, you know, try for some play groups and, you know, and whatever that has a group element to it, and someone is mediating the whole. The whole thing. So, yay. There's a lot more. So, Manisha. Hi. From Virginia. Nice. And also Acacia from atla, Atlanta. Oh, my God, my tongue's doing a bad job today. And Ye Bing. Is it Y. Bing or Ye. Bing? I don't know, the. From kl. Nice. Cool, guys. Thank you. And yeah, so since Lakeisha is here. Right, so Lakeisha. Yeah, that's. That's answering a question. Try to get some group therapy if you can. All right. And then let's answer some questions before that. Zahia. Oh, from Kansas Nice, Great town, I think. I've never been there. So Jeannie says it's like language delay different from language disorder. Yeah. So nowadays, people, or, you know, in particular, speech therapists, pathologists, depending where you are in the world, we are leaning more towards language disorder. Okay. And the reason why, because we want to save our own buttocks, you know, we want to save our own careers. Because saying language delay implies that there will be. That they can catch up. Right. Implies that they can. That children can catch up. And that's something that some professionals do not want to bear. Right. They don't want to bear that. So we're leaning towards disorder. Okay? So let me talk about what's a delay in a disorder? And I think I go through that in some. Somewhere before. But anyways, so a disorder means that something is out of order, right? It's out of order. It's out of the ordinary. Right. Delay means that it's going in chronological order, but it's just shifted and delayed, like time lag. All right, so what's the language delay? Is that when we see a kid and we see that, oh, everything is developing normally. Just that everything shifted behind, not catching, like, not up to speed. That's all right. But disorder means that they acquired some skills and don't have some skills. Like, for instance, they know how to run instead of knowing how to walk. But that's an extreme case of disorder. All right? And autism spectrum disorder, call it disorder is because they're all over the place. They might be really good at writing, really good at reading, really good at, like, I don't know, playing piano. And then they're really, really bad at talking. You know that that's a disorder, Right. So, hi to everyone, Priyanka and Suyin. Cool. So, yeah, that. That's probably a very good description. I guess I'm praising myself. So, regression. Going back to the topic of regression, you guys can keep the questions coming if you want to. I'm just going to keep on talking. If your child can do something in one situation, not the other, that's not called regression. That's a problem in generalization. What other times do I hear about regression? There are times when children who are two and then suddenly when they, like, they have some words, right? And then suddenly when they hit three years old, they start to, like, lose some of the words, some of the, you know, some answering questions, not losing eye contact, everything. So what that is basically sometimes. Okay, There are a few situations for this. Number one is that the language environment is not helping them to communicate as much. So a lot of this happens a lot in Asia. Because I'm in Asia. Right? So especially in. In Indonesia, I'd say actually a lot of parents will say, hey, Ming, look, my kid was talking when he was 2 and he was calling mama, whatever. Now he isn't. I'm like, okay, what happened? So basically, the kid would only talk when the mom asked. But then now, even if the mom asked, then they don't talk. So it's a language environment problem. So if you need to stop asking questions and prompting them to talk, because sometimes it's a hindrance to them, sometimes it's like actually making them feel like they have to talk and it's stressful. So what instead you should do is to, like, invite them to. Not to invite them to talk. Right. You should talk more to them and try to tell them that it's not only. We don't always push you to talk. I'm here to describe everything to you. Talk whenever you want. Right. So it might be a language environment problem. Okay. Number two is that it's, you know, like, what. From what I learned, I don't have a study or a textbook to tell you where to read, but from what I learned from other therapists who are much senior, they say that as typical in children who are going through autism spectrum disorder. Right. So apparently, Please don't quote me on this. I'm trying my best to have some solid ground in whatever I say. Right? So apparently from when I get to like, two and a half to three children on the spectrum, the brain structure or not structure, that'd be crazy. Like, the neural linkings in their brain starts to change, and therefore more symptoms pop up in terms of, like, autism related. Related symptoms. So that is one of the reasons why. Okay. But most of the time, I think really is about the speech delay is like. Or language disorder or language delay is really hitting them at that point where they don't really. They feel, they know that they cannot talk anymore. And plus, parents who push their child to talk a lot, and it creates this kind of regression from like 2 to 3. And I've seen it many, many times. That's why I get most of my cases at around two and a half