Alexandra Niel warns that hyper-independence can mask unhealed trauma. She describes how relationship patterns repeat until you undo the subconscious programs underneath, and recounts being retraumatized by a scam that echoed past abuse by her stepfather.
And my huge message to anybody listening is, if you don't heal your childhood trauma, even if you think, I'm done, I'm, I don't want to think about it, I've, I'm over that, I'm independent— no, you're hyper-independent— I am strong, I can deal with all this, that will get you into trouble. It did me. What I want people to know is that these patterns repeat. When you have been divorced, you choose a different man in the same skin. Patterns repeat until we undo the subconscious program that is driving us to choose what we're choosing. And so this scam, it really was incredibly devastating, but I realized on the day 3 of being a zombie, I had a flash and I thought, 'Oh my goodness, I feel like I'm a child again.' And something in me went, 'You are. You're that 7-year-old again. And what he has done to you is what my stepfather did to me, but this time I'm an
