Alexandra Niel describes asking her husband monthly if he feels loved, using this to distinguish between men and boys in relationships. Men reciprocate care and want to support their partner's life. Boys are self-centered and treat the relationship like a mother-child dynamic, staying only while their needs are met.
I wrote an article, Men Don't Cheat, Boys Do. When I was married, I used to ask my husband every month, do you feel loved by me? And there were months where he'd said no. And I'd go, okay, I'll fix it. But every time I was married to a man and not a boy. So every time I did make him feel loved, he always gave me 150% more because men, men, not boys, are responsive. That distinction of a boy versus a man, and women need to know if they're married to a man or a boy. If they're married to a boy, they're going to treat them like they're— I'm your mother. But a boy says, I love you because you make me feel good, and as long as I feel good, I'll be with you, so you better do what I want you to do. A man says, I love you because I want to take care of you, provide for you, give you the best life you can.
