3 Ways to Control Angry Outbursts for Effective Communication Post-Divorce

It's totally normal for you to feel angry after your divorce. You're going through a grieving process, but the key is to process it in a way so that it doesn't control you. And there are 3 things that you can do for that. And the first one is to, when you feel that energy, that anger start to come up, hit pause, take a breath. And what I like to recommend is the 4-4-8 breathing technique. And what that is, is Breathing in for 4, holding the breath for 4, and then exhaling for 8. And that longer exhale helps to calm your nervous system down. Number 2: Move your body. Getting that physical activity really helps to release the emotions. One of the things that I really like to do, I just grab a pillow and I scream in the pillow until my throat is hoarse. And just the act of getting that energy and that emotion out of the body feels phenomenal. And then the third piece is to reflect, is to think about what's really behind the anger so you can understand it from a rational standpoint. But because you're going through the release of the emotion, you're also impacting your entire nervous system. And then from there, You can either choose to share with whoever the person is that angered you, but sometimes all you need to do is go through the process and that's enough for you to get a handle and manage the anger. So just remember this: anger is energy. All you need to do is channel it in the right way so it doesn't control you. And if you like this content, hit subscribe for more tips on thriving after divorce.