Short YouTube parenting-advice video by Ming @ Agents of Speech about handling attention-seeking tantrums. Ming explains that ignoring a tantrum is useful only when the child seeks attention, clarifies that 'ignoring' means withdrawing attention (not neglecting safety), and advises checking whether removing attention causes escalation to determine if the tantrum is attention-seeking.
And the third thing is attention seeking. So attention seeking is something that within our industry and if you Google and stuff, you will see a lot of people like, oh, ignore the tantrum, let's see what happens, right? Whilst ignoring is a good method, it's only a good method when your child wants attention. The reason why we try to ignore is to single out is to take away that attention from your child first, not meaning. If some people get me wrong when I say I remove my attention and ignore the child's tantrum, that's very different from not caring, right? So if I see that they're in danger, I'm gonna go safe, but I'm not gonna encourage and empower that attention seeking behavior. The only way that you will know is by removing your attention. If you remove your attention and the tantrum escalates, then obviously this might be attention seeking activity like a tantrum.