or three. And across culture, parents ask the same thing. My kid was talking, now he isn't. Right. And we get these kind of cases all the time. If you ask any private speech therapist like myself, then you will get that. So let's answer some questions real quick. So Manisha says my daughter started going Kindergarten school. She's getting speech therapy. Should we get some speech therapy outside school too? Hey, it depends on how difficult the situation is for a child, okay. And how much therapy your child is being given and if it's. If the speech therapist at the school is compatible with your child. And I would say that at least once per week, right? I know some places. Hong Kong, let's say, right where I'm from. Or in the usa. We where children get services like maybe once a month or once a fortnight, which is very unacceptable. Right. It's very difficult for a child to build a relationship with a therapist. So if she's not getting enough speech therapy at school, then I think, you know, you should get more outside of school if you can afford it. Okay? I know it's not, it's not like cheap or anything and it's skilled labor. So yeah, you need to see and if you can sit into the speech therapy, that'd be awesome. See if they're compatible with each other, they're having fun, they're learning, so on and so forth. And listen to what the speech therapist says, right? Because sometimes if you get like outside speech therapists, speech therapy and inside like school, they might have different priorities and doesn't really work that way. So you really have to see. Okay? So Goshan from New Jersey. Nice. Very good. Priyanka says, want to ask if autistic children start his speaking in 36 months and developing some sort of echolalia, what will be the prognosis be like? Will be ever come first? I. I cannot answer these type of questions, Priyanka. It's impossible for me to tell you. I'm not a fortune teller. I cannot, like, even if they came for assessment, even if you came for an assessment and you told me and I saw your child starting to talk at 36 months and has echolalia. I wouldn't know because it really comes down to like, what does your child like to. To socialize with people, right? How. How reactive they are with therapy. Right? That's a huge one. That's huge for prognosis. If you teach something, do they remember it? Right? Do you teach something? Do they use it in other situations? Can they generalize it themselves? Right? These are more of like towards prognosis more than if you tell me, oh, they started talking at like two or three or like one. It doesn't matter. All right? It's about how much if I teach, how much they can learn or how much you teach. Right now it's on you guys. So how Much you can teach. And then they use it by themselves, Right. It's not about like, what time? And if anyone says there's a golden period for therapy, I don't know, there's no, there's no study about it. And from what I know, right. Either a 4 or 5 year old or 11 year old coming my way. As long as we hit the correct things to train. Right. And secondly, they respond to therapy well, then the prognosis. Prognosis will be good. Okay, and how do you define a good prognosis anyways? Like, oh, he'll be normal. No. Remember asd? Autism spectrum disorder is something that is lifelong for a child and for anyone. Right? Anyone. So you need to think about it as you know, it's a different way of operating in the world to them. Right. They don't understand a lot of things that we take for granted, but at the same time, they're more sensitive to things that we don't know about. So it's like a give or take. Right? So Jeannie, hope that an. Sorry, Priyanka, hope you answer that question. Genie. Hi. From Philippines. And Jeannie asks, does echolalia can be outgrown, right? Can. Yeah. Can you outgrow from echolalia? The answer is, I don't know. Depends on the kid. I've seen that it does. I've seen that it doesn't. I've seen it get worse, you know, I've seen it get better. It depends case by case basis. And as I said just now, like, do they. Do they understand why they cannot echo? Right. Why do they echo in the first place? Is it because of like, stimming, like, sensory needs or is it because of other things? And most of the time, children echo is because they don't understand the language situation. All right, so that's probably what I would say. Man, you would think these type of worries. I know it's very difficult. It's super difficult for me to tell you a solid answer. Well, whilst there are some that I can tell you straight on, I'll tell you. Yeah, of course. But I also need to be rather responsible. Right? So all you guys, all the questions are great. And we were talking about regression, like 2 to 3, right? And if you've been through that, you will know that there's a sudden change. And I don't know why. I don't know. I did talk about the reason just now, Right. But I'm not totally 100% sure. In fact, no one is totally 100% sure about anything in this field. And teaching children, teaching what we call individual needs now or special needs back in the day or in some countries we still go with special needs is a rather young field. Is rather young. I mean we didn't have that in 1950s or something. So it's like a 70s, 80s thing and 90s became like more booming and stuff. So slowly it will become. We will get