You're reactive more often than you notice, especially when you're being passive-aggressive. Once you catch yourself doing it, you can choose something different. Self-awareness is the gap where that choice lives.
Notice when you're being reactive. It's really easy to do and really easy to recognize in others, but not so easy to recognize in ourselves. So if you do feel that you're showing up and you are being reactive, or worse, being passive-aggressive, you have the ability to make a choice not to behave that way. So have that self-awareness to realize how you're presenting yourself and then do something about it.
