Alexandra Niel talks to people recovering from divorce about learning to love yourself first. She argues that building independence and shifting away from scarcity thinking opens the door to healthier relationships and lets you live on your own terms.
Do I want to live in that past that will never be, or do I want to— you know what, it's my life, I get to live it, and for the first time I can live it on my own terms. And then what is it going to take for you to be able to actually do that, right? So it starts with learning more about who we are, learning more about ourselves, learning to love ourselves so that we're not dependent on somebody else's love. To make us happy, we have to do that within ourselves first. And then once we learn to do that, we become much less, like we can stand on our own two feet and we then invite a different kind of relationship into our life than if we're approaching it from a place of, almost like from a place of scarcity. Right.
