Alexandra NielDivorce Recovery Coach, ANiel International, LLC. · I help women who held it all together through divorce finally build a life that’s actually theirs | Thrive After Divorce

Divorce Grief Explained | Why Leaving vs Being Left Feels So Different

4 Sept 2025 · 0 min

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Alexandra Niel explains why divorce grief hits differently depending on who leaves. The person who initiates has already grieved the relationship's end; the person left behind starts grieving when the split happens.

It sucks when it happens, right? Even when you're the one who's leaving, right? Because what happens is if you're, if you're the one who wants the divorce, you've done your grieving before you ask for the divorce. If you're the one who's being left behind, your grieving starts from that moment, right? So there's a different grief, it's a different grief experience for the two people that are involved.