more and more research on this kind of stuff and we will have a better answer to this, these kinds of questions. But at the same time I don't want to take your child out of context. Right. I don't want that to happen. Right. So Priyanka says yes, my daughter echoes when she doesn't understand, otherwise she can comprehend. She didn't. Thank you. Yeah, no problem. Yeah. So that's the thing. You need to understand why a child does a certain behavior. Okay. And you also need to understand, like talking about the topic today is that you need to understand why regression happens. Is it because the language environment is deteriorating in terms of it's quality? Like at home all the child does is like watch, you know, the iPad, watch TV and they don't need to talk that much or actually they don't need to listen that much. That's the thing. Because the difference between like school and at home is that in school they have more incentive to listen to people. Right. Whereas at home it's more like they're taking, they're taking you for granted, they're taking the fridge for granted. They're taking everyone for granted basically. So they don't really need to listen. Right. So. Yan. Hi. Hi. From Malaysia. Nice. So I saw your post on the group as well, Yan. So if you have any questions, feel free to drop them right here. It'll be much easier for me to go through all the questions at once in one go during the live. Right. And basically that's regression. There are even more ways that a child can have a regression. And recently one of my students who's an adult had basically, I don't want to disclose, disclose exactly what happened but basically she had a regression basically because of some sort of psychosis. Okay. I. I don't know what it is. No one know what it knows what it is like and is to do with the brain. Basically I think the symptom was a fever and it got really hot and it slowly became like a. It regressed. The speech abilities regressed a lot and even language per se. So there's loads of different reasons why your child will regress. But you need to know, understand why is it because of the environment? Is it because of, you know, their, their biological dispositions? Right. If someone is more prone to not being, not able to acquire skills effectively, then yes. Right. Is it about what you're doing at home? Right. Or is it because, you know, some sort of, some, some sort of like, psychological effect as well? Okay. And please don't mix up regression with like, generalization. And how you deal with generalization is that you systematically increase the number of people and the difficulty of the task so that they can, like, handle it without much stress. All right, so let's see. Manisha asked, does omega 3 and multivitamin help with speech? I don't know. I'm not a doctor. I'm not, I'm not medically trained. Some people say yes, some people say no. It's a mixed bag. And I actually have a client who loves, not loves, but they use a lot of biomedical or diet regulation, that kind of type of thing. But I can tell you something for real, right, from what I see that when the diet is not optimal for the kid or for anyone per se, like any human being, you can see that they're irritated more easily, irritated, harder to focus, all that bag of, like, stuff. So you need to think about who to consult about this. Obviously not me. Second of all is, from what I heard from the clients who had success from using such supplements, is that to always test, test, test, test, test. Because especially for like, even for us, right? We react to supplements differently. Okay. I might react to like a certain supplement. Okay. Someone might have an adverse reaction. Right. And especially for those children who are on the spectrum who are sensitive to more things than we are, you really have to be very careful about this stuff. Okay? You need to test with small doses. That's what I heard. Okay. So test. If you don't, if you don't know, no one knows until you try, right? So if it's not like life threatening, that type of thing, then you can try it. Okay. And then. Yeah. Oh, by the way, about this question, I did hear about the wrong diet and wrong supplement causing regression. Okay. I did hear about this. I haven't seen it with my own eyes. I've only like, hearsay. Okay. There's not much enough like no one's going to go, go do a study and stuff supplements in a child's mouth to see how it, like how regressed they are or how good it will become. Right? Because first of all, first of all, us therapists, we aren't, we do behavioral stuff. We don't do medical Stuff, So we're not. We don't want to get like, a whole bunch of scientific study about, like, using medical intervention and we lose our jobs. Right. So that's probably one of the reasons why we don't know much because no one is actively doing it other than, you know, some doctors in the USA in particular. I cannot remember any at this moment. I have to ask. You can ask in a group if you're in a group. Okay. I'm sure a lot of parents can shine some light on that. So Goshan says then the child catch up after regression, so. Yeah, of course they can. Yeah. And it depends on what kind of regression it is. Right. If it's like, actually the one that I was talking about about, like, having the psychological difficulties, that one. And we're not talking about, like, her