Alexandra NielDivorce Recovery Coach, ANiel International, LLC. · I help women who held it all together through divorce finally build a life that’s actually theirs | Thrive After Divorce

From Self Sabotage to Self Awareness | Rewriting Your Story After Divorce

18 May 2025 · 1 min

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In this personal‑growth video, speaker Alexandra Niel reflects on her experience of emerging from a painful first marriage and divorce. She describes feeling like a "deer in the headlights," recognizing patterns of self‑sabotage and codependency that contributed to the failed relationship. By examining the role she played, investing in inner work, and shifting her mindset, she was able to transform her self‑perception. The narrative culminates in her second, 30‑year marriage, illustrating how sustained self‑awareness and personal development can rewrite one’s story after divorce. The video serves as both a testimony and a call to viewers to commit to self‑investment and emotional healing.

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is kind of what we're thinking about, we bring about, right? So you've got to get in the right mindset. And for me, coming out of my divorce years ago, I can say that now I'm 30 years married. So the second go around was successful, but the first go around coming out of it, you know, I literally was just kind of like left deer in the headlights. Oh my gosh, what's wrong with me? You know, all the self-sabotage and, and codependency. So I had to learn a lot about the role that I played in, in my divorce, um, or bad marriage, whatever you want to call it, whatever point you step into it. Yeah. Yeah. But the, but the thing being is that there is work that needs to be done. And if you're willing to invest in yourself and do that work.