Your first relationship is like training wheels for working through patterns you inherited from your parents, especially if they divorced. You need to do that internal work before you're ready for a healthier partnership.
I keep going back to what you said before about we work our parent stuff with our first relationship, right? And the image that came to my mind was training wheels, right? We have— it's like a starter relationship that we kind of work all this stuff out. Yeah, we learn, and then from there we can go on to have healthier relationships, right? And supportive relationships. But you got to get, you got to get that out somehow before— absolutely do— beforehand.