being schizophrenic or, you know, not. Not crazy, not anything like that. I need to, like, give a huge disclaimer. Not like that. Right. She is catching up still, and we're just taking some time. All right. And it depends on how much it regressed, but catching up, I think. Yeah. Unless, you know, Unless. Unless. Okay. And this is one of the reasons for regression that I didn't talk about because it's super extreme. Some children with very complicated medical histories and so on, they do get regression after a stroke or. Or what's that called? Seizure. Okay. So those types, they might have some type of, like, permanent damage, but those are super extreme cases, rare cases. Unless that's something that you're. You want to talk about, then you can ask me about it. Right. So. So Anatha. Anantha. Sorry. Very hard, very bad with names. Anyway, so echolalia is a sign of autism. Is it or not? Well, to be honest, echolalia is not only for autism. Autistic children sometimes do do echo. Right. And there's a different types of echolalia. There's delayed echolalia. There's like instantaneous and so on. There's different types. I'm not going to go through all the types, but definitely if it's, you know, it's not exclusively assigned for autism, you know, some autistic children do it. And speech delay. Children also do it. And speech delay. We're talking about, like pure language delay, you know, which. There isn't any other complications in the child. Right. So that's something that I have to. Yeah, it's definitely. If a child echoes, I wouldn't instantly think autism. Right. Some parents, some therapists, some teachers do think that way. Right. So when Someone echoes instantly like that in public schools and, like, kindergartens where they hear a kid echoing, and then instantly they refer them to, like, me or someone. And then I'm like, dude, I don't know. You got to check if it's autism or not. Basically, I can tell, like, get the gist of whether they are or not or how much or how delayed or how severe the autism is. But echo, at least in my books, is not something that I would say. Oh, for sure. That's autism, right? I wouldn't say that. All right, so. So thank you for all the questions, guys. It's been amazing. And basically, I haven't been really talking about this upfront with everyone here, and it's that the micro course has been serving a lot of parents all over the world. We're getting more and more people inside. And the thing is, I've been getting more and more requests to do to answer questions that are outside of the microcourse. And that's great. And the reason why is that parents are learning, Parents are evolving, and parents like yourself want to know more about how to, like, help your own child. Right? So I'm thinking. I'm thinking of something. I was thinking of making a newer course, but at the same time, that wouldn't do anything, like, anyone justice, Right? So I actually have. I haven't. I don't talk about this publicly at all. Okay. The reason is I'm scared that too many parents join. Okay. And I've been doing, like, online private consultations through, like, WhatsApp and Telegram. And basically, I help the parents set the goal. I teach them what to do, and they send them videos and I review it and I tell them what to do. Right? So I only have a handful of these parents with me because I'm scared that it will go really out of hand. And I had to, like, really, like, say no to a lot of parents as well so that I can, like, focus on doing other things in my life or else. I've been watching videos every day, which, you know, my phone and this computer is stacking up with parents, like, teaching children videos of that. So what I'm thinking is that as we progress more and more, further in this, like, journey together, right. Is that I cannot just give you an online course anymore, all right? And that's because I'm leaving it all to you, and I don't give you enough, like, help along the way. And every child is different, right? So I'm going to finish talking about my own stuff, and I'll get back to your questions. Right. So I'm thinking about getting, opening up a membership that has everything from A to Z. And you can choose, do a questionnaire and it will tell you what to learn, what to watch, what to use, so on. And A to Z, what I mean is like from nonverbal, from like pre lingual, whatever you like to call it, like no words, right. All the way up to like socializing, telling stories, you know, getting rid of some bad behavior, all that inside of one place. Okay. And why I want to do this is because since a lot of parents always ask me if they can like have private coaching or whatever with me, why don't I make a big one and everyone can learn from each other privately and securely, not on Facebook. Because I know a lot of you guys are like shy and don't want to. Not just shy, right? It's just privacy. It's your own thing. It's your own like decision whether to show or not show. Right. But what I'm saying is that we can have a place where we can privately upload videos where no one can download anything from the platform, not like Facebook. And then we can. And it's really tight that only parents of speech later on the spectrum can join. Right. So the vision is like this. There's a whole membership with a whole like a lot of different content about what you need to do at