speech delay advice you don't want to hear | www.agentsofspeech.com/micro

Hey, everyone. Going live haphazardly here. And the reason why is because I just wrote an email to people who follow me on. On email. Basically, I don't know what it's called, a newsletter or something. And what I want to talk about here is the advice you don't want to hear. Okay? The reason why I decided to talk about this is because basically yesterday I was looking on Facebook and then I saw about this post and asked, hey, is it a good investment to like, buy an online course from a certain speech therapist? Not me. Okay. And they're pretty big, much bigger than I am. And the reason why I want to talk about it is because the reviews weren't great. And it's not like I don't think the advice was good. It's just because it's easy stuff. It's rather basic stuff. And nowadays in this day and age, you search on the Internet, you can get a lot of. Okay. And the reason why it hasn't been, you know, parents don't like that kind of easy advice, such as, you know, going eye to eye level, you know, pause when you speak, speak slower, whatever. What's that? Let the child lead. Which is I talk about this as well, right. And because of their fame and like, how big their following is when they give this type of advice at that kind of cost, meaning like around $100 USD, it's a little let down. Okay. And the reason why, let me defend them a little bit is because they need to give out information that is, quote, unquote, evidence based. You know, it needs to be well published and researched that this stuff works and then they can show you. Right. Whereas for me, most of the time I'm talking from my experience. Okay. Some of it obviously is evidence based or else I wouldn't be a speech therapist. Right. The other parts are that, you know, I learned from other people. I learned from mothers as well. You know, people who are great at teaching their own children. I learned from them. I learned from, like, occupational therapists. I learned from ABA therapists. I learned from nearly everyone. And these things, you know, these are advice you don't want to hear because it's hard. It's hard to do it. It's really hard to get your child to sit down and teach them over and over again. You know, it's stuff that you don't want to listen to. Is when I tell parents this is how it should be, they give up in one month. You know, as a matter of fact, before we had the micro course, I was teaching parents One on one. And most of them didn't last for a whole month, you know, and the reason is because it's advice they didn't want to hear, basically because it was too damn hard, okay? It was too crazy to expect a parent to do so much. And therefore, that's why on the Internet right now, there's this kind of easy to digest fluffy advice that isn't like, it's not hard advice, it's soft advice. I mean, if you don't understand why you should pause between speech, you know, and you do it a few times, you're going to think that's absolutely useless, right? You're going to still going to fall back into asking questions and keep on prompting your child to speak, which is what I don't like about and what I'm trying to teach you about. Maybe it's just free on YouTube, maybe it's already inside our micro course, right? But these are the things you have to learn, okay? It's a, it's a muscle, it's a skill that you need to develop, okay? And you might tell me, okay, I don't get it. I can just get a therapist to take care of my child, right? I've talked about this many, many times, right? I talked about how, okay, even if you have a lot of money, even if you have a lot of resources and people are available in your town and your therapist can come to your home, or you could throw your child, not throw, okay, but you know, bring them to a therapy center for extended period of time and the therapist is doing a good job and they're improving. So what, you know, people leave the city, people get married, people, you know, life gets in the way. You know, someone gets sick or someone or something, right? They have to take care of other people, okay? Your child is important, but it's not number one in their life. In my life as well. I love my clients. I love my students. They, you know, they really bring joy to, you know, my work. I, I really like it. But at the same time, when I leave, when I have to go somewhere, it's not, it's one of the least things I would put inside my consideration. I wouldn't say like, hey, oh man, I'm not going to move here because, you know, I've got a bunch of students here. Yes, it's my responsibility, but there's students all over the world, man, you know, so isn't that my responsibility too? So what I'm trying to say is you cannot possibly think that there's, you can rely on someone who will help you for the rest of your child's life. Okay? That's what I mean. That's why you have to equip yourself with all the things you need to know as a parent. It's not easy. It's definitely not easy. It's easy for me to say because I'm not a parent. I don't have a child on the spectrum or someone who's speech delayed. I don't get it. Right. But I've seen it enough times that, you know, parents don't want me to leave. Don't, you know, want me to, you know, come to the house and help them out for an extended period of time. Someone offered me to go to another country, you know, to do the therapy work, and, you know, have not. Not other country, other city. Okay? To cover my expenses and spend a long time there. Right. That would be unfair to a lot of people, first of all. Second of all, it's not something I want to do. So the really hard stuff I need to tell you right now is that you, as the mother or the father, you are the one who is responsible 100% of the time. All right? Yes. I'm going to teach you the ways to do it. Yes. There are other people who will tell you what to do, but you're the person who needs to do it. Okay? Just the other day on our Facebook group, if you haven't joined our Facebook group, you should join our Facebook. Just type speech delay support group by Ming Fung. That's my name. And you'll find it. And the parent was saying, okay. So they were in Canada, and the therapists there didn't give direct contact to the child and just told parents to, like, do the stuff with instruction. Right? They're like, okay, now do this, now do that. They never demonstrated. That sucks. Okay? I'm telling you straight up, that's not how you should teach a parent to do anything. You should need a. You need to give feedback. You need to demonstrate. You need to tell them why you're doing that. You need to show them a few times, and then you let them do it. That's how you become better at it. Okay? And definitely for you, it really, really sucks because I've gone through training, you know, I've gone through, you know, nearly losing my first job as a therapist, believe it or not. Actually, it's not that hard to believe, and I learned those skills. But for you, you know, it's. It's. It's a job for me. I can just quit. But for you, it's not a job. It's your. It's who you are, right? It's like you are the mother for the rest of your child's life, and there's no easy way out or there's no nowhere to hide. Basically, you must do it, okay? And that's why this kind of advice around the Internet is