Short advice clip by Ming (Agents of Speech) arguing that repeatedly quizzing a child conditions them to ignore the parent. Uses analogies (car siren, trapped lift) to show how unchangeable background stimuli become ignored. Recommends parents give clear, actionable instructions so children know what to do rather than 'waiting out' repeated prompts.
You're teaching your child to ignore you. To ignore you means if you keep on quizzing your kid over and over and you don't get a response, what does that mean? Right. It means that whatever you say, it doesn't matter. And why does it not matter? It's like the car siren down there that you have no control over, or someone who's, like, trapped in the lift, and you're inside of your apartment hearing that buzz, there's nothing you can do, so it becomes background noise, and you learn to ignore it. Therefore, you don't want your child to think that way. You want them to think, why is it, my mom is asking me to do something? What should I do now? Like, they need to know exactly what they're supposed to do instead of just waiting it out. Okay, Okay.