home, how you need to do it step by step, everything much more that I can offer. And like the micro course or like the intro course, if you're aware of that, right? I don't even talk about that sometimes. So when we do that, all you have to do is to log in and then take a real quick survey and then see where you need to watch from. And after you watch, this is the fun part. I want to make like maybe weekly or bi weekly call like this, but on Zoom, obviously where it's private. And then you can fill in the form, tell me which part you're on, what you're trying to teach your child, what kind of goal you're trying to set, and then upload a video of you guys, right? And you tell me whether you want your face to be blurred or whatnot. Right? But I will watch that video and I will go on live on Zoom and then I will tell you my feedback and how to do it and demonstrate it live. And other parents can learn from each other and you can do it as much as you want. Because it doesn't take me a lot of time to review these videos. In fact, I'VE gotten pretty good at it. So we can do it in a whole batch, and it will be much easier for me and much easier to provide value to you because most of the time, when parents watch these online courses for me, I cannot make it too step by step because there are too many nuances inside. Right. What if you, like, by accident do this? What if you put the card like this or what? There's too many things that I'm scared of. And, you know, the weight to us learning anything too, especially for children, is how we give feedback. Right. As I was talking in the micro course. Right. So always give good feedback. Tell them, like, what they did well, what they did not so well, where to improve, how to improve, so on. And the same is for you. Okay. If you're serious about this, that, you know, you really need some help at home, then I think we can do this together. And it's not yet created. Okay. But I think that's what it's going to look like, you know, a whole community, maybe on Facebook, maybe not. But everything is private on Zoom. You can upload a form and videos, and you can watch step by step videos on. On the side. And if you need help, you can ask for help in that way, which is a lot easier than you typing and telling me and describing me what's happening. Right? Like, just give me a video of you doing it and I'll tell you what to do. Exactly. Okay. And I've been like, I've been shying away from this for a long time because I'm. I don't know if this is going to work. Not first of all. And second of all is like, no one ever does this and in our field, and no one ever goes on Facebook Live, like, me as well. Right. And talking for so long. So I am scared as well. So I'm asking if you want to be a founding member of this membership that we're called. I don't know what it's called yet, but the vision is like, what I just told you, right. If you're interested in that, you can shoot me a PM a private message and tell me about it. Okay. PM me. All right? And I'll be. And. And later on, we're gonna, like, I'm gonna. I'm gonna keep on talking about it because the reason I haven't. And I had this vision for it for a long time. Okay. I've been thinking about it. I've been thinking about how to help parents the most. And this is like, this is my top of the Line thing that I've been doing for a long time, but not in the masses because I, I've been teaching children or teaching parents through like this format, this video taking things since forever. And if you guys watch that video about tenure, the one from Indonesia who taught her child how to speak in like sentences now we're still doing it over on Telegram. It is the exact format but I just don't know how to make it into like a big thing that we can all learn from together. Okay, so pme, if you're interested to become a founding member. What? Why? This is why I'm saying this. Founding member. What's that? So this obviously is going to get really, really expensive as it goes on because you need a huge server for you to upload the videos to me. And then we need also a lot of server for Zoom as well so that we can host everyone and for everyone to watch smoothly, fast and also have a great community and the website for you to browse through. So it's going to be beta mode, meaning it's test mode. And as a founding member your price would be lowest it will ever be locked in that price. And yes, it's a membership so it's going to monthly recurring because we still need a. You know, I'm going to look at your videos every. Like you can send me as much as you want. Obviously there, there are restrictions about that and you need to be mindful about other parents as well. So you need to think about all that, all the service that is going in. Okay, but then as a founding member, your price is locked in forever. Your grandfather to all the other stuff down the line. Okay, I can promise what I just told you, the vision. But down the line I have even more stuff I want to do. But I'm not sure if that's something that will work. So PM me about it and we will talk about how to start this membership going. Okay, so let's answer some before we get ahead of ourselves and get too excited and stuff. So I see that someone is saying yes. Oh my God, that'd be so helpful. Yeah, I think so too. That's why I'm trying to throw it up. Right. So I