growing. It's like, oh, people don't know about parent education, about speech delayed children. You know, like, parents don't understand. Well, I'm quoting other therapists here, right? Oh, you have to get down to the level. You have to narrate when you play with them. You have to do all these, like, language facilitation things, which I do talk about too, by the way. These are great advice, but it's not strong enough. You know, you need to get stuff done. Maybe it's because I'm from, like, a Chinese background, I'm from Hong Kong, where if I don't give results to the parent, they will leave. You know, I was working on a road in Hong Kong as my first job. You know, the whole road was basically speech therapists with, like 10 to 20 years of experience. I was the one who had like one or two years, which was crazy, by the way. So if they didn't, I didn't provide results to the parents right away to the child and I can show them, then I lose that client and I lose a portion of my income, you know, So I am. I am positive that I know how not to waste time with children. And what I mean by wasting time is to tell you fluffy advice that. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, Just, you know, talk to them when you play, even if they're not looking, they're like, oh, whatever. And you're trying to get their attention by, like, talking about what's happening. That is slow stuff. You want fast advice, meaning hand you like. A lot of therapists would give me a lot of, you know, with a better lack of a better word, a lot of crap for saying this, okay? You have to bribe them, right? You have to reward and incentivize them to want to talk to you, okay? They have. They already are trying to see how much they can control you. You know, any therapist will tell you they are testing you out. You know, they are seeing where your bottom line is. They're trying out how much they can get away with. Can they pull your hand so that they don't need to talk? We were talking on the last live on Monday, and we were talking about how children pull hands, right? Well, the thing is, the thing is they are always trying to test you out, okay? They are always trying to see what's the. What's the easiest way around it and get what they want, all right? So you have to remember that, okay? And if you want this kind of advice, like, straight in your face, there's no whatsoever. I'm not that kind of mother speech therapist on the Internet who like, oh, I'm a mother too. That's why I can tell you. No, I'm not. I'm just someone who tells you if you do this, you'll probably get these results. You know, that's what I am, okay? That's what kind of therapist I am. I'm a very straight to the point guy. And the reason is, as I told you, if I don't get the results, people leave, right? So listen, if you want this, you can go to agentsofspeech.com micro the somewhere, and you will get this straight to the point advice. And the reason why I made this right, people to say that my advice is useless because, you know, I'd be so sad and I don't want to do this anymore. Right? I can make a lot more money and seeing clients, you know, even though it's the Corona, like life right now, I can make a lot more. But it's not about the money. It's about, you know, being able to tell you what to do at home so that, you know, I don't need to work, I don't want to work. In fact, I want you to feel less stressed and get to the point. And your point, sorry. And your child needs to feel very relaxed and happy and excited to work with you, which is very difficult if you're trying to balance between, like, pushy and them being happy, you know, it's very difficult. But you can actually do both if you know how to motivate them. Right? So it's not hard because at the end of the day, you are smarter than the child. And a lot of times parents tell me, and this is something really hard pill to swallow as well, parents will tell me, oh, my child's so fast. They always like, snatch it and they run away and they're so hard to handle. Well, the thing is, the thing is you're stronger than them, you're taller than them, you're faster than them, okay? There's no excuse around it. If you can't do it, it's because your technique isn't there yet. You don't have the skills necessary to get them to do what you want. And a lot of times you are bullied. Like, not you, but parents in general are bullied by children. I've been bullied by children bullying. My. My word. Right? So if you are not careful of that, it will become a habit and it will be difficult to come back from. Okay? It's all about building good habits. It's all about good. Building good habits, how to teach children. So if you want to learn that the basic stuff is that agents of speech.com micro. All right. I do not talk about that kind of easy. Basic advice that parents love to hear. You know, talk slowly, you know, be friendly, always smiling. Sit next to them on the floor. Have quality interaction. None of that. Just get it done. Just get them talking first and then we can start playing. Right? Don't even think about having a good time when they just sit there and ignore you. What's the point? You know, that's how I feel. But no one really says about anything about that. You know, it seems like table tasks are exclusively reserved for therapists and not for parents. That's not true. You should do some table tasks or else it'll be super hard for you to teach anything. Okay. If you. If you can't even get your child to sit down with you, I don't think there's much you can do. All right? There is a limit to how much you can talk and, you know, get them to the level and give them language input or whatever, you know, it as, you know. So enough of me just ranting on and on and on about what's. What's on my mind. And I just made this live video real quick just to talk about what I learned basically yesterday after, like, going around on Facebook and stuff. So, yeah, go to agentsofspeech.com Michael if you haven't. And leave me a question or leave me a comment about what do you think? Like, is it really difficult right now for you at home? Because, you know, during corona, it's very difficult to find therapy. Right. And the other thing is, do you have any questions regarding how to teach a child? Just tell me if you haven't. This. This live is on the group as well. Right? But if you're not in the Facebook group, just go to Facebook and search parents of speech Delayed children support group by main phone. Right. And then, you know, tell me, talk to me about your situation. All right? Don't say, oh, my. My child is 6 year old and has speech delay. Please help. I cannot. Tell me about, like, how much they can say, like, do they like playing toys? Is the articulation, the pronunciation good? Can they follow what you say? Did they like going to school? These kind of things can tell me what to say, suggest to you and tell me the problem behavior. Do they throw toys? Do they bite stuff? Do they like drool? Do they like not eat all the time? Do they like try to like kick you or hit you or whatever? Just tell me, okay? Describe more and I will be able to help more. But the basic advice, everything that I would suggest you to do right now is in the micro course. So go check out that link. And thank you so much for tuning in. I will have to go now. Goodbye.