Alexandra NielDivorce Recovery Coach, ANiel International, LLC. · I help women who held it all together through divorce finally build a life that’s actually theirs | Thrive After Divorce

How to Become Your Own Hero After Divorce

4 Feb 2025 · 2 min

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In this motivational monologue, the speaker reflects on watching the movie Wish and uses its theme to illustrate the difference between wishing for change and taking concrete action after a divorce. She acknowledges that divorce often triggers feelings of loss and grief, describing grieving as a necessary step toward healing. The core message is that the power to rebuild one’s life lies within the individual: by deciding to move forward, setting clear intentions, and committing to actionable steps, a person can reinvent themselves and create a future that feels alive. The speaker dismisses the need for external rescue (“knight in shining armor”) and instead urges viewers to ask themselves what they truly want and what practical steps can bring that vision closer. She ends with a call to action, inviting the audience to share one dream they’re ready to start pursuing in the comments.

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I went to see the movie Wish when I was home over the break with my niece. It was a very nice movie and it was an awesome reminder of while it's one thing to wish upon a star, it's another thing entirely to take action for making happen in our life the things that we want to make happen. After divorce, it's really easy to feel lost, to feel like everything's fallen apart, and that's perfectly normal. You have to go through that grieving process in order to be able to come out on the other side of it. But the truth is this: the magic, just like in the movie Wish, lies within you. You hold the key. When you decide that it's time, it will happen. All you have to do is make that decision. You have to give yourself the opportunity to grieve, and then you have to stake your claim. Because coming out of a divorce is a fabulous time for reinvention, for taking control of your life again, and for creating a future that makes you feel alive. Forget the knight in shining armor. You have that power. You have that control. So ask yourself two things: one, what do I truly want? And two, what steps can I take to get closer to that vision? Wishing is really powerful because it helps to set an intention. The action is what's going to bring your dream and your desire to life. So let me ask you this: what is one dream that you're willing to get started on? Let me know in the comments. I'd love to hear it.