hope Daniel Danya here says yes. Yes for the membership site, but let's, you know, just PM me and then let's see what we can do about it. If they're is enough people saying yes, I'm gonna make it for sure because I was just thinking of making the new online course for like combining words. Right. But the thing Is there are the things that I'm sharing, going through all the videos that parents showed me. Those are like, it's pretty hard to teach you in one go. I need to keep on seeing what you're doing and then tell your feedback because you keep on forgetting. Like you will forget for sure. If I tell you something, you'll forget for sure and I have to remind you some way. All right. Okay. So. Yep. Hello from Dubai. So I'm going to answer some questions to calm myself down because I'm getting too excited. So Laura says how to make kids see eye to eye when they're told to request something to parents or others. Okay. So first of all, eye to eye, like you have to like we go through this in the micro course, very detailed about like eye contact. Laura, if you see this, you're listening to this, go join it. But I'll give you some, give you some tips. First of all, get to their level, obviously, because distance is also a prompt. Right. If you're too far away, less likely to look right in the face, more probably. But don't like stuff in their face and don't ask for their attention. The best way to get their eye contact attention is always to catch them when they look naturally and then praise them and reward them. That's the best way. You cannot instruct them to look because every time you instruct, that's a prompt. So the eye contact becomes a prompt dependent too. Right. So you have to be careful about that and think about why they have to look. Have they mastered some sort of like speech that they can do already that you can up level to add an eye contact to it? Okay. But eye contact usually is not one of the goals that I would teach. And I explain this in another video. You can search like eye contact agents of speech on YouTube or something or even on Facebook. So Zahia says my son different. He doesn't follow direction at school, but he is good at home. Also when he dad come home, you start crying. What do we do? We don't, we doesn't let. We don't lessen him. Okay. So the problem here is that your child obviously is very situation dependent. Okay. And he cannot generalize his good behavior to school. Right. Maybe the school, there's something going on that is like not helping him. Maybe there's too little structure, too much structure. You need to ask the teacher about what's going on there or, you know, he's not actually ready for mainstream school and he needs a little more help maybe with a shadow teacher, whatnot. Okay, about the dad coming home, you need to see what Daddy is. Okay? Is what I mean by that. Okay, what Daddy is, is that. Is he. Is he someone that triggers bad behavior? Like, is he a negative stimulus? Is he something that doesn't help the situation? What is he doing at home that is triggering all this crying? You have to think about it. Does he talk? Is it the moment he goes in? I cannot. I cannot help with that. Maybe it's because dad is more lenient and he's trying to get something for him. Since he doesn't lessen, he doesn't teach him. Right. That's what you mean. Okay, so you have to know why in order to deal with it. I cannot tell you right now. All right, for the school. Ask the school teachers. See if he's really ready, and talk to your therapist about it who knows him better. Okay? That's the best advice I can give right now. Okay? So Agnes says, so my son echoes. When I talked to my husband, he wants to join a conversation, but I didn't understand how can I help him? Okay, cool. So basically, your child wants to be. Wants to play adult, wants to be at your level, talking, wants to be like you, wants to be really cool, like, I don't know, he wants to join the cool gang, which is you and your husband. But he doesn't know what's going on. So he just, like. He just echoes just to, like, fit in. Right? So what you can do in this situation is that you can tell him what to say to fit in the situation so he can echo that word that you give him. All right? So when he does follow that, you should praise him for, you know, saying the right word. All right, well, let's say that you guys are talking about something. You should include him in the conversation and tell him what to say. When he says what you tell him to say, you praise him and say, good boy. But whenever he echoes, echoes anything else, then you ignore him because it's not his turn to talk anyway. So that's that. Nabil says, I think you've asked this question somewhere before, and you mean, like, talk taking a pause in between words? Or is it in between syllables? If it's in between syllables, I would say you use a Q by, like, putting your. Your finger here and tell them to say the whole word in one go. For instance, if you say cable, some children will stop in the middle and say, cable. Cable. Like that. So you. You. What you need to do is, like, you need to cue him and tell him, okay, go smoothly like this. Cable. Cable. And let him try. Okay. If you're talking about pauses in between words or like, I don't know, in between words or sentences or phrases, how disruptive is that in order, like according to your language? Because in English is very disruptive. In Chinese, not so much, I would say. So if you don't want them to pause, you might want them. You might have to do something that is very unnatural, which is clap out the syllables to make them faster. Right. Clap out the syllables to make them faster. Right. So you can either clap in a beat and the word follows, or you clap with each syllable like that, so that the pause gets shorter and shorter. Okay. But in doing that, you will cause them to talk like a robot a little bit. And you have to think about how to fade it. And the good way to fade it is tapping. All right, so that's the first step. See if that helps. Right, okay. So Yan Ng says, my son doesn't talk yet. Is it advisable to send him to school? How old is he? Right. I don't know. How old is he? If he's three, then is this kindergarten? It's fine if it's primary school. No. Okay. England Engling. I think, I hope the new membership plan, the few will be affordable. Yeah, I'm thinking it will be very affordable. I mean, look at, look at the, look at the micro course. It's cheap, so it will be affordable because it's, you know, like working in this field is not about, like making a lot of money. If I wanted to, then I would have done something else or charge a lot more. But the, the thing about the fee is to obviously to. And to. To make parents more committed, obviously, number one. Number two is to pay for all the costs that come with it. And number three is that when parents are committed, you will have more higher quality people that are inside that will help you along the way and you make good friends. This is already happening in the micro course some way somehow. And definitely amongst my private clients who are on WhatsApp and stuff Nabil says in between words. Yeah. So do the clapping, do the tapping. See if it works first. Okay. And then I would say clap for each word, not for each syllable, since it's in between words, not syllables. Right, so Yang says three. Yes. Okay, so if he doesn't talk, try to. You can try. You definitely can try to kindergarten. Maybe it will stimulate him somehow. All right. Yay. Okay. Interested? Join pme. If you're interested to join the mic, not the micro course. My God. Micro Course, you can just join here, but pme, if you're interested in joining as a founding member, as the first users of this beta membership monthly ongoing thing and price will be set on forever as long as you stay inside, of course. And that's probably it. Guys, let me just answer the one last question. It's actually not really a question, it's a statement. It says my daughter have words but she don't have conversation. Well, you have to find something that you guys have a common interest in or at least you know, you know, focus on your child's interests and then at least have her initiate words and comments and talk to you herself first before thinking about conversations. Okay. Conversations are hard, are very difficult, especially for those who are on the spectrum. Speech delayed. It takes some time. Okay, so that's all for tonight. Thank you all for like hearing me out for like 10 minutes plus about like my, my, my goal and vision and thinking about how to help you guys the most if you're inside the, the membership that the members Facebook group. Right. I've been asking about you guys. What is the best thing I can do for you? And most of you guys answered that. Oh, the best thing is that, you know, you can upload videos to me and I watch and I give feedback. So I, I'm planning to do that on, on, on a huge scale. Right. So that I can leverage both of our times and you guys can learn from each other. And at the same time, yeah, PM like just pme I, I, I, I cannot go through and PM everyone because it goes to your something in your other inbox. So PM me, go to my page or go to my Facebook profile and talk to me, message me, tell me about it and I'll ask you some questions about what's going on with your child and everything and see if it's good fit. Then we can probably make it happen. So thanks everyone for tuning in. Thank you, Agnes. Please PM me, guys. Yeah, pme. Pme. Cool. And then we're probably going to launch it at the middle of March and then close it so that no one else can join. And I will focus my efforts in serving you and giving you the help you need. Hopefully. Fingers crossed. Beta. And then we will start in April. Okay. And we'll close it off. Only us inside the membership. You, you can send me as many videos, learn from me as much. I will try my best to give you the results you want. That's my promise. I will try my best and give you the service that I'm giving you to the private clients right now, which is. I'm not accepting anyone, by the way. And we're gonna do it. All right? And if it works, we'll open it to the general public, and the price will be higher than how. Than of what you joined. And it will only go higher because as more people go in, the server gets clogged up. Everything becomes more and more expensive. On. On my end, not on your end. Okay. So thanks, everyone. I'll see you next Monday night at 9pm if you are residing in Southeast Asia. Otherwise, if you're in USA, that is in the morning. Okay. Which is like, probably nearly 10am right now. Est. So see you guys. Thank you. PME about the membership. And that's all. Thanks.