Ming argues that raising your voice repeatedly teaches kids to ignore you until you get angry. Instead, pair requests with real consequences or praise so they respond to your actual words, not your volume.
A lot of times moms keep on saying, hey, do it now. He's annoying you. The reason why he's doing it is because he wants you to stop annoying him. That's the wrong reason to actually go through. You want him to do it because he wants to and he has no other choice. If you're telling them to do something or you want to get the response for no particular reason and you want them to do something with no consequence, no praises, that's not going to work. Because most of the time what parents would do is get louder now, louder. And that's teaching the child that the louder you get, the more irritated you sound. The more times you say it, it means that he's supposed to do the thing when you hit a certain volume, when you hit a certain irritation level, when you hit a certain number of times of repetition, right? That's why when they see you irritated, some kids are actually happy. They laugh and they do the opposite, right?
