Tip Toeing = Autism?

All right. Hey, guys, this is ming here from agentsofspeech.com let's talk about tiptoeing. Okay, so recently I've been doing some consultations over the Internet, and basically, parents are telling me that they're. They're really scared of tiptoeing. And the reason is because if you search online, you will see red flags of autism. What are they? You know, tiptoeing, eye cornering, stimming, hand flapping, you know, not responding to name, no eye contact, all these things. So we talked about a lot about, like, eye contact, responding to name, all those. If you don't, if you want to learn about those, just search within our channel or like a Facebook page or whatever with those keywords like eye contact, sensory problem, so on. So tiptoeing, it is something that is related to autism. And the reason is because of sensory problems and sensory problems is something that I, as a speech therapist, cannot really provide much insight into. But what I can tell you is that. And this is what a lot of parents would want to hear is that tiptoeing does not equal to autism automatically, right? There are loads of different symptoms. There are loads of different things that point towards autism, right? It's not a single point that points to autism. If you watch what's the biggest red flag of autism in one of our videos, right? I point out, I. I point out that the biggest red flag that leads to autism is the lack of socializing, right? Is that you see that they are. They don't understand the reason behind socializing, right? They don't. They don't want to. They don't have the need to. And they. They. They don't feel like it. They don't like it, right? So tiptoeing is part of it. And it's because autistic people, they have a different sensory profile than us, right? So you'll see hypersensitivity in the mouth. That's more to do with my profession. You see hypersensitivity in terms of, like, their whole body when you touch them. That was a kid that I used to work with. Whenever I stopped him from running away, he would cry. And it wasn't because I was stalking him, was because the excess of physical contact, right? So that's. That's something you have to be careful about. A lot of parents will say, well, how about this? If they're. They can't do it, I'll do it until they allow me. And, you know, as a. As a cat dad, as a. As a parent of a Cat. I can tell you that if, if someone, if a cat doesn't like you being like you're holding him or her, then at the end of the day, you're going to, you're going to be the one who gets scratched. So why are you doing in the first place? I always ask that to myself, but I just like holding my hands. So it might be the same case with you and your kid. Oh, I like hugging my child, you know? Well, the, the thing about, like, sensory and preferences and also what we call tactile defensiveness, it comes from the fact that the person has been too forward with advances. So therefore, when people have a bad experience with things, they tend to shy away when it happens. Right. They tend to go like, ah, no, I don't want to do anymore. Right. So it's the same. It's the same. So you don't want to go into it and try to make them be more custom, be accustomed to those sensory problems. Right. I've talked about, like, cutting hair, talked about wearing a face mask. All these are the same. All right, how about tiptoeing? Tiptoeing by itself, by nature, is quite, you know, if, if I see children who tiptoe 10 of the time, it's not too much of a big deal. It's not, it's not like, oh, man, I, I gotta check out this kid and he needs to go get an autism diagnosis. That's not what I see. At the very least, you know, if I see, like a kid who's always tiptoeing that, you know. Yeah, I, I do. I, I don't think it's autism. I know that he needs to go to. Or she needs to go to OT and work on, and work on those things. Right? And work on, and work on those. Sorry, that's the wrong thing. And work on their sensory. Right. Work on their vestibula, whatever. I might be using the wrong term. I'm not an occupational therapist. So at the end of the day, you need to find some other profession. Who knows, right? I was talking to a mother, like, long, long time ago, a mother who was an ot. Her son was on the spectrum. And I asked her, hey, how do you teach? How do you get rid of, you know, tiptoeing? And then the reason I was asking, because I've seen what I've seen is that a lot of. I've seen a client who was tiptoeing so much that damaged their, their muscle structure. And we're talking about, like 24, 7. They're tiptoeing and that's why this, the bone and the, and the muscle got really tense and the bone structure changed. And you know, structurally speaking, they will never walk the same anymore. Right. And they will always walk like that or like it really affects that child's mobility. Right. So we're not taught. This is an extreme case. And she said, you got to diagnose the underlying problem. So I can't tell you right now how to deal with it because I'm not that kind of. I'm not that kind of therapist. Right? That's. That's the first thing, right. Second of all, second of all is after finding the root problem, you have to keep on, you need to keep on, go going at it. So, so one of the adult students that I have, she needs to use like a, like a heavy backpack to push herself down in order to be on the ground. But at the same time, that's not really dealing with the situation. Right? That's just putting a band aid on. You know, putting a band aid on the wound, it doesn't solve anything. So maybe it's because of, it might be because of their vestibular needs, right? It might be because of their other sensory needs or because they have some muscles that we. I have no idea at this point. But what, what this video is, is trying, what I'm trying to tell you in this video is that, you know, if a child is tiptoeing, it doesn't mean that they're on the spectrum. It means that they have a sensory need. Whether, you know, like, that's autism related or not is not the, the question, because we want to solve it. If it's something that is affecting a child's, like, live, like life, right? And they're always bouncing and stuff, and it's going to hurt their, their legs in the long run. What you should be worried about is not whether or not they're on the spectrum is why are they tiptoeing? What's the sensory motor reason behind this phenomenon? And you have to go ahead and solve it, because if you don't solve it, what's going to happen is that it's going to become really hard to solve in the long run. You know, like, and I see a lot of parents just, they cannot deal with the child rejecting, like, rejecting their teaching, their advantage, the advances to, to stop certain behaviors. Right. So at the end of the day, I think I've covered the, the subject today about whether, like, tiptoeing is autism or not. It is not right to be very Frank, with you, it's. It's not so. Although I know if I say it's like, don't worry, that's not going to help, right? Because that's what mothers do. They think about their child all the time, right? And to say that I understand is understatement, because I do not. Emotionally speaking, it's super hard. Right? Even the smallest symptoms will make you scared. So what I want you to understand and you know, if you follow me for some time, you know that I'm very practical and I talk about, like, what to do in situations. So in this situation, you really need to see occupational therapist, right? And maybe you need help with a physiotherapist as well. And if you ask me, I cannot be of much service other than giving you some behavioral, behavioral tactics to help ease the symptoms. But to find out exactly what the reason is, you need a diagnosis. And you know, like, you might say, ming, dude, you always say that diagnosis doesn't matter. Well, I'm talking about whether what you need to do in terms of. To get them to a better language level, to get them to a better language level is almost always the same stuff. But if we're talking about, like, physiological stuff, you really have to know exactly why. All right, so hopefully this live has been useful for you. It's just a really short chat that I want to do just to respond to some questions I got over on private consultations. And I, I see some of you guys are asking in the PMs and DMS about like, oh, I want a consultation and stuff. First of all, yes, it's paid. Second of all, I might not be seeing these messages. I usually. Our staff will go through it and let me know